I know sometimes the idea of “never replying again” to a man bothers you. In your heart, you want him to want you. Deep down, of course, you want him to chase you and you’re usually more than willing to meet him halfway.
And guess what? I agree with some of your instincts. Not all but some.
For example, I think some other dating coaches take it too far. They might say, “Never text a man first. Never call a man first, never make the first move, never initiate conversation after a breakup…” and so on and so on.
While I DO think it’s a good idea to test the guy and let him PROVE how interested he is in you, I also think under some circumstances it’s okay for you to initiate conversation. Some of my past blogs go into more detail about this.
For now, I want to talk about what it actually means when we say “When a strong woman is done, she is done.” I want to talk about the circumstances and the psychology behind this.
First of all, we’re going to discuss what a “strong woman” means, and what it does NOT mean. Then we’re going to discuss the spirit behind “never reply again” that I think we need to review.
When we’re done, I think you’re going to agree that when a strong or confident woman says she’s done, she really means it. And you will agree, I believe, that to “never reply again” is sometimes the best thing for you.
What Does It Mean, to be Strong?
Being a strong woman does NOT mean that you have to be a “bitch”, or aggressive, or an empowered superhero like Wonder Woman. You don’t have to play rough with men, nor do you have to fight against the patriarchy. Not that it’s a bad thing to do that…sure, why not? It’s cool to be empowered and feminist.
But that’s not really what having strength and deep confidence is all about.
Confidence is about having firm values, the things in life that you believe in. It’s about strength of character – knowing what you want and going after it. It’s about staying strong and resisting the notion to give up, or to let other people stop you from achieving the things you want.
You are strong on the inside because your values are strong. They’re worth believing in, they’re something precious to you personally. Ask yourself what is it that you believe in the most? What topics of conversation, what social issues, immediately bring the passion out of you? These are your values. The things you care about in life and how you respond to these things.
So right away, you can honestly say, if you are this kind of person – someone who has strong convictions and spiritual or deeply personal beliefs – then you are NOT compatible with someone who is exactly opposite of you. Someone who doesn’t care about your values. Someone who does not support your dreams, your values, your morals.
And trying to fight the odds on that is lying to yourself. This is the kind of faulty reasoning that can lead women into abusive relationships, or at least highly dysfunctional ones.
I don’t believe that being “strong” is just a matter of saying, “I am awesome and every guy should be grateful for having me. If he makes a mistake, that’s his loss. Never again.”
That’s attitude, that’s spunk, sure. But that’s not inner strength. That’s not strength of character. Your morals, your values, and your willingness to pursue these values against all odds, are what determine your strength as an empowered woman.
Why Would You “Never Reply Again?”
Doesn’t that seem harsh? Isn’t a man entitled to make a mistake? Sure…and rest assured, every man will make a mistake. But to say that you will never reply to a man who is late responding to a text, or who says something that bothers you (such as a political or religious opinion) does seem a bit over the top.
You might even go so far as to forgive a man for not calling you the very next day. Forgive him for being nervous and afraid of rejection. You might even forgive him for being cold or distant.
That’s up to you to determine if his mistake is worth overlooking.
But here’s the point.
Once a man openly and blatantly disrespects you then there is no longer a reason to reply. Love is simply not built on an antagonistic relationship, one where he degrades you verbally, or does something callous to hurt you, or abandons you in your time of need because he doesn’t care.
These are willful acts that will set the tone for a future relationship. And since he probably knows that these acts are against your values, and are insulting to your intelligence, he is in essence inviting you to endure more abuse. More mind games. More manipulation and disappointment.
And no, it’s never worth replying in that case. Because you value your time and you protect your heart. You should not allow anyone, even an attractive man, to do something hurtful towards you. How is he a protector or a provider then? Where is this love, this respect, that he claims to have?
Now what are these unforgivable acts? I can’t really give you a list of commands, but I think it’s safe to say you know it when you FEEL it.
Some women feel that no-showing on a first date is a big mistake for a guy and sure, it is. It shows a lack of respect for your time and your interest. Some women feel that cheating in a relationship is unforgivable because it betrays trust.
I think you know where I’m going with this. So rather than give you a list of scenarios, I want you to determine what your values are and what your expected level of trust requires from him. If he goes beyond those boundaries and you FEEL disrespected, humiliated, or abused (even verbally or psychologically), then stop replying.
You’re done. And it’s not just that he made a mistake – it’s more like you are escaping his trap. That’s what it means to be strong and I know you can be that strong person. That’s the first step to finding happiness and finding true love on your own terms.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…
I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
And how to attract the man you want…
Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…
No matter how painful things have been in your past…
You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…
Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…
If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
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