Do you ever worry about your boyfriend becoming bored of you? Sure, we all have paranoid thoughts about our partner leaving us, or becoming tired of the relationship. You still cherish your bond but lately, you notice he seems distant or moody.
The problem is not necessarily that he’s bored of the relationship – maybe just bored in general. Men like to be excited, as well as intellectually and physically stimulated. We all do!
If you’ve noticed the relationship feels restless and cranky, maybe the best thing to do is spend some time flirting with him. Tease him. Challenge him in fun ways. Learn what makes him come alive and then give him more of those moments. Here are seven ideas for making your boyfriend crazy for you, even after the initial thrill of romance has died down.
1. Look deeply into his eyes and smile.
You might think long eye contact is something strangers do to flirt and you would be correct. But believe it or not, more intense eye contact also works with couples in a relationship.
According to some scientific studies, the average “glance” takes about three seconds. Up to five seconds means you get the other person’s attention. Anything around ten seconds means you seize their attention – intense emotion. As the writer puts it, you’re either going to have sex or fight. That’s how powerful eye contact is!
In day to day relationships, we do sometimes forget to look at our partner in the eyes – to slow down and give them full attention. Try to experiment with longer eye contact, with a smile, with a flirting little glance, and see how he reacts.
2. Work on your own self-confidence.
Self-confident women drive men wild! Remember that many men suffer from low self-confidence in the first place. So when they finally meet a woman who is comfortable with herself and comfortable with flirting and reaching out to men, they feel more confident as well.
Now the guy can be himself and have fun chatting. Less pressure to “impress”, just a chance to get to know each other.
That works in dating and it works in a relationship. Be more self-confident. Tell him what you want. Tell him what you expect. Tell him what makes you happy. You might be surprised at how positively he responds to your honesty.
3. Be more aggressive – where it counts.
Speaking of self-confidence, it takes high self-confidence for a woman to initiate sex. That’s why some women resist doing it. They figure it’s the guy’s responsibility. Or, maybe they feel shy.
But that’s too bad…because guys LOVE it when a woman initiates. The communication is so direct, so shocking, and so intense, a man will go gaga over a woman who wants him. If you really want to make your man feel crazy for you, give him more sex than he can handle. Not just what he asks for, but how much you want. He will worship you as a sex goddess!
4. Pay attention to what he likes and give him more of that!
This is a bit of a challenging technique at first but over time it gets easier. Men tend to be open about their lives, once they start to trust somebody. Your man might be very honest and open about his thoughts, feelings, and even some of his memories and dreams.
What you should be doing is remembering all these little tidbits of information. Learn him. Study him. What makes him tick? What excites him? What does he talk about in passing – stuff that turns him on, intrigues him, stirs up passion?
Use this information to keep him excited and enthusiastic about your conversation. You can even memorize some of those good “trigger” words that always seem to get a positive response and torture him with it.
This not only applies sexually but even when exchanging ideas or having a conversation. For instance, if you notice your man gets all excited about dressing up for cosplay or like Goth fashion, or yoga pants, or whatever…try to tease him periodically. Remind him that you know what he likes. Or indulge his favorite intellectual topic. Let him show off his movie or book knowledge.
You know him…you know what he likes…use that information to keep him in a perpetual state of excitement and happiness.
5. Surprise him by doing something completely different.
Familiarity breeds contempt, you know that old saying? In other words, boredom in life is what causes boredom in a relationship. Whether we’re talking about sex or conversation, boredom is boring!
You want to make your boyfriend crazy for you again, make an effort to surprise him. Keep him busy with activities. Do. Experiment. Live life beyond just the predictable routines. If you can surprise him and challenge him in positive ways with new activities (which of course bring on new conversations and experiences) you’ll always have plenty to talk about.
6. Compliment him for his effort, not just for his good qualities.
Men always enjoy compliments…and the only time they don’t is if they hear the same compliment all the time. Chances are, if this guy always get complimented about surface things (oh you’re handsome, oh you have an interesting job, oh you’re rich) then he wants a new compliment – something based on what he’s actually done. What he actually takes an interest in.
Find out what his passion is and what effort he puts forth daily, that truly deserves praise. He will be so happy that you, his most trusted friend and lover, actually see past the surface – and pay attention to what he does, not just what he is.
7. Be independent – but when you’re with him be attentive.
Finally, don’t underestimate the importance of independence. Independent, strong women always get a man’s attention. He is inspired by women who work as hard as he does and who find the success they want in life.
Are men intimidated by independence and success? No, but with an asterisk. *If you can show him the attentiveness and interest that he yearns for, while also keeping your independent streak and high confidence, he will find you irresistible. When a top-tier “forever” woman of high value shows interest in him, that’s amazing. That blows his mind. And it doesn’t matter if you’re dating or even living together. He will always appreciate the combination of independence and yet attentive to his needs.
Remember there is safety in an established relationship. When a man feels comfortable in a relationship he usually stays. By nature, many men don’t like being single and alone. As long as things are fun, and living with you remains an exciting and positive part of his life, he will have no reason to leave.
If you sense he still deeply loves you but has been bored or irritable lately, maybe it’s time to start spicing up your sex life and infusing your romantic life with more passion. It’s not as hard as it seems. If he loves you, any little effort you put will go a long way. If he loves you and you put forth extra effort, he will go crazy for you!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
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If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
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