Love – sometimes you just know when it’s real. You feel chemistry. You feel joy, intimacy, trust, and romance. You’ve even asked yourself, “Is this infatuation?”
Of course not, because it’s not about sex or physical beauty. It’s about his personality, his soul, and everything unique about him. You fall in love with him every time you interact. It’s a happily ever after ending for sure!
And then…well one day it all goes horribly wrong! It’s like a terrible nightmare. The man you thought you knew has a dark side and one that you never saw coming.
You’re left feeling confused, heartbroken, and almost like you’re thinking, “Is this even real? Am I dreaming?”
How can the man you love, even over months or years, turn out to be someone completely different than you thought he was?
The problem is not with you. The problem is that fake love is very difficult to spot when you’re first dating and all the more so, if you’re not used to dating narcissistic personalities. And why would you be? Nobody intentionally signs up for fake love.
But people who give fake love just happen to be very good at what they do. So in this discussion, we’re going to talk about what fake love looks like and feels like through eight specific signs.
1. He love bombs you in the beginning then grows increasingly more bitter.
You can always spot a fake love relationship based on the progression. When you first meet someone, it’s not normal to get love bombed. Relationships progress, they eventually escalate over time. Romance follows courtship, dating, and being friends. When someone jumps into an intense, sexual and romantic relationship that feels like a fairy tale romance beware.
2. He never meets you halfway. You always have to make him happy.
Men are never more in love than when they’re chasing the woman they want. They feel empowered and passionate, not just when they win her over, but through the entire courtship.
If your crush or your ex has always been reserved, never really interested in chasing you, but just responding to your attention, then that’s not a good sign.
It seems like you’re the one making him happy, bending over backwards to coddle him, and being satisfied with VERY LITTLE that he actually does for you. The sad thing is, the dynamic usually never changes. He never becomes that 51 percent guy. He stays at 40 and then goes to 30, always making you work harder for love he can’t give you.
3. He is emotionally distant… and it feels like he doesn’t care about you.
Do you ever feel neglected? Do you ever think to yourself, “He really doesn’t seem to care about me at all?”
You think these things often, right before you push the thought out of your head. You make excuses for him. Or you figure it’s all in your imagination. He might even reassure you that he loves you. But there’s a very good reason you keep having those thoughts. Because you notice the emotional distance he keeps from you.
4. You have changed your personality completely to get along with him.
It’s sad how many women will change just to please a man who is only half-heartedly interested. But what often happens is that a woman feels attraction and then falls for the fake love signals he puts out.
He doesn’t care about you – he simply wants to transform you into a type, an ideal, that is nothing like you. Maybe he wants a trophy wife, or wants to recreate his ex, or any number of disturbing scenarios. But a lot of guys will do this and will try to change you in subtle ways.
And as you age, you will find that the less you are like your “true self” the more miserable you become.
5. He doesn’t trust you and wants to control every aspect of your life.
Control freaks will tell you they love you. It’s alarming to hear it too because they sound sincere. But a codependent relationship like this is not about trust, but total domination and control.
In fact love bombing you with all these sincere moments is part of the fake lover’s MO.
6. You are never his priority.
No matter how hard you try, it seems like you’re never at the top of his list. He doesn’t do much for you. He’s content to let you slave for him, giving just the bare minimum.
He never fights for you…in fact, he’s always ready to give up the relationship, usually when he feels threatened or defensive. If a man is that resigned to a relationship, offering to end it rather than fighting for it, then that shows a complete lack of real love.
7. He has lost all respect for you.
Have you noticed he can be extremely cruel when he’s angry or doesn’t get his way? Making mean-spirited comments about you or making heartless statements (especially to or about your family) is a cruel thing to do. Whether he apologizes or not, it’s a boundary that a man should never cross.
If he says cruel things and then takes it back or apologizes (but never stops doing it) it shows that he’s lost respect for you. A man who doesn’t respect you or your most obvious boundaries will usually never change. If he knows he can get away with it, and knows you are enabling him (even when it hurts) it’s a vicious cycle that goes on and on.
8. He doesn’t understand you.
Finally, if you’ve tried so long to connect with him and yet he never understands you, or doesn’t even try, then it’s a go-nowhere relationship. It’s not hard to understand your partner, especially after months or even years of interacting.
We learn our mates. We begin to understand their perspective the more they share feelings and experiences. When a guy just never understands you and admits it, or shows it with his ongoing insensitivity, it’s a failure to connect.
It also shows an unwillingness to try. Your perspective is never important to him because the love he wants is always a priority. It’s not a mutually beneficial relationship.
In conclusion, besides these seven signs, another way to tell if the love you have is real is by analyzing how you FEEL in the relationship most of the time.
In fake love relationships, though there are a lot of good memories, most of the time you feel like a nervous wreck. You’re always anxious and high-strung, worrying about him or how he’s going to react.
In contrast, true love always makes you feel valued, cherished, and supported by your partner. He’s always interested in helping you, healing you, and protecting you, rather than getting his way all the time.
When you do find someone you’re compatible with, you immediately feel the difference and it’s a relationship that can last a lifetime.
What if “true love” could happen in four, simple steps?
Too good to be true? That’s what I thought, too.
Until I heard this story about an old woman from Prague…
When you think about lasting, life-long love… when you imagine passion that burns for decades… when you dream about a man who adores you…
… You probably don’t think about cobblestone streets in Eastern Europe. Or scientists with beakers and white lab coats.
But this weird story from Prague may be the secret to love that never ends. See for yourself:
If you’ve ever wanted your man to worship the ground you walk on, this is worth ten minutes of your time.
(I couldn’t put it down.)
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