A long time ago, someone told me that “You fall in love for little reasons, just as much as grand romantic gestures.”
When I first heard that I had to think it over. At the time I was a younger man and so I thought love was all about attraction, grand gestures of romance, and you know, like the whole Meatloaf song, I’d do anything for love (except that!).
And sure it is. But as you grow older and live with someone over time, you start to understand the wisdom of that message. Love is in the little things.
Grand gestures stay in our minds but they are not enough to save a relationship. Sometimes very volatile and stressful marriages can have great individual moments. But they never really have that sense of peace, that long-term joy that keeps two people together.
Long-term partnerships are about living together in peace, having fun with each other, complementing each other’s personalities, and enjoying the hours and the minutes you have together.
Let’s discuss 8 little things that will make a man fall in love with you. These are things that you might do instinctively, or maybe you will learn to do them over time. But these are what make a man feel comfortable and helps him realize how happy he is in the relationship.
1. Being kind instead of always being right.
This doesn’t mean you should hold back your opinion or protect him from the truth. But it’s just a reminder to ask yourself, “Is this particular moment really a big deal?” Does someone have to win or lose? Or can you find a way to talk out a resolution? Just because someone is right doesn’t mean there has to be gloating or an “I told you so” chorus.
You being right doesn’t have to mean that he is wrong. You both have good intentions and that’s something that should be appreciated. Being kind and making up is more important than always being right.
2. Being on his team, rather than everyone else’s.
Some men take it personally when their partner never takes “his side” and always chooses to agree with friends, family, TV programs, Internet articles, and so on and so on. Eventually, an insecure man is going to notice a pattern – that you’re “always against him.”
But there’s something else more important than being on the winning team or even more important than being right – being loyal to your partner. This doesn’t mean you have to lie or spread misinformation. Rather, just look for ways to support him. If you don’t agree on one subject, find other things to agree on and show your support for him in public. It will mean the world to him to know you’re always looking out for this team.
This brings us to #3…
3. FIND common things to share together.
It’s common to hear couples complain about not having much in common. But is the problem really the incompatibility or is it just that the two of you don’t try to find things in common? Looking for things to share together, to try together, and to enjoy as a couple is a great way to remind him that you always have things in common – even if your hobbies change. Your desire to stay connected and bond is what matters the most.
4. Keeping an open mind.
Part of maintaining a peaceful household and a loving relationship for years or even decades on end is the ability to keep an open mind with each other. If your partner can always count on you to be fair, nonjudgmental, slow to anger, and rational to talk to, he will recognize you as his most trusted confidant. He doesn’t have to act around you or tiptoe around your sensibilities. He trusts you the most.
5. Do things for him, not just for mutual benefit.
What better way to show a man you’re on his side than to be kind to him without a good reason. Not to makeup, or to earn his favor, or to give a husband his “due” – but just the joy of giving. Being kind to him just because it feels good to make him happy. Putting a smile on his face is its own reward. A hug is all you ask.
Most couples do nice things for mutual benefit. And that’s all well and good but going that extra mile and wowing him with an act of kindness is what will make him realize how special you are.
Doing things for your man could include anything from gift-giving, to sincere compliments, to just doing little favors for him that you know he’s not going to ask for, but you also know it’s going to make his day. That sounds like a partner he wants on his team!
6. Being interested in his thoughts and perspectives.
It’s one thing to be a great listener and that’s sure to win a man’s favor beyond just a good date. That’s serious boyfriend material, sure. But…if you want to talk about winning a man’s heart and having him fall in love then let’s talk about being devoted to him and everything about him.
Are you interested in his viewpoints and do you love hearing him talk? Do you draw him out with conversation and give him the enthusiasm he wants to see? This shows a man you crave his mind, his wit, his personality, and everything else awesome about him. Most other women he meets will never do this. They might listen, but they won’t mind-meld with him like you and start that special bond – that will always be to your advantage.
7. Meshing well with his life – and the people in his life.
It might help to think of getting along with his family as a job interview…because it kind of is. While he might love you regardless of family or friend clashes, he will love you all the more so if he sees the effort you put forth to be adaptable and fit in with all of his social circles. It makes him visualize being married to you, realizing that you not only match his personality, but also understand his lifestyle.
8. Laugh a lot!
Finally, never underestimate the importance of fun! Having a warm and joyful attitude goes a long way. Find humor whenever possible. Laugh with each other. Help him to look on the bright side. Find positives even in a difficult situation. He will be amazed that you are such a fun person to be around, even while most of the world revels in misery. That’s the kind of love he will never want to part from. Being in love with someone FUN always beats staying married because of obligation. Make it fun of the both of you and you’ll always feel like newly weds.
To the woman who won’t settle for “good enough” love…
Sometimes, real life is even better than a fairy tale…
I learned that while walking the empty streets of Prague.
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Here’s how I remember it:
“Imagine you walk the streets of Prague, on a snowy December night. The cobble-stone streets click below your shoes… every corner looks like a painting from a museum back home…
You can feel the history in the air, and the romance wraps around you like an old coat.
Now, imagine you bump into a charming older couple. And you chat with them.
Their love is so clear, you ask how long they’ve been married.
“Sixty years,” says the husband, with a warm smile. He puts his hand on his wife’s back, and looks at her with love in his eyes.
“Sixty blissful years with the love of my life.”
You finish talking, but before you say goodbye, the woman takes you aside. And she slips an antique bottle into your hand.
“Take this,” she says. “This is my ‘true love’ secret to keeping my husband obsessed with me, for all these years.” “
Can you guess what her secret was?
I think you’d be wrong.
That’s why I continue the story on the following page:
See for yourself.