Gemini is the astrological sign born between the dates of May 21 to June 21. Represented by two twins, namely Castor and Pollux, it’s only fitting that Gemini is a sign characterized by ambivalence and enthusiasm. There are two wills, or in a way, two people stuck inside Gemini.
When you’re a woman dating a Gemini man, it’s important that you understand his nature before rushing into a relationship and getting blindsided with an unexpected conflict. In fact, Gemini comes across as very loquacious and friendly at first. He’s easy to date because he opens up quickly, converses “honestly” and is quite adaptable when it comes to opinions and compatibility.
You might be surprised at how well you hit it off, since Gemini is intelligent and knows a great many things. And just in case you start to think “This is too good to be true”, well, in a way it is!
Gemini is one of the most commitment-phobic signs you will meet. You might even say they have two personalities, the one who’s into you and loves chatting, and the other that prefers to be alone and eventually loses interest in you. What you actually perceive as Mister Gemini getting bored of you might actually NOT be what you fear. He’s not so much bored as he is afraid of committing to someone and afraid of being honest with himself.
Gemini’s flaws are indirectly related to his good qualities. Because he’s so chatty and easily distracted he tends to have a short attention span. He might come across as aloof or even easily bored, so the worst thing to do is to clam up or be shy. Gemini gets inspired by your conversation.
Consider then a few tips for attracting Gemini beyond the first or second date – right as he starts to lose interest.
- Learn Gemini and then be more like Gemini.
The key characteristics to remember about Gemini is that he is adaptable, extroverted, highly intelligent and energetic about your conversations. “Up your game” so to speak by becoming more adaptable and enthusiastic yourself. Read more, comment more about Gemini’s interests, and if you sense his attention span is short try to keep up with his hyperactive train of thought. At the very least, he will be impressed by your conversational skills.
- Learn Gemini’s weaknesses and don’t take their evasion too seriously.
By nature, Gemini tends to be very indecisive about what he wants. He is very smart, which means he tries to let logic lead his life rather than letting emotions drive him. This guy literally spends minutes, even hours, trying to make a simple decision about what to watch or what restaurant to try. Understand that his lack commitment and decision-making ability is because of anxiety and not because he doesn’t care.
At the same time, Gemini can be sexually and emotionally impulsive. One side of his personality craves the emotion and excitement. The other half holds because of a lack of vision and perhaps a lack of organization in his life. He’s not sure what he wants or if he does know, then his goals are always shifting back and forth.
- Keep communication honest, smart and not overly emotional.
Despite Mister Gemini’s unwillingness to commit, he DOES want to talk about it. He’s a brainstormer and a communicator, if slightly neurotic. He admires honesty and adventure. He also greatly admires his intelligence.
He might perceive your emotional response to his commitment-phobia as a failure of communication. So plan on winning him over with intelligence, with words, and if necessary, by calling him out on his mind games or evasion. He doesn’t want to be the only “thinker” in the relationship. Your logical approach to problem solving will help him see you as his equal.
- Be flirty, spontaneous and positive.
Gemini is motivated by positive emotions. He loves to flirt…and since he is so chatty and charming he usually has plenty of dating experience. So learn how to banter back and forth and embrace a spontaneous, fun spirit. He admires unpredictability, since that keeps his attention. Above all, positivity is key. This is especially important since the conversation will inevitably go towards his hesitance to commit or trust someone. Being overly nagging or emotional will turn him off. Remaining smart and yet confident – so much so that you don’t take his hesitance too seriously – will impress him.
- Keep him chatting and using his thinking cap.
Of course Gemini loves to chat and as proof that he really likes you he will keep the dialog constantly going. Your goal is to use both emotion and logic together to amaze him, to get his heart and mind involved with you. Think of a romantic letter or a telling him a story from your past that’s meaningful and emotionally impacting.
Remember, he admires intelligence but needs to be stimulated emotionally in positive ways. What he wants the most is someone who can keep up with his resonating mind and not be drawn into relationship-killing drama.
- Give Gemini the independence he needs to be happy.
Lastly, understand that intelligent men oftentimes need space, privacy, and alone time to gather their thoughts. He loves chatting but he also needs his freedom. Clinginess will turn him off. Trying to control him or giving him grief over his errors will only start conflict and that will stress him. But having your own independent nature and respecting his downtime will make him feel at peace.
Remember that Gemini needs a variety of minds to work off, so if he needs time with his guy friends, chatting with strangers, or talking to work colleagues, try to give him as much space as he needs.
If you can handle Gemini’s powerful mind and yet not fall into the trap of drama or trying to change him, you will capture his heart. And soon enough he will grow very fond of you and be surprisingly faithful to you because you endured his tests to the very end.
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Understanding Your Gemini Man
A Gemini man is playful, curious, and a great talker. Once you understand how he really thinks, building something real with him gets much easier. If you want to know what to say to make him want something serious with you, I put together a short video that walks you through it.
