Here’s another misconception I hear a lot: “He lost interest in me, and once a guy loses interest, there’s no sense in trying anymore.”
Whoever said that I wonder? Was that a rule in some book somewhere? Or was that just some person’s opinion, based on a couple of bad relationships – which almost everyone has had?
The truth is that it’s never too late to re-attract a person, even if it appears they have lost interest. Take the average guy. Do you really think he holds a grudge just because you lost his attention? Is he really upset that you did something that changed his perception of you? Do you really think he’s disqualified you for all time?
No, of course not. Guys usually don’t think that much about one person. They don’t stew over you or obsess over you, just because the attraction faded or even got snuffed out over a misunderstanding. All you have to do is try again.
It’s even better if you know that you’ve attracted him before. That means if you stay optimistic, you can do it again. You can try a different approach and rekindle the attraction. Who knows, maybe your second attempt to get his attention will work even better than the first time.
Let’s review some ideas on how to reattract his interest, even if he temporarily forgot about you. These lines work in person or through text. So all you have to have is his text number. Send him a few of these messages and expect a big reaction – and a renewed sense of excitement from his end.
1. Talk about something completely new that you’re trying.
Nothing says second chance like a brand new approach. It’s what companies do when they go under and hey, why not human beings? If the previous approach wasn’t working, then make an effort to change things up. Take up a new hobby or a cause. Don’t just fake it…do it. Take a chance and improve your skillset. Travel, learn something, be active, and stop thinking so much about him and the old dynamic you had. Instead, wow him with what you’ve been doing lately. That’s an instant way to attract attention.
2. Give him a sincere compliment.
Most guys are starved for sincere compliments. Sure, they get flattery all the time. Maybe they’re complimented on their looks, their mind, or their job. But where is his heart? Every man yearns for someone to understand him and give him a sincere compliment.
Think about his hobbies or passions in life. What does he DO? Not just what he says, but where and how does he spend most of his time? The effort he puts forth is what he wants acknowledgement for. A sincere compliment goes a long way in starting a new chapter in your friendship.
3. Flirt with him on social media.
Guys do love it when women flirt, even if it’s silly or goofy – and especially in public. If he doesn’t seem to mind flirting (and if you haven’t tried this strategy already!) you might try making a cutesy or kinky comment on social media just to see how he replies. If he laughs or comments back that’s a great sign.
Maybe he was unsure of how you felt about him, or about flirting, so he backed away. Being a little funny might be just what he needs to perk back up.
And if all else fails, you can always post a sexy picture of yourself on your own wall, and see if he reacts to it. It’s a nice way of saying, “This is what you missed out on…” and it very often does get a guy to text you.
4. Use what worked on him before.
Maybe you’re overthinking it. If you can still remember what once worked on him – what did get his attention and get him flirting with you – then there’s a good chance it will work again. All you have to do is figure out where you went wrong, and what he didn’t like. Then, up your game so to speak, and give him more of what he likes. Give him what worked before, but reworked slightly so that you keep his interest. This kind of strategizing always works better than just improvising on the spot. Guys do change over time, but if you pay close attention to what he says and does, it’s easy to take notes and “learn him.”
5. Date someone else – or even better, do something else.
This is not a great strategy, but it’s an idea that will work – IF he’s still in love with you, and if he still wants you back. I don’t think you should dangle the idea of dating someone else over his head, however, because that can backfire quickly.
Instead, get busy in life. Don’t just date someone else. Do something else and strive to be better in your own life. Seeing that you’re happy, successful, and living better WITHOUT HIM, will actually make him extremely jealous. (Oh and whoever you’re dating at the moment, yeah that will also drive him nuts!)
6. Make a change in your appearance.
While not as impressive as making a life change, sometimes men will obsess over a hair color change, a new outfit, or another superficial difference. Doesn’t hurt to try it…along with the other stuff!
7. Show interest in his life.
Finally, don’t underestimate the importance of being more interested in his life. Guys are sometimes taken for granted, just like women are. If he lost interest in you over time, because he claims you didn’t seem that into him, maybe it’s time to consider a change. Show more interest in his hobbies, his career, his goals and dreams, and so on. You might notice a change in the way he responds to you.
Conclusion
As you can see, it’s NEVER TOO LATE. How can I say that with confidence? Because I do believe you can achieve anything you set your mind to. If you decide to attract his attention again, and are willing to try, and willing to learn him and his reactions, you will always have an advantage. Using these texts is a fun way to start. Over time, you will start to understand what attracts him and how to get the best reactions out of him.
Related Reading
- 7 Silent Reasons He’s Pulling Away (And How to Flip It Without Chasing)
- 6 Dating Mistakes That Make A Man Pull Away And What To Do Instead
- Why He Pulls Away When Things Get Real
- Why The Men You Date Disappear
When He Pulls Away
If he has been pulling back, there is usually one quiet reason underneath it.
And most women respond in a way that accidentally pushes him further away.
I made a short video that explains why men pull away, and what to say to bring him back.
