He Doesn't Want a Perfect Girlfriend, He Wants This

How to Get a Guy to Chase You After You Chased Him

Here’s one of the most interesting questions I’ve been asked.

What if you do everything wrong the first time around, not having any experience with dating, and then realize your mistake…and try again?

Can it be done?

Is it possible to try again with a guy that you’ve chased, or that you’ve basically scared away (let’s just admit it!) and start all over again? Is it possible to just tell a guy, “Look can we start over? Forget everything I’ve ever said or done and let’s just start over. Hi I’m Amanda!”

Funny…but if that’s how you feel, I can relate. We’ve all done embarrassing things, said the wrong thing, and yeah probably chased people too hard because of youthful inexperience. And heck, sometimes even when we get older we make silly mistakes.

It’s a legitimate question. Is there a way to start over and make your crush forget about all that awkwardness, rejection and negative energy – you know, without one of those Men In Black memory eraser gadgets?

Well let’s start by focusing on the problem, which will actually help us find the solution. The problem was that you were chasing him and trying too hard. That sent strong negative signals that you’re trying to “sell him” on the idea of a romance. His natural inclination is to resist, especially the harder you try to flirt, get his attention and make small talk.

Therefore, the only logical way to fix the damage that’s already been done is to go in the opposite direction. Stop chasing him and focus on reversing the energy in the relationship. How can you do that, now that he’s “marked you” and thinks you like him more than he likes you?

Let’s consider 9 ways to turn a “runner” into a “chaser” by using simple strategies.

1. Give him time to be confused…let him wonder why you stopped.

You’ve made the best possible choice. Now he’s thinking about you because you went from all over him, to stopping completely. He wonders, by pure instinct at this point, why the change? That’s good. That’s where you want him. Let him sort out how he feels. Let him realize how he misses the attention.

2. Transform your lifestyle into a more successful and confident one!

What matters next is not what you say but what you show. Start working on yourself, working towards self-improvement so you can become more confident. This is what creates magnetism. Don’t bother talking to him again unless you have changed in at least one very noticeable way. Whereas some women like to get new haircuts or new hobbies, what’s truly impressive is an attitude adjustment, a positive change in lifestyle, and of course, success in achieving all your goals!

3. Be busier, NOT more available.

If you want him to chase you for a change, don’t always be available to take his call. In fact, do the opposite. Be less available, stay busy with the rest of your life, and put him on the back burner so to speak. He will immediately sense when he has become a second priority. That will provoke him to feel jealous and possibly motivate him to start working for your attention.

4. Whenever you do show interest, do so as a friend, not a potential date.

Don’t bother sending him any more signals because that obviously didn’t work the first time. Instead, treat him a platonic friend. Don’t be cold or petty. Showing friendship is the kindest thing you can do and the sneakiest thing you can do all at the same time. He’ll wonder how you feel about him and will not get a clear answer in return. He likes that.

5. Mysteries demand to be solved! Be mysterious!

If you really want to talk about what causes a “chase” in the first place, it’s the incentive, the desire for the chaser to get what they want. If you want someone to chase you in conversation, then simply avoid giving them what they want. Instead, avoid giving them direct and boring answers and instead tease them with partial answers or more questions. This attitude of mystery is what makes him want to know, what makes him work harder to get that information that he now wants twice as much.

In addition to coyly answering questions, you can also try to do the opposite of what he predicts you might do. You want him wondering “Who is this new person? She’s changed!” Because that will appeal to his curiosity.

6. Make an effort to be more attractive on the outside and on the inside.

As much as possible, try to dress up whenever you see him and post only your best photos. But don’t stop there…work on finding inner happiness because that’s how you project real confidence. When you are happy from the inside out, you exude love and you wear an attractive smile that brings men forward like a magnet.

7. Don’t be afraid to flirt lightly, but leave the major come-ons to him.

Don’t be so afraid that you come across as stoic or cold. Be warm, be a little flirty, but leave him guessing how you actually feel.

8. Make him work harder for your attention, once he decides he wants it.

Be friendly, be polite, but once again be busy. Give him just enough attention that you notice his efforts, but don’t focus UNLESS he makes a more serious effort to engage you in conversation.

9. Don’t just make him lust after you…help him realize how you fulfill a need in his life.

This is an easy one to forget. Romance is not all about looks. Sometimes we pursue relationships because we want specific qualities in a mate. Once you sense exactly what he’s looking for, that gives you an advantage. You can project that quality and remind him subconsciously that you are exactly what he needs in a relationship. Show, don’t tell!

As you can see, the simple equation when it comes to chasing is that one person must perceive higher value in the other person. If you can work on improving your image and projection, he will soon find out that you have special qualities and that you deserve his full attention. You’ve changed in wonderful ways and now he’s the one chasing you, looking to see what happened.

Now that you’ve got him where you want him, don’t coast. Make him work harder for your approval and reward him with attention according to his effort. That’s the kind of chasing dynamic a man likes!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

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