Have you ever had this happen? You’re flirting with a cute guy, or at least talking to him on a regular basis…
Then all of a sudden, he goes AWOL. Missing in action and without much explanation! He might ignore you altogether or maybe he simply responds to your messages with a few words instead of a full conversation.
Frustrating, isn’t it? Maybe you looked forward to those conversations. It seems kind of abrupt, or even a little rude, that he suddenly stopped talking to you. Drat, right as things were getting fun too!
Why do guys do this, anyway? Is this manipulative behavior? Did you offend him? Or is this some strange signal that means something you’re not getting?
Before we discuss solutions let’s discuss why men choose the “ignore” option in conversation. There are three common reasons why a guy might do this.
A. He likes you a lot and is hoping that by “disappearing” or messaging you less frequently, you will start to miss him.
B. You upset him or bored him with your last conversation.
C. He thinks that he’s boring you or upsetting you.
I think C is actually the most likely scenario. It’s true that sometimes men do play around and sometimes they do get offended. But if a guy is attracted to you, he will usually keep the conversation going, even if it gets a little lame.
What might actually be happening here is that the guy is backing away because he doesn’t seem to be getting any encouragement from YOU.
If he’s working hard to entertain you and create good conversation, but you’re not responding to him, then this must mean you don’t like him. He doesn’t want to push too hard if he’s not getting anything back. That’s his perspective of the situation.
Now your reaction might be: “But I did respond to him!”
But the question is HOW do you respond? Do you respond to him in a way that makes him excited and makes him want to keep pursuing the conversation? Or do you respond in a way that makes him think, “Oh I’m losing her. She doesn’t seem that into me. Oh well.”
So let’s consider a few ways to handle a guy that ignores you or has stopped responding to you as often.
1. Reach out to him with an open-ended question.
If you miss your crush interacting with you or if he’s slowed down with messages or phone calls, reach out to him. It may feel like you’re chasing him, but as long as you keep the conversation platonic, he won’t get any “desperate” vibes. Simply invite him to keep talking to you, letting him know that you do appreciate his efforts and you are attracted to him, just as he is to you.
What you could try is asking an open-ended question, one designed to make him think and make him work a little harder for your attention. Once he answers, give him a good response. Talk back and forth and show enthusiasm in the topic. He’ll take this as a sign that you want him to talk to you more often.
2. Relax and give him some space.
On the other hand, if you always seem to be the one reaching out and he seems to become more withdrawn as a result of this, then it might be time to back off a little bit. If you’re confident that he likes you and that there’s a strong connection you share, there’s no need to press harder for more interaction.
Resist the urge to chase him or get more intimacy from him, when you can sense that he wants more independence. If he pulls away, give him that freedom. If you trust him, if you know that he’s a good man and is not cheating on you or taking your friendship for granted then give him the benefit of the doubt.
Let him fall back and give him the time to miss you. He may need time to figure out his thoughts or determine how he feels. Rather than ignore him altogether, simply MATCH his level of investment in you. If he moves a little, you move a little. If he backs away completely, give him that respect and let him determine whether or not he wants intimacy from you. This not only gives him more independence, but it also prevents you from investing too much in him and obsessing over his behavior.
You will spend more time staying active and living your own life, rather than worrying about him and devoting all your time to figuring him out. That’s going to give you the confidence that you need to feel attractive and project more positive energy. In the end, he will be more attracted to you because you’ve put your priorities in order. He’s not your priority, unless he wants to invest more time in dating you.
3. Get more creative!
Talk about boring things, sure, the conversation becomes tedious.
If you think you’ve upset your crush or bored him with overly safe and meaningless chatter, maybe it’s time to up the creativity. The best way out of this rut is to come back with a more creative topic, or go for a different approach entirely.
For example, try sending him something funny. Or ask him mind-teaser questions. Tell him funny stories or talk about subjects he loves to talk about. Maybe your conversation has been humdrum lately and the best way to fix that is to get imaginative!
In the same vein, if you offended him with the last conversation, take a more conservative approach. Adapt to his sensibilities and see what works. When you see find something that works, give him more of it!
As you can see, it’s not just the fact that you respond to him that’s important. Your level of enthusiasm and encouragement is what matters. Men are more likely to work hard at impressing and chasing women who encourage them to keep going. That’s their motivation. Reward your crush for his efforts and make him feel good about himself. You might be amazed at how romantic a lover he can be!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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