Have you ever been chatting with a guy online and things seem to be going well...but then he suddenly disappears from the face of the earth?
Or even worse, you actually go on a few dates, and you like him, but he eventually stops returning your calls, texts, and in-person dates.
They call this ghosting and sadly, a lot of people, men and women, do this.
Why? Because it’s not always easy to tell a person face to face, “I don’t think this is going to work out.”
Some people don’t take it very well and a lot of people just try to avoid conflict whenever possible. So they ghost to avoid the conversation.
Ghosting isn’t going to stop so let’s review 8 reasons why guys do it… and at the end I’m going to tell you what to do if you want to reconnect with a guy who does this to you.
There’s a fairly good chance that a guy might simply ghost you for a miscellaneous reason that has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with bad timing.
Remember you’re not always at fault when this happens.
People value things that they have to work for and are invested in.
And if he never invested or he didn’t feel enough desire to want to invest, it’s easy for him to walk away.
If a guy doesn’t feel like you’re someone he wants to be with for a long time, he might only be interested in something physical with you.
And if he feels like it’s not worth it to hook up, he might just disappear. Think of this as him doing you a favor though because this wasn’t going anywhere, anyway.
Now let’s get down to it! If you know for a fact that this guy was into you and then he went cold fast, there is definitely a reason.
Oftentimes it is because he feels the NEED to be intimate and vulnerable and yet is afraid of doing so.
He’s afraid of confronting himself, his own needs and wants. He is either rebounding, recovering from some past trauma, or maybe he never LEARNED how to be intimate with someone emotionally.
Whatever the case, he might just like you too much for his own comfort, as strange as that sounds.
Sometimes you really do dodge a bullet. People with classical Narcissistic personalities or sociopathic personalities oftentimes ghost people, dump lovers, and betray their friends for no other reason than complete self-absorption.
This type of guy (usually very charming and talkative at first) is only aware of people who can help him, serve him, or provide something for him. Don’t take it personally.
Now it’s time to get personal. If you’ve been dating a guy a while and the ghosting is gradual, then it is possible he felt you were smothering him with too much attention. Some guys really do want their independence.
That’s why they can't handle it, if a woman starts to plan out their lives, worry about them too much, or somehow limit their freedom. If you sense he’s backing away slowly, then back away too as soon as possible. Give him that space. Let him lead in the relationship so that he works for your attention and not the other way around.
First impressions are sometimes dishonest. Sadly, they’re not always fair. But if he thought you were a different type of woman than you actually are, you can’t blame him for wanting something different.
In the end, it’s better not to get mixed up with a guy who doesn’t want the “real you.” Don’t change and don’t try to fake it. You want someone who appreciates the reality of you, and not just a fantasy.
Lastly, let’s be very honest and admit that sometimes love is not fair and it’s just too competitive for comfort. Sometimes it all comes down to choices.
If he’s dating more than one person, he might like someone else better and that’s why he gives her more attention, eventually phasing out all the other options.
It sucks when this happens, but again, don’t settle on a guy who gives you anything less than his FULL attention.
You don’t want a man that’s distracted by someone else, right?
Let him go and look for better quality next time.
If you’re tired of men pulling away from you and you want to know how to make him want to come back and never leave again…
Here’s the secret…
In order for a man to come running back to you, he needs to feel two things...
The first one is REGRET for pulling away in the first place.
If you attack or punish him for pulling away, you’ll only make him want to pull away further.
Instead, you want him to feel like coming back to you is more pleasurable than being away.
The second thing you want him to feel is like HE MISSES YOU.
He can’t miss you if you smother him with calls and messages.
Apologizing, trying to see if he’s mad at you, seeing if he’s okay…
This only makes him feel like he needs more space.
There’s a 4 word text message that will make him feel both of these things when you send it to him.
If you’d like to hear what the text message is, click the link below right now to watch a video I put together about it...
Talk soon,
Matthew Coast
P.S. If you want a relationship where a man loves you, sees you, and cherishes you, then you need to watch this video...