The truth is that a man is lucky if he catches the eye and the heart of a strong woman. For many men, strength of character is a must have quality. Beauty is fine, and being supportive is good.
But when a man meets a woman who has courage, determination, and ambition in life, the ATTRACTION increases greatly. Conversation is better. Love is stronger. Sex is definitely better! Even when you get into heated arguments, you respect the hell out of each other, because you know where the other is coming from. You admire their passion.
But when you date someone “strong”, there comes greater responsibility. Stronger people don’t tolerate weak qualities. They don’t fall for manipulative tactics. A woman of high self-confidence and great inner strength always knows when a man is:
• Taking her for granted
• Mistreating her
• Not trying hard enough (or at all)
• Is self-sabotaging the relationship
• Has eyes for someone else
• Or is letting his demons take over
Let’s consider these foolish mistakes and then discuss what it means for you as a strong and successful woman.
1. He doesn’t try to advance the relationship.
If a man is in love with you, he WILL want to progress in the relationship and not just keep the status quo. The “now” might only be sex or it might be flirty chat. He seems to like the “now.”
But do you notice that when there are opportunities to progress, he never moves forward? He either misses those opportunities or he may even scale back, if things get too serious or move “too fast.”
While it might seem, at the time, that he is slowing things down for a good reason, it usually means he is just resisting the idea of commitment. There’s something that’s bothering him, and it’s usually not you. It’s usually his own inability to commit, to bond, and to turn this attraction into the real thing.
You must be strong enough to sense when he is weak and is afraid of creating the real-life relationship that he always thought he wanted.
2. He either takes her for granted or plays ridiculously hard to get.
Strong women can immediately sense when a man doesn’t appreciate them enough. Women with low self-esteem may go years without seeing the problem. But a strong woman sees the signs and says to herself, “NO. If he doesn’t appreciate my efforts, I am not wasting any more time.”
Sometimes men also play hard to get, thinking THAT’S the way they get a strong woman to fall in love. No, not at all!
Maybe they heard some terrible advice somewhere. But it’s not true…strong women are not attracted to pushovers, or momma’s boys, or men without a spine. They want someone STRONG like they are.
Strong women are also not attracted to rude, abusive, neglectful or cruel men just because they have an aggressive way of speaking.
Strong in the sense that they are self-confident, open with their feelings, successful in life, honest about what they want and how they feel about the relationship.
So if your man is trying so hard to be “alpha” or macho, and yet seems unable to prove HIS VALUE as a man, his strength of character, it’s time to dump him.
3. He holds her back from achieving her goals and dreams.
In the end, a man NEVER seeks to control a strong woman. There should be no such thing as male dominance or head of the house or any of that nonsense. Strength of character has nothing to do with masculinity or aggression.
It has to do with a driven person who wants to DO, wants to achieve great things and is going to do them regardless of what anyone else says. A strong woman is destined for greatness! A man ought to appreciate her for what she is, a treasure, and support her in every way that he can. He is not threatened by her. He roots for her success.
He is honored to help her fulfill all her goals in whatever ways he can. That’s how strong HE IS!
4. He constantly disrespects her.
A strong woman has a breaking point for dealing with a disrespectful man who constantly puts her down, mocks her, or damages her self-esteem. These acts of disrespect could be anything from physical abuse, to emotional abuse, or neglect, or just an excessively cruel sense of humor.
She might give him a chance the first time he tries it. “Hey that hurt my feelings.”
A real man takes note of that. He apologizes. He learns from that mistake.
A psychopath or narcissist, however, will consistently overstep boundaries and batter her self-esteem over time. Whether he apologizes repeatedly (but never learning to stop what he’s doing) or if he insists he’s joking, a strong woman gets tired of the “act.”
If he doesn’t show respect to her, he doesn’t love her.
She knows this and she knows he will never change. Maybe some guys call that “cruel” or bitchy behavior. But it’s simply what a strong woman does by nature. She will not tolerate a man who doesn’t respect her.
5. He becomes too needy.
On the opposite end of the scale, some guys start off nice, get nicer, and eventually evolve into total pushovers – especially in the presence of a stronger woman. The problem is not that the guy is nice – it’s that he is changing his natural personality. He is becoming self-effacing and almost codependent.
He is becoming submissive, but that’s NOT what she wants. He is not complementing her as an equal. Instead, he is shadowing her. Revolving around her like a moon.
Strong women just don’t find this attractive. She wants her partner to be his best. To be real, to be honest, and to be strong like she is. She doesn’t want a man that always agrees with her or worships her every thought. She doesn’t want a slave – she wants a king. A man who is self-confident, but also driven, successful, honest, and fun.
We can’t stress this enough: a strong marriage is made up of two strong independent personalities. They grow even stronger when they’re together and in love.
6. He never actually bonds with her emotionally.
Finally, it’s time to acknowledge that real progress in a relationship requires emotional trust! Real strength is not about hiding emotions or about putting on a strong “front” of ego and toughness.
It’s about having the strength to be honest. The strength to be emotionally naked and fully trusting in your partner. Bonding requires strength. A strong woman cannot carry a relationship with an emotionally stunted man. She needs him to be a good communicator like she is. She needs him to be a good husband, a good father, provider, and best friend.
That’s how he proves his worth, not by saying, “I don’t deserve you” – but by proving that he does deserve her. He works hard to earn her trust and her love.
In conclusion, don’t ever think that being a strong woman scares guys away. No, it filters out all the men you don’t want to date. But it brings closer the higher quality prospect that will soon become your lifelong partner.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
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If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
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