When a man likes you it’s a great feeling. And yes, it’s definitely something you want to explore and see if there’s potential in the relationship. But many relationships that seem great in the beginning will fall apart later on. Why does it happen?
Is it just incompatibility? Sometimes…but it’s also possible that one or both partners are just not ready for a serious relationship. Their personalities may be very compatible. But if one or both partners isn’t emotionally, intellectually, or mentally ready for this romance, something is likely to go wrong.
What is confusing here is that these premature relationships can FEEL very much like the real thing, especially in the beginning. After all, if you get along well, that means you are compatible and probably could live together and get married, and the whole nine yards.
But if you enter into a commitment too soon, some stubborn flaws might continue to stand out.
While women might have their own issues to work on, this article is going to focus exclusively on men and the reasons your boyfriend may not be ready for a commitment, even though his eyes say otherwise.
1. He’s still not over his ex.
Whenever they say “don’t date too soon after a break up” they mean it! Many women understand this.
But men, god bless them, a lot of them don’t quite get it. Many men are aching to fill that void in their heart. They either drink to forget it (which is a problem all its own) or they bounce back into a new relationship too soon.
Sure, they’re ready for rebound sex. They may even be ready to romance and love someone else. But what about the learning? What about closure? What about detoxing and forgiving the mistakes of the past? That’s a lot of baggage to carry around, and if he doesn’t take some time to deal with it, he WILL bring it into the next relationship.
That’s a burden you don’t deserve!
2. He hasn’t quite found inner peace.
Even if he has gotten over his ex, he may still have some past trauma to deal with and if he hasn’t made peace with himself, that’s going to be a volatile relationship. While everyone you meet is going to have some problems in their life, there are some extremes you best avoid.
There are some men who you simply CANNOT live with – not until they acknowledge their vices and get the help they need. Whether that vice is drug addiction, abusive tendencies, cheating, or anything else that hurts you, it’s time to stop making excuses for him.
Either you want to live with him…or you want to live with the “best version of him” – and that man doesn’t exist. Don’t get serious with a guy who has to change to complete you. It’s going to be painful for both of you in the long run.
3. He still hasn’t figured out his purpose in life.
Now, just because a guy is gentle and kind doesn’t mean he’s going to make you happy. Men who haven’t quite figured out their “purpose in life” may feel restless, or suffer from depression, or just seem very unhappy in the relationship.
It’s usually not you. It’s him – he has to decide this relationship is what he wants. He has to decide to put his whole heart into it for this romance to work.
Besides, dating a man who has no real purpose in life is kind of, well, boring. We all want someone who has passion, someone who FEELS alive every day. That’s part of the fun of falling in love and being intimate with someone who matches your own zest for life.
4. He still wants to date other people.
He may give you an ultimatum…or he may hint around at it in a more subtle way. The point is, if he doesn’t have much experience in dating, then he may not appreciate you. If he still wants to date other women, or complains about his lack of dating experience, or is always flirting with other women, well…he may not be ready for a serious relationship.
It’s not necessarily that he’s cruel about it. It’s just a mismatch in terms of dating. You want to find the right one and fall in love. And he is just now beginning to figure out what he wants. That can be a dangerous combination.
5. He doesn’t see anything special about you.
But there IS something special about you! The question to ask is: Does he see it? Does he appreciate your unique qualities, your good qualities, and your special value? Does he appreciate you for being you – not just beautiful? Does he appreciate you as the OPPOSITE of all those other exes that didn’t work out?
It’s safe for a man to say he admires your beauty, your intelligence, and your sense of humor. But what else? If he can go on and on about “What Else” makes you wonderful, then you know you’ve met someone special.
6. There are family or lifestyle challenges you both still haven’t figured out.
Finally, although superficial differences in lifestyle and family shouldn’t be a factor when it comes to love…for some men, it really is a big deal. It can be very stressful on both of you when you don’t fit his family, or his daily grind, or his income class, or culture. Sometimes you can work through all that, true…
But sometimes he doesn’t want to try. Sometimes he would rather just find someone who can instantly match him in all these superficial ways.
If you can see that happening, it’s best to back out of that relationship – especially if he thinks you need to change and “fit in” with his life.
You need your independence. In fact, he should admire you for your independence!
In conclusion, it’s important to remember that LIKE does not equal love. He may really like you, but if he’s not willing to invest in you, and to try and overcome the most superficial of challenges, then he’s not serious about you. And wasting time in a go-nowhere relationship can be painful.
Focus your efforts on finding a man that appreciates you and can’t wait to become part of your life!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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