When you first discover that a man can “act” like he’s in love with you, it’s a bit of a mind-warping experience. If you hear about it from someone else, you may not be able to comprehend how someone could do that. If it happened to you, god forbid, you may be coming from years of deep pain, resentment, and hopefully some healing in due time.
It might help to think of it from the guy’s POV. And not that we’re making excuses for a guy who fakes love in a relationship, because no, that’s despicable.
But in learning him, we can identify the signs of a fake loving relationship. That way, if you’re ever suspicious again, or fear getting hurt by another talented “actor”, you can put a stop to the relationship before it gets serious.
1. He lovebombs you in the beginning.
Love should happen slowly, ideally, as you get to know the person. That doesn’t mean that you clash or fight in the beginning and then fall in love at the “end of the movie.” That’s a nonsense movie cliche. But there is something to be said about talking to each other over months or even years, and getting to know a person at a comfortable pace.
In contrast, a fake romance is epic in the beginning. He’s almost too perfect. Too romantic. He instantly chooses you as the woman who completes him. That’s not natural and screams “strategy.”
2. It’s always “what he says” rather than what he does.
If his actions always seem to speak louder than words, then his words are cheap. Talk is cheap, especially if he spends most of his time apologizing, gaslighting you, minimizing his mistakes, denying his mistakes, and so on.
A fake relationship is built on lies and he knows that all it really takes to make it work is a lot of pretty speeches, assuring you of his undying love. If a guy really loves you, he doesn’t have to convince you. His actions always back up what he says.
3. He always keeps secrets.
A man is entitled to his privacy. But if he’s always keeping secrets from you, it’s a sign that he’s pushing you out of his “real life.” He doesn’t want to share, he doesn’t want to trust you…he might even be living a double (or triple?) life that he doesn’t want you to know.
The best way to avoid a man with secrets is to tell him how important honesty is, even if it involves confessing uncomfortable thoughts. It’s better that the both of you talk out your conflicts, rather than keeping secrets – which only avalanches into more lies.
4. He never seems satisfied with you.
It’s sad when a woman tries so hard to give her boyfriend or husband the best years of her life and yet it never seems to be enough. At some point, you have to ask yourself, “What would make him happy?” Does he have an answer? Is he focused on finding happiness?
Or does it seem like he’s always telling you how miserable he is – and how you have disappointed him in some way? That can’t possibly be love. He is either faking the entire romance or he doesn’t understand love at all and is projecting all of his woes onto you, knowing full well you can’t fix him. It’s a dangerous dynamic and it has to stop.
5. He doesn’t respect you.
There’s a fine line between respect and a “friend” that tags along. A man may have lots of friends, but that doesn’t mean he respects any of them. He may see most of his buddies as adult playmates, bros, sisters, or casual dudes he hangs out with. He thinks nothing of cutting them down or being condescending to them because he doesn’t respect them.
So does he treat you like a bud? One of the guys, or one of his girlfriends? Or does he put you on a higher pedestal? Do you always feel that he has great respect for you, your heart, your mind, and your life – even when you disagree on matters?
Maybe he barely respects you…but he doesn’t show the proper respect to your family. Though you might think it’s not necessary for him to like your family (maybe you don’t always get along with your mom/dad!) but the point is does he try at all?
If he has contempt for your family members or doesn’t want to communicate with them at all, it shows how little respect he has for you and your life apart from his.
6. He is never there for you when you need him most.
He is always there for the good times. But when the bad times come, he splits. He is always unavailable and you end up depending on someone else to get you back on your feet.
It’s understandable why a guy is not available 24/7, every single time there’s an issue in your life. But is he EVER there for you? Is he ready to talk, ready to offer help, and treat you like the very best friend he has?
Or does he always seem to disappoint you when the going gets tough? You may set the bar progressively lower, and lower, and lowest, hoping he does the bare minimum to show proof of his love. But for a guy faking it, or not feeling it, he will always go below even that minimum standard – and will never take responsibility for it.
7. There are no special moments.
Finally, you can evaluate the potential of a relationship by the way he makes you feel. Are there any special moments of love or caring? Or is it just sex and laughs? Does he make you feel like you’re on his team, and part of his life?
Does he share the best memories of his life with you whenever possible?
When you’re in a go-nowhere relationship you feel it. You never talk about anything deep. Most of the time, you feel miserable. That’s not normal, no matter if he tries to convince you otherwise.
Try to be objective about a relationship and think beyond emotion and passion. Think about evidence, what proof he has offered of his love. And there you will have the answer to the “Love me, Love me not” question on your mind.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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