The term “sociopath” is scary, right? It’s the word you hear quite often on TV dramas, or thriller movies, or some book where there’s a psychopath chasing an innocent person. Of course, all these stereotypes are ridiculously exaggerated.
A sociopath is simply a person who has ASPD, or Anti-Social Personality Disorder. Contrary to popular opinion, not everyone who feels “anti-social” is a sociopath. We all feel anti-social sometimes or maybe even a lot of the time.
But ASPD is a personality disorder characterized by a complete lack of empathy. That means that a sociopath would:
● Frequently violate the rights of others (even friends or family)
● Have low or absent morals, conscience
● Have little or no empathy for others
● Have narcissistic tendencies (since ASPD seems to go along with NPD)
● Come from a history of crime or legal problems
● Be unusually aggressive when it suits their advantage
● Engage in impulsive behavior
What most people DO get wrong about sociopaths is that they’re always “deranged” people. Not true. Many career professionals are sociopathic. Mothers and fathers are sociopaths. Many of them are “high-functioning” in the sense that you would never know that you were talking to such a person. In fact, most sociopaths are considered charming and attractive when you first meet them.
The problem comes when you try to have an intimate relationship with this kind of man. That can be trouble – because that’s when you first notice there is something off and that this relationship isn’t normal.
Sociopaths can function well with other people as long as conversations are superficial. But when you start getting into things like trust, honesty, empathy, humility, and self-sacrifice…
Well, now we’re talking about areas in which sociopaths are disadvantaged. Dating a sociopath can be a disaster and easily turn into a dysfunctional or even an abusive relationship.
Easy fix: A sociopathic guy should just tell you that’s what he is, right?
Right…only problem is, not only do ASPD men rarely ever admit their disorder to a date, but very few of them are actually self-aware enough to understand why they think differently from other people.
What really can help is YOU – by studying the signs of a sociopathic thinker, you can identify men that are most likely sociopathic and or narcissistic. Here are the most telling signs, coming straight from women who have endured painful and dysfunctional relationships with these men.
1. They’re only superficially charming – and not that great of an actor.
Sociopaths are charming by nature but it’s in a different way than an actual boyfriend who’s trying hard to be genuine and charming. Sociopaths practice being superficial-charming, because it’s not intimate, it’s not sincere, and it’s just fast and easy. It gets them what they want.
Sociopaths have a strange way of flattering you and being “charming” as if the camera is still rolling. Remember, such a man doesn’t have true empathy so he can’t be sincere. He can barely fake it at all, because being a good actor requires having some degree of empathy and he has none.
In fact, most people can always tell that he’s being glib, showy, and not actually showing anything he says emotionally. His facial expressions and body language do not seem to match his smile and his words. He’s acting, but he doesn’t bother turning in a good performance. He doesn’t have to, because most people just accept his superficial charm without question.
His charm and admiration for you also seem to be lacking in any depth. There’s no apparent reason for him to like you because he doesn’t know you very well or he knows only the most superficial tidbits about you. He’s “love bombing” you, so to speak. No one really does this without an ulterior motive…so if they do, beware!
2. Something about him seems way too good to be true.
The funny thing is your brain senses that something is off with this charming fellow. Your instincts are sharp and do see the problem – that he seems way too flawless, too perfect, too much of a Prince Charming that just pops out of nowhere.
But maybe you dismiss your thoughts as paranoia or unfair criticism. Listen to your instincts! Rather than dismiss your thoughts automatically, be honest and challenge the notion. Does he admit his flaws or do you see them? Is he honest or does he seem to be “selling you” the idea of his perfect image?
3. He’s controlling and moody – especially if you resist him.
There’s only one real way to get along with sociopaths – follow their orders and thank them when they abandon you! Seriously, that’s one of the most blatant signs of sociopathic thinking – the desire to control you, make you subservient, violate your rights and privacy, and of course, punish you if you try to resist.
No sane and normal man should ever try to control you – unless he has ASPD, NDP or a similar personality disorder. It’s not something a well-adjusted, kind and confident man does. Usually, men who want to control are afraid of abandonment and so seek to keep their partners on a leash, using both flattery and love, as well as punishment for rebelling.
4. He has a reputation that precedes him
He has no friends. He has a history of failed relationships and “psycho exes”. He may even have a criminal record, as many sociopaths don’t have impulse control and so tend to break the law. A sociopath’s personality is shaped during an erratic childhood with abusive or neglectful parents. They never “learn” how to deal empathetically or ethically with people. Usually, it’s all about what they can take.
5. He exploits you almost immediately.
Be doubly careful if he starts taking advantage of your kindness, or in some way preys upon your positive qualities. Does he burden you with debt or expect you to fix all the messes he makes? This shows a lack of empathy. This shows he’s far more interested in what you can do for him than he is getting to know you.
And that’s the key – now and until the very end, he will use you and give you next to nothing in return, except the most superficial charm.
Once you identify the pattern, it’s up to you to get out of harm’s way. You don’t have to make a scene. You don’t even have to explain why you don’t want to pursue a relationship with him. Just terminate the courtship as soon as possible and say you’re not attracted to him in that way. Whether you want to stay friends with him or not is your choice. Just remember, you will be tempted to “change him”, because he is so charming, funny, and convincing in what he says. But if he demonstrates the negative qualities we just mentioned, you are asking for trouble. Focus your efforts on finding a man who’s charming, kind, and who will value you as a person in your future romance.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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