This article is dedicated to you – yes you! The one who is shy about posting pictures. The one who frets every time you go outside, wondering if you look “hot” or if anyone thinks you’re cute.
I know when you grow up self-conscious or have a negative body image, it can be challenging to be confident and proud of your looks. Maybe you notice that you don’t look like the “average” person, or you compare yourself to celebrities or people on Instagram and wonder if you’re too different to fit in.
Well rather than just assure you with blind comments of adulation, let’s look at some facts. Let’s consider some very obvious signs that people DO think you’re hot, sexy, attractive and “all that!” or whatever the kids say nowadays.
I think you might find that sometimes you miss the signs that show how much people like you and are curious about you.
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People stare at you or “look up” when you walk past them.
The only way to react to a person you think is attractive is to look at them, right? So every attraction starts with just a glance or a stare. True, it doesn’t always mean someone likes you. But it does mean your presence was attractive enough to elicit a response.
So if you notice people staring at you or glancing up at you as you walk by, take that a sign of attraction, however, subtle it is at first. Most people don’t openly gawk, by the way. We have to keep things classy!
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You get weird compliments.
I know…you’d rather hear more flattering comments than the weird stuff people say to you. But I propose a theory. A lot of people, especially guys, are nervous about giving women compliments. To them that means an official “I want to date you!” confession and then they get shy. (Some of them anyway)
Instead, they play it safe by giving you a coy “I like you” compliment that doesn’t directly put you on the defensive. Any compliment is a good compliment and the weirder it is, the more likely he’s thinking about you in non-platonic ways.
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Your friends and associates seem genuinely confused when you put yourself down.
You know how you sometimes make those self-loathing comments about being ugly or average or whatever? And other people seem confused? That’s because you’re repeating a toxic thought going on in your head that’s not anything close to reality!
A person’s self-perceptions are warped if they suffer from low self-confidence. You are your own worst enemy about everything, and so your critical comments about your body are biased and unrealistic.
Most people don’t think negative thoughts about you. Even the ones that don’t think you’re super hot, are NOT thinking anything negative about you. They’re just focusing on their daily errands, their anxieties, and other real world problems. They’re rarely if ever focusing on your body.
And frankly, many of them are probably impressed by you. That explains why your friends and associates don’t get it when you talk about being an unattractive person. They don’t think of you that way. It’s all in your head!
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You like to laugh.
I got news for you. If you are a naturally funny person and love to laugh in general, that’s a sign of attraction. So while it’s true that confidence is the MOST attractive quality in people, happiness, laughter and positive emotions are at least a close second. People want to be around happy and ebullient people. Carry more of that positive attitude and stop worrying about the purely physical. Attitude always matters.
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You dress uniquely.
I know your first instinct might be to shrivel up in embarrassment when you realize you have a unique fashion sense, one that doesn’t seem to conform to beauty standards.
It might hurt to hear someone mock your unique tastes. But let’s remember that there are two types of people in the world: followers and trendsetters.
Don’t you want to be a trendsetter? Someone that tells the rest of the world, I like this…and maybe you will too! Let’s face it, everything that is popular now was once obscure, odd and out of fashion. Until someone created or brought it back and made it retro again.
That’s all fashion is! So rather than shy away from people because they notice your unique fashion sense, be confident. Be a little cocky. Be fun and be proud that you stand out from everyone else.
Standing out from a crowd makes you memorable, makes you more attractive to someone that likes you.
And on that subject…
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By focusing too much attention on the ones that don’t like you, you miss the signs of the people that do!
This is something that attractive people do all the time, so I can safely say this is a true sign of being a cool and sexy Instagram-caliber person.
That thing you do…you know, by hyper-focusing on how the WRONG type of person doesn’t like you, and ignoring the people that DO like you.
The truth of the matter is that we all worry too much about the people that don’t like us and for no good reason. Why? Because people that don’t like you are never going to like you. There’s nothing you can do to change that.
But by filtering out those people you don’t get along with, you allow yourself more time and space to get acquainted with people who think you’re beautiful. Give them more attention. Stop noticing the people that give you bad vibes and start interacting more with people who bring a smile to your face.
In closing, remember that as soon as we start comparing ourselves to others, we slide into toxic thinking. There is never a reason to compare your body to someone else, especially a model who looks that way because of professional lighting, makeup and probably a personal trainer! The best way to go through life is to compare yourself to yourself. Make improvements. Fix what do you don’t like. And then project your newfound confidence to others, feeling proud of the body you made and the lifestyle you made. Let men gravitate towards that positive source of energy.
You are hotter than you think. And every time a person looks you in the eye, I want you to be reminded of that.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
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If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
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