Let’s talk about Cancer man – no, not talking about the X-Files villain, but rather the astrological cancer sign, born between June 21 and July 22. Symbolized by the crab, this man is truly a sea and shore kind of guy, focused on material pursuits as well as emotional needs.
Unlike more career-focused signs, cancer men are known to be very intuitive, internal, and almost “psychic” in their ability to read the emotions of other people. The reason being, they are very sensitive to energy as well as what they observe in the environment.
At the same time, they are very protective of their own life and emotional well-being, even defensive at times. This may give you the impression that Cancer is a cold or distant lover, if he’s interested in you at all. But the key is patience.
It’s fairly common for a Cancer sign to back away from you, even after the relationship is getting hot. Whether you’ve already slept together, or just flirted a lot, or have never really openly flirted, the result is the same. He backs away and you’re left confused as to whether there was anything there to begin with.
Your intent then is also the same. Get Cancer to miss you, which will jumpstart the attraction and interaction once again. Here are a few ways to get back his attention.
1. Make sure he understands how you feel about him.
While Cancer IS by nature distant and protective of their time, sometimes they just need further clarification about this friendship. He wants to be clear how you feel about him before he admits his own feelings about you. Acting ambiguously towards Cancer doesn’t help, nor does responding unpredictably, or playing mind games. Cancer is already defensive enough so showing respect to his emotions and being clear about your intentions will help.
2. Prove yourself worthy of a longtime friendship – that can always progress into romance later.
With Cancer, sometimes you have to be happy with being friends first. Cancer man does take some time getting to know, as he has family responsibilities and a somewhat private life compared to other signs. Don’t accelerate the romance too quickly if he’s not ready for it. Be a good friend first and get to know him, while you share information about yourself. Earn his trust over time and be satisfied with his time frame of a gradual romance that takes some time to bloom. Cancer is unusually emotional, especially for a man, so you have to prove yourself a lifelong friend that won’t abandon him if things get complicated.
3. Appeal to his instincts to help you and care for you.
Cancer is motivated by a familial need to take care of his friends and crushes. If he doesn’t seem to have time for romance, you can still get his attention by letting him paper you, worry about you, and do kind things for you. Continue to do this in ways that are not overly taxing, and yet still get his attention. Eventually, he will feel the need to keep providing for you and will start to enjoy the romance associated with being your knight in shining armor.
4. Reassure him of your feelings and loyalty in case he has doubts.
Not only does Cancer need clear communication, but he also needs reassurance of your feelings and the friendship/relationship. He is, after all, the crab who retreats into his shell – not only when threatened but sometimes out of habit.
Reassure him with gestures that convey sincere emotion and that leave nothing too vague. Cancer will assume that you don’t like him if you let too much time go by. Physical expressions of reassurance are also expected once the relationship progresses to that intimate level.
5. Problem solve what went wrong and fix it.
If Cancer has backed away from you despite your best efforts to keep patiently in contact, it’s possible something is going wrong and you need to fix it. Cancer requires “troubleshooting” sometimes since he tends to hold grudges and may defensively go into hiding rather than confront you about the issue.
For example, he may need some alone time. Very often, Cancers are introverts. On the other hand, maybe you said something that offended him. Or maybe you’re the one that’s been cold to him and just don’t realize how sensitively he takes everything.
Cancer’s flaw is that he holds a lot inside rather than letting it out. He might hold back on telling you grudges or hurt feelings, or he may be experiencing health problems and doesn’t want to burden you with the anxiety. He might be having trouble at work and doesn’t think you’ll be interested in hearing about it.
While you might be right to think, “It’s not fair…why doesn’t he just tell me?” Bear in mind, he can’t easily change the kind of sensitive person he is.
6. Experiment with being a little more feminine and attentive to him.
To put it delicately, Cancer tends to be a controlling sort of guy! That’s one reason he might back away – because keeping up with you and trying to worry about you and protect you is proving to be too difficult. To some extent, you must accept that Cancer wants to be able to control you, just a little bit. Give him some illusion of control, or more specifically, give him the gift of worrying about you and allow him to make little decisions that will better protect you. He will feel better and probably more attracted to you if he gets the sense you want him to take care of you. It sounds a little weird, but it seems to work with Cancer.
You really have to learn Cancer man and find out HOW he misses you, what natural strategies seem to work on him. Playing mind games with him usually doesn’t work. He has serious trust issues to begin with. That’s why you have to appeal to his need to be part of your family and take care of you. Let him know that you’re going to be absent before you disappear and give him the love and tenderness he wants from you.
These are the tactics that work on him. He goes kind of nuts after very little stimulation, so focus on being loyal, being patient, and being the “wife in training” that he wants you to be. Lastly remember to communicate openly but NOT to expect too much from Cancer, since he is very much caught up in his own shell. Your patience is your virtue. And yes, of course, once Cancer falls for you it is truly a lifelong commitment.
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