You are a modern major general, always strategizing, and in this case, maybe anticipating an end game when there is no need for one.
Maybe you’ve lived your entire life always planning one step ahead, or even anticipating the worst case scenario. If you’ve ever been in a dysfunctional relationship or watched your parents make these same mistakes, it’s easy to understand why.
But you have to look at the signs, and not let your imagination get carried away. True, it hurts to be rejected without warning, especially when it’s a man you trust. But you also have to give him the benefit of the doubt. Don’t assume the worst just because you notice something is going on.
If you scored 19 points or less, then you know by now that his actions speak louder than these off-days. He confides in you about what’s bothering him. He is stressed because of circumstances but always reminds you that you are his future.
It might be in your nature to fear his independent streak, but try to remember that a man’s independence is oftentimes his most attractive feature. You liked him when you first met him, the way he was, and you trusted him enough to start a friendship. It’s time to keep trusting him.
Little things matter, like the fact that he doesn’t harp on negative things. The fact that he wants to take his time in the relationship is poignant. He knows a good thing can’t be rushed. When he wants his independence, it’s not to meet other women or go on any juvenile adventures. He probably just has his own hobbies, his rituals, that help him to calm down and feel replenished.
If he keeps busy and continues to be the smart and amazing guy he’s always been, then just remind yourself that he’s a great catch and you TRUST HIM because of those same qualities. Give yourself permission to be happy, rather than doubting what are good signs.