This woman came to me recently who seems to be in a pattern where everything will be great with a man she’s dating until SUDDENLY he pulls away from her around 4 weeks into seeing each other.
This happens just about every time with every man she dates.
After working with tens of thousands of women over the last decade, I’ve seen this happen more times than I can count…
And when I dig into what the woman is doing, I almost always find the exact same thing…
She’s using a dating strategy that I typically call…
“Chemistry First”
Chemistry first is when you put excitement at the forefront of who you date.
You want variety, excitement, passion…
You want that feeling like you just want to tear each other’s clothes off and make sweet love to one another…
And there’s nothing wrong with that feeling… who doesn’t want to feel passionate about the person they’re with?
The problem with putting it first is that the things that make two people feel the most attracted to each other is often the exact opposite of what makes someone a good partner.
And then you will likely start acting weird with them…
You start putting up with behavior you normally wouldn’t…
You put him on a pedestal and start telling people he’s the “love of your life”…
You start doing things you normally wouldn’t do because you want him to like you.
And if you’re thinking right now…
“But Matt, I don’t do that!”
Okay, whatever.
Let me tell you what works better…
A strategy that I call…
Character First Dating… or Value Screening.
This is about making sure that the men you date are GOOD MEN to date.
Of course you want to have chemistry and passion and attraction… of course!
AND, you want the man to be a good man to date.
The dating market is crazy right now…
And dating apps are designed to make you focus on the most superficial aspects of people…
And what happens when you focus on the superficial?
You get guys you’re really excited about who disappear on you after a few weeks or a few months…
You get guys who are completely unavailable to even be in a relationship…
You get guys who want you to be one of 60 women in his harem…
And then you come to me asking me how to MAKE HIM be the right man for you.
That’s a losing strategy.
A winning strategy is Value Screening.
Value Screening will make it so that the dates you go on are better dates…
It’ll make it so that you weed through the wrong men a lot faster…
It’ll make it so that the men you date are better long-term partners…
You’ll waste less time and date a better quality of man.
If you want to learn more about value screening and how we help women attract great partners…
Talk soon,
Matthew Coast
P.S. If what you’re doing isn’t working, come talk to us. We have a team of the best dating and relationship coaches in the world all here to help you succeed.
If you need help attracting the right guy into a great relationship, we can help you.
I’m in a relationship with a man who would rather please himself everywhere I mean he can give himself chills anywhere on his body he thinks I don’t notice he plays with his nipples his muscles his head his body parts everywhere and if he doesn’t he starts shaking his legs don’t touch me with any kind of affection said he didn’t know I would like that the real kicker he was laying on the couch watching a game show wanted to come I got him hard but he continued watching and screamed out to it mean while Im trying and he don’t get off the TV shrinks to nothing starts rubbing his thigh and nipples and starts talking about dinner to prepare and that was it when I confront him about any of that he tells me he’s always itching to go to sleep he rubs different parts of him even has me do to him and he can fall asleep l fake orgasm with him