You are a fixer upper of people. You want to repair this rift in the relationship and nurse your man back to his chipper self. But it’s important for you to remain grounded.
People are not like houses or computers, they’re not projects. Men are oftentimes illogical, despite their reputation for being logical creatures. You have to meet him just so - halfway and no more.
Because as soon as you start venturing over to 51 percent, and 60 percent, and 90 percent of the relationship, you are slowly pushing him away for good.
If you scored 20-29 points you’ve noticed some definite symptoms of an ailing relationship. When you talk he is definitely not holding back.
He is expressing serious doubts. Even if he’s not talking about other women or moving out of state, he seems to doubt his entire life - if he’s even happy with this life, and you, and everything.
Commitment is not a pressing need to him right now. He may admit this or may be downright superstitious about discussing where this relationship ends. He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, which is good. But tact and respect don’t always amount to love.
He may be keeping secrets. He may even be hurting over his own emotional baggage, stuff that has nothing to do with you.
If he’s pulling away for his own personal reasons, you might be trying to fix an impossible problems. You can’t force him to love you and you can’t manipulate him to feel what he doesn’t feel. Now is the time for both of you to do some soul-searching and determine if the relationship has potential or if it’s just not .
If he can’t find happiness on his own, can you give him happiness? Of course not. His indecisiveness about conversation or making plans with you also speaks volumes.
If his heart is not in the relationship, then whether or not he’s pulling away at the moment is irrelevant. If he has such low self-confidence that he doesn’t even think he can make you happy, what can you say to that?
Besides, you know, I accept your decision. I really want a man who’s happy with me and confident that he deserves this relationship with me.
There is no normal marriage where the guy half-heartedly loves or makes the bare minimum effort to keep his mate happy.
Maybe in sitcoms that happens but not in real life. When his mind is elsewhere, the relationship stalls. Not even common interests can keep you together. It’s all for show at this point.