Deciding to stop texting a guy, especially after months of correspondence, feels like a big loss. You started things off on the right foot. You enjoyed chatting. But along the way, something changed.
Conversations became shorter. He seemed less enthused. Maybe he became distracted, or just bored. Now you’re faced with the question of, when should I give up?
You do have that option. The option to start a new conversation, or share a funny joke or story, and get him involved again…
Or you can just bow out and leave the chatroom forever. And usually, it is forever, because most guys that are bored or tired of a text conversation, won’t come crawling back.
So the question is, what are some situations that would merit a full stop? When do you know when it’s officially time to give up? I think you’ll agree the following situations are a red flag, a sign from above, or whatever you want to call it.
This is “IT” – the moment where you know you have to say goodbye.
1. He goes days or months without texting you back.
Really, it’s kind of insulting that he doesn’t even respond in hours. But days? Weeks? Months? A man who likes you should always treat you like a priority, not a chatbot. If he doesn’t respond in days or weeks(!) then don’t bother saying anything else.
2. For every three or four messages you send him, he sends maybe one. Sometimes.
If the ratio is four to one, or even three to one, then it’s time to admit you’re fighting a losing battle. You’re putting in all the effort, you’re coming up with flirts and chats. But what is he doing? Is he only responding? Is he avoiding doing anything, other than just a couple of words of a reply? This is a one-sided conversation.
3. He’s not very sociable with you on Social Media.
Sure, maybe he texts you once in a while. But do you notice he never publicly comments on your page? He never chats with your mutual friends. Maybe he doesn’t even like your special status reports or photos. In fact, it kind of feels like he ignores you in public and then just sexts you in private. That’s not really much to build a relationship on. It doesn’t even feel like a friendship.
4. He makes excuses on why you can’t hang out in person.
If he never wants to meet in person, then that means two things. One, he’s not interested in dating you. And two, he probably doesn’t even want a sexual thing with you. It’s just like an online friend, someone he only occasionally chats with. If that’s the case, give up the texting and just focus on social media interaction. Because it sounds like you’re on the back burner.
5. No one else thinks the two of you are an item.
Friends and family can be perceptive. They know what their favorite guy is like, and who he goes for, and who he just friend-zones. Well, people notice online interactions as well, such as on social media, and the like. If you were to ask one of his buddies what he thinks of you, what do you think they would say? Would you get a laugh or would you get a tease? If no one sees any chemistry, even based on your online activity, then it’s unlikely he’s into you.
6. He doesn’t even flirt with you???
What about the woman who complains that her crush doesn’t even respond to her sexy selfies? Really? Not even a drool face or a cutesy thumbs up post? If he reacts negatively or passively to flirting, then run away. That is not chemistry. That is like a complete mismatch of personalities. A man who doesn’t find you attractive is just a giant red flag that this isn’t going to work.
7. He deletes you from social media.
Well, I guess that’s that. If he deletes you, that should signify he’s done. There’s no more reason to chase or stalk him. Let him be and move on.
8. You confide something personal and he just ignores you.
This is actually pretty harsh. It takes a lot of courage and trust to confide in someone and share something personal. If he barely responds, or ignores you, or makes jokes about it, then that’s a negative sign. It shows that he doesn’t value you, and he doesn’t stop to consider your feelings. It’s a nothing burger! Time to snack somewhere else.
9. He actually tells you he’s scared of you.
This can’t be good, right? No seriously, even if he claims he’s joking, there is some truth in what he says. If he is afraid of you or is keeping you at an arm’s length then he is resigned to making this friendship work. It’s been to bow out gracefully, and give him a chance to miss you.
10. He ghosts you.
Months? Years? Come on. Once a guy ghosts you, there’s no sense coming back for more punishment!
Be Proud – and Move On!
As you can see, there’s a point where you have to leave and “give up”, so to speak, because you are losing a piece of yourself. The more you “give of yourself”, the more you have to lose. The more it hurts when you don’t get back something from him.
You may have to stop texting him, not just because he isn’t responding well, but also because of your own sense of self-worth. You have to start seeing yourself as an attractive and successful person again and a guy that just doesn’t give you that positivity is only bringing you down.
Take time out to build yourself up again and realize that you are valuable, you are worth a man’s attention. And you will get everything you want from a loving and committed relationship. It just has to be with someone else.
Give yourself the honor you deserve and move on. Another man will see that you have pride and standards and respect that.
Text him this to trigger his desire to chase you…
Did you know that you can trigger a man’s hormones through your text messages?
It’s true. How you communicate with a man can actually release different hormones in his body.
One of the most important ones is testosterone because that’s what makes him CHASE you, pursue you, and invest in you so that he gets “hooked” and desires something more with you.
Want to trigger this in your man?
P.S. You can actually trigger a “cocktail of emotions” inside a man that make him feel like he can’t get you out of his mind and even feel addicted to you, if you text him a certain way.
8 thoughts on “When to Stop Texting a Guy”
What if guy text u last month and u answer his text back and u text him back no reply has not since notexts or reply from him
I had a guy do that to me. He would text me once in a great while asking me how I was going. I would text back “great” and then ask him the same question with no reply. I was told that was “bread crumbing” and that he wants to keep the door for when he is “bored”. I called him out on it and I haven’t heard from him since.
Good for you it takes guts to call the guy out
I’ve been texting a guy for a while, it became quite intense at first, he was phoning and video calling, but trying to meet seemed impossible, he was backing off, arrangements were a bit ad hoc and he let me down, I asked him to text if he couldn’t make it, he didn’t and I made a meal and got dressed up for nothing as he didn’t show. I swore at him and he was upset, but said that he works late a lot and has his family to see and could not fit in a relationship. He had also discussed with his sister, who said you don’t have time for a relationship and you have been your happiest lately on your own.
We had a big debate and he said lets stay friends, he has been to meet me, hugs and kisses, but then reiterates that he doesn’t have time for a relationship. We continue to text but he is reluctant to meet again, he keeps saying about not wanting to give me false hope as he loves his work and seeing his family, he talked about his last relationship and things that got on his nerves and the fact because he was always working they drifted apart. I live in hope and each time he says about not having time for a relationship I say fine it’s ok, we are good as friends, then get off the phone and cry.
What do I do? I know the obvious answer is to walk away, but I can’t.
I feel you . I have the same situation right now . He kept telling me that he’s always caught up for his new promotion and he said being a surgeon he has a long hours but then I see him online on the site where I met him . I do initiate our meetings and stood up on me many times . And he was like I’m sorry Honey I just saw your message but you could come over tonight like I’m like 10 mins away from him . He lives in Bay Shore NY and it takes me 2 hrs by train to see him and this is been going on for 8 months now . I’m hurt but I love his calm and humble personality. And he kept telling me that he likes me so much . We’re fine and feels connected when we’re together . Sex is great ! But as soon as I go home he can go days without asking me if I’m home already…. Some men are just so mean
I get a good morning text daily and I return with same, but if I send something different, like a photo and a “wish you were here “, there’s no response from him, however, he will answer a direct question. There’s a definite attraction and he does work ungodly hours. I just don’t know what to think about this.
My guy was great he had proposed to me, showed up at my church, he texted every morning and I text back, we use to communicate well, and he would also call me during work to see how my day was. He became ill suddenly after being out the previous Thursday night for a work function. Sunday he text and we also spoke on the phone, Monday he texted as normal, then at 1700pm after calling him with no response, I received a text saying that he is feeling unwell, in response “so sorry babes, get well soon”. as he stated that he hope he’ll feel better in the morning.
I reached out to him with get well wishes and no response in 4 days, then I messaged his best friend who confirms that he is unwell and that I should call him, I called the following day no response.
Boxing day I called from my work phone as he wasn’t picking up from my personal phone, low and behold he answered and was upset that I am hounding him. I acted out of love as he showered me with love, I was very worried and ready to drive to his house.
since then he hasn’t called or texted even when I did. I stop calling or texting him, but I missed him so much that I refused to come across as needy or weak.
What do I do here? where have I gone wrong?
Sounds like he might’ve met someone else.