It’s easy to tell what a boyfriend or husband is thinking right after that goodbye kiss. He cherishes you, he loves you, he wants to remind you of your special bond. Or, maybe he enjoys being a husband and showing loving reassurances throughout the day.
So what in the world does it mean when a guy you like kisses you but there’s no relationship to speak of? Or if you are dating and a guy kisses you unexpectedly after a goodbye, what does that mean? Does that mean he wants to see you again? Or was it, perhaps, the “kiss of death”, as in “You’re more of a buddy than a girlfriend!”
The answer is, it depends on the type of kiss that it was and the timing of that particular event or date. Let’s consider some common scenarios involving guys and their confusing intentions after an unexpected kiss.
1. He kisses you goodbye on the lips…in front of others.
This is a bold move indeed! Kissing you on the lips is intriguing but doing it in front of other people is upping the ante. If he hardly know him then it might be a creepy thing to do!
But if you’ve flirted for a while and have both talked about dating, it may be him finally giving you a grand and romantic gesture. Learn how to get a guy to kiss you first to make this happen for yourself.
2. He kisses you quickly after a first date.
Guys sometimes feel funny about a first date kiss. If he senses mutual attraction and wants to be romantic and confident, he may go for a kiss. If he’s a little more hesitant then he may want to feel you out and make sure you want him to kiss you, before just assuming.
Now yes, it is possible that if you get a cold fish sort of kiss, or shall we say, a brotherly kiss, (you know the split-second lip graze) that he’s feeling nervous or just not that into you. Try to play this by ear…does he seem nervous but still excited to be near you? Is he avoiding eye contact because he’s shy? Or is he perfectly suave and confident AND just not feeling the kiss?
Sometimes this happens. If he feels a brother-sister vibe going on with you, then he won’t feel attracted and the kiss will be quick and platonic.
3. He kisses you on the cheek.
Cheek kisses are hard to interpret because it depends on the occasion. Some men are old-fashioned and might be following protocol or etiquette with a cheek kiss, especially if it’s a formal event.
But if he kisses you on the cheek after a casual gathering, a lunch date, or even a Netflix night, it’s generally a positive sign. It means he likes you, is fond of you as a friend, and respects you deeply. That’s all well and good…it shows you’re almost like family to him.
However, a cheek kiss is not necessarily a passionate kiss. Some people consider it either a “non-event” entirely (he didn’t actually kiss you for real) or perhaps a somewhat cowardly way for a guy to make a move on you. If he’s afraid of being rejected he might go for a cheek kiss.
Or maybe he’s seeing what you’ll do after the cheek kiss, and then follow up next time with a more romantic kiss.
Either way, don’t send him any negative signals. Encourage him to be affectionate as a friend…but wait until he makes the “big move” before assuring him you feel the same way.
4. He kisses you on the forehead.
Like cheek kisses, forehead kisses fall short of a romantic kiss. Some feel as if a forehead kiss is charming, old-fashioned, or maybe even a hipster thing to do. It’s the opposite of a lip kiss, which means you are emotionally connected to this person. It’s not just about sex or romance, but it’s about lifelong friendship, maybe even a connection of souls.
Again, this doesn’t necessarily mean he’s into you romantically. He may kiss you on the forehead because he feels sympathy for your loss, or your struggle, or may want to show how much he loves you…as a father, brother, or buddy.
See the problem? You’re really waiting for a lips kiss to follow up on the safer forehead kiss. But don’t underestimate the trust here. He really does trust you and like you, if you get a forehead kiss.
5. He kisses you on the hand.
For a formal event, hand kissing may be appropriate. However, in informal settings it’s a little unusual. It’s also becoming the rarity as of late, given social distancing trends.
Hand or wrist kissing could feel overly familiar, or too cheeky. He’s intentionally being coy, flirty, and a little daring. He may even look you in the eye as he kisses your hand, enjoying the sexual tension.
If you like the feeling, run with it. If he caught you off guard and you didn’t like the way it felt, then it’s possible he’s moving a little too fast for you.
6. He kisses you on the neck.
Another daring move! This is usually done by a boyfriend, or someone who’s already intimate and well acquainted with you. This is a rather brazen move if no trust has been established…although it’s also possible that he just mis-timed his lip kiss and accidentally landed his lips on your neck. Honest mistake!
Showing affection can be a complicated thing. What is once considered a landmark moment of romance and passion can deteriorate into formality after a few years. That’s why it’s important to always remember the passion, the spontaneity, and most of all, the emotional connection behind these acts of love.
The emotion behind these physical acts is what matters, whether before dating, while dating, or even after years of marriage. Ask yourself if you are, in fact, wearing some of your heart on your sleeve. Don’t hold back if you meet someone special. It’s time to embrace the emotional connection.
How to use a kiss to connect with his heart
Can I tell you a secret that most people don’t know?
And the people who do know, don’t usually think much about it…
Here it is…
Kissing is a language.
And it communicates at a very primal level.
It can tell a man’s mind to reach, hunger, and crave for more of your touch…
Or it can turn him off and dull his passion and excitement for you.
The question is…
What does your kiss say?
P.S. If you want to learn how to capture a man’s heart with your kiss…