What to Say to a Guy to Make Him Want You

Is it true that if a man wants you, he will pursue you first?

Now this is a tricky question because by nature men usually do approach women first, if they feel desire. If he feels physical attraction for you then he pushes himself to be brave, to take the initiative, and to be creative or passionate so as to impress his audience.

Usually men do make the first approach, unless the man in question is exceptionally shy. But even then, just doing the bare minimum—like looking in his direction or starting a platonic conversation—is usually enough to get him excited and interested.

A man who wants you looks for an excuse to talk to you. It’s a pretty simple rule. So if a man does not seem into you or attracted to you he’s got it in his head that you’re not his type. First impressions count.

That means that if you want him to be attracted to you, it’s time to change the negative perception he has.

This doesn’t mean that you should pretend to be someone you’re not. Deep down, you know that’s a one-way street to defeat and humiliation. If you want love, don’t fake anything. Be real.

The trick then is to start erasing the negative perception he has about you by showing him your BEST qualities, and of course, the qualities he is attracted to by nature. Here are four things men usually love to hear—and by no coincidence, what attractive women are usually very good at saying;

1. Use his name. As in, “Bob, let me just say this…”

(You see, she’s using his name to direct his attention)

This seems a bit random, doesn’t it? But using a man’s first name really does have full impact—like a swear word, only much cleaner. When you use a man’s first name it shows him that you are thinking about him, you are talking to him, and he has your undivided attention. It’s what men want. When you use his name, sparingly, and with direct eye contact, it produces an almost aphrodisiacal, hypnotic effect in a man who may be indifferent to you. For this moment, he knows he is on your mind and he’s curious. It works doubly well if it’s in a “sexy setting” like a bar or club or something with the positive association of sex.

2. Use fewer words. Keep your sentences vague and mysterious. As in, “The whole experience was a dream come true! So glad I went. I got everything I wanted. Anyway…”

(His instinct is to ask, “Really? What did you want?”)

Yes, we’re not so much focusing on power words or sneaky sentences but the MOTIVATION behind your statements. Women who talk too much or share too much information with a man they don’t know very well are all but eliminating the chase. They remove the competition, they give the man so much information, he can’t process it all—and more importantly, he can’t desire that information.

A wise woman knows that projecting a mysterious air works better with men since she gives them a reason to be interested in her. Now the men feel, not just desire for sex, but also the desire to learn more about her. This appeals to a man’s need to understand her and classify her as a “type”.

When you avoid giving a man too much information, you let him know that getting to know you will be a challenge and that you are not a stereotypical “type” who falls into a category he can easily reject or accept. Work is involved. A chase is required.

3. When you compliment him make sure it’s about what he DOES and not his potential. As in, “I really admire what you do for work. It sounds exciting and helpful.”

(Focusing on something he is and actually goes—not just random physical compliments)

Men do love compliments and frankly, if the guy you like seems allergic to your compliments then you are probably over-flattering him rather than sticking to performance based compliments. Men don’t like flattery because it’s based on appearances or what he assumes everyone can plainly see about him. But when you give him credit for what he actually does in life (his art, his job, the way he treats people, or even the way he dresses) you’re sending a strong message: I admire the real you. I admire the person you are. Big difference between over-flattering him for something he hasn’t specifically “done”. And that is a big difference because men are “work horses” in the sense that they want to be appreciated for what they do.

4. Paint for him a memory with strong feelings and tie it in with your friendship. As in, “Remember the first time we met and how freezing cold it was at the concert?”

(He instantly recalls that day, that feeling and the excitement of that event. Now he remembers meeting you as a positive thing)

This works very well with couples in a relationship and can even work with friends who haven’t taken yet that step. You both remember feelings, visuals and thoughts about the past. You can summon them up at any time…until you forget they ever happened.

So rather than letting the guy forget the first time he met you—because it was uneventful and unemotional—remind him of the scene. Was there music? Was there beautiful scenery? Was there something funny happening? All of these are emotional memories he has of the experience and by making him think back to it, you make him recall what he was feeling. Now he’s less likely to forget the encounter.

This technique works even better as you start dating and can recall a positive and impacting “moment” from the past when you both felt a connection. These feelings you make him recall helps create a “love rush” – a story AND experience that he can easily remember and associate with romance.

Don’t pretend to be someone else…be a BETTER version of yourself, and one who has mastered the lost art of good conversation.

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