Have you ever made contact with a great guy, shared a few laughs, exchanged numbers…and then only to watch the conversation dwindle into nothing? What gives?
Why doesn’t a guy ask you out, even though it seems like he’s into you, talking to you, and maybe even flirting? Is he a shy guy, or is something else preventing him from taking the next step?
It’s possible that there’s something more than meets the eye. But the odds are that he’s probably just shy, or at least hesitant to ask you out because he doesn’t want to be auto-rejected.
Now some women might take the initiative and ask him out first. But then they have to accept the risk of being rejected by a guy…Owch! No easy feat!
No wonder many women prefer to send their potential suitor a strong hint, letting him know that if he wants to ask her out, she would accept. Sending strong hints like this is actually one of the best ways to flirt and get a guy to LEAD in the relationship, which is the ideal scenario. We’ll discuss why after our list of ways on how to get a guy to ask you out online. For now, here are some “strong hints” that almost always work.
1. Bring up the weekend and how you’re thinking of doing something.
This is a great way to send a hint since you’re putting the thought into his mind, that of the two of you going together. All it takes is for him to ask you, “Would you like to, (you know, just as friends)?”
There’s not much to lose on his part and you’ve given him a very comfortable opening. You could even mention something specific going on that has you intrigued. If he’s been thinking about asking you out, this is his best chance to follow up on it!
If he lives out of state, you can do the same thing by highlighting a yearly event, and talking about how fun it would be to go this year, if only you had a date…tsk, tsk.
2. Go out of your way to look good online. Always let him see you at your best, and subtly remind him that you get dressed up for your dates.
This technique kind of eases him into the feeling of an official date. You don’t just appear on webcam wearing pajamas. You get dolled up, you look your best, you want to impress him. He has to feel that, sense that, SEE that. That will hopefully send him the message that you value your time together.
3. The longer he stalls, the shorter your conversation should become.
The problem may well be that your text conversations are becoming too long – so long that meeting in person or at least talking on the phone is unnecessary. He’s overly comfortable text chatting, which means in-person meetings are too risky, too much effort. But effort is good!
So if he’s talking too much on text, try to shorten the conversations and find other things to do. That way, he will quickly learn that, although you are interested in talking to him, he needs to talk to you in person to get a full conversation. He has to invest something more, do something to earn your full attention.
Simply put, don’t give away your attention for free. Remind him that you have a busy life and that pushing things to the next level will give him the intimacy he secretly wants.
4. Finally, if all else fails, give him the “I can’t deal with it” speech.
This is an effective move, if somewhat bold. But if a guy can’t seem to ask you out and just wants to text forever, you’re going to have to be honest and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you love talking to him (compliment, positive signal) but that you can’t handle the texting thing anymore – not for long conversations.
You could make an emotional plea, suggesting that you want more from him, you desire more personal communication and texting just isn’t going to be enough to satisfy you.
Or, you could try a more conservative approach and say that you can’t type long sentences on text, you can’t handle the constant back and forth typing on a small phone…you just don’t get texting! (But you like talking to him)
This puts the ball back in his court so to speak. He has an opportunity to move things forward and either arrange for a date or start talking on the phone and webcam. Most guys will follow through because they want that opening and they want to feel more connected to you.
Only a man who is extremely shy, or usually, someone with something to hide (like a spouse, or a shady background) would back off when you actually request more in-person conversation.
Conclusion
As we stated earlier, it’s important for a man to feel like he’s leading in the relationship, because then he will be more confident in how he feels about you. If you push him into it, he might resent that you’re taking the lead and that he never got the chance to decide for himself, “Yes, I want her and will fight for her!”
When a man leads he is motivated in the relationship. He wants to earn your respect and use his charm, intelligence, and strength to sweep you off your feet.
So remember that oftentimes, all a shy guy needs to push the relationship forward and take a chance is an opening. He doesn’t want to come out of left field and get the big “we’re just friends!” speech. So there has to be a logical opening in the conversation where he can feel right at home, gently pushing the relationship forward, and letting you know he’s interested.
Make it just a little bit easier on him and he may surprise you with his dashing romantic side!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
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