Here’s the big secret…
A guy will beg you for a committed relationship if you do one thing:
Behave in a way that tells him that you are EXACTLY what he’s looking for when it comes to that type of relationship.
The cool part of what I am sharing today is that this works with almost EVERY guy!
First, let’s talk about what men want
Despite what you might have heard, guys aren’t just in it for the sex.
It’s not that sex isn’t an important part of a relationship for a man, because it certainly is.
If you go into a relationship just hoping that a guy will see your value, your entire relationship is likely to be focus around the quality and quantity of your sex… which isn’t the making of a good relationship.
Here’s the thing…
The same man who sleeps with one woman and never talks to her again will end up begging a second woman to commit to him.
If you want to be the woman who he wants for a committed relationship, you need to trigger in him the feeling that he’s met “the one” he’s been looking for.
I’m going to walk you through what this secret process is that thousands of other women have used to create this same result with the men in their lives.
I uncovered a serious problem when working with men
I want to make sure you fully understand what I’m talking about here, so let me start off telling you how I found this…
I wasn’t always the go-to guy when it comes to helping women create extraordinary relationships with quality men. In fact, I used to work exclusively with men on how to create extraordinary relationships with women.
Thinking back, it was the fall of 2007. I had been working with a few men on how to build deep, passionate relationships with women they found to be attractive.
I was teaching men, who were having trouble getting into relationships, on how to really connect with women… and we kept running into the same problem over and over again.
Even if he did everything right to setup and create a powerful connection with a woman that he thought was physically attractive, he would lose interest with her after they slept together.
The men felt like they were settling if they stayed with them.
Why did this happen?
After doing some research, we discovered the problem:
While the men were doing everything they needed to do in order to create that special connection with the women they were meeting, the women didn’t open themselves up to create the same connection with the men.
You see, creating the type of connection that results in an extraordinary relationship takes two willing people. It doesn’t matter if it’s the guy creating it with the woman or the woman creating it with the guy, you both need to be in a space where this type of a relationship is something you desire and are open to.
You may be ready for the relationship you’ve always wanted. You can know exactly what to say and do in order to create that type this type of relationship.
However, if the guy you like isn’t in the same space, you’re just wasting your time.
Here’s how to know if he’s ready:
3 ways you know that a guy isn’t ready for the relationship you want…
1. He’s emotionally unavailable
It isn’t always the case, however, most women typically mature emotionally faster than most guys do. There are a lot of cultural reasons for this and this is something to watch out for.
If a guy is shut down emotionally, it will feel like he doesn’t care. This usually isn’t true. It’s just that he isn’t in touch with the part of himself that allows him to feel what is going on with you.
It will also seem like he’s insensitive and he’ll avoid getting deep about who he is and what his fears and dreams are.
These types of men aren’t typically looking for or open to the type of relationship that you’re looking for. He won’t commit himself to the relationship and you’ll end up just getting hurt.
2. He’s living as a victim to his past
We all have things from our past that stop us from living in the present fully. Things happened when we were kids and it impacts how we live our daily lives.
However, there are some people who get really wrapped up in what happened in the past that it prevents them from moving forward with anything in their lives.
There’s nothing particularly wrong with this. It’s just that if you meet a guy who constantly talks about how bad something was or how he doesn’t like something in particular, he’s stuck in victimizing himself to the past.
It’s not a problem if its just around a certain topic or it just comes up once in awhile. If it’s a non-stop theme that defines him and his relationships, that’s when you have a cause for concern.
There are a few ways to know that he’s stuck in this kind of a mindset… One way is if he’s always talking about how much he dislikes an ex-girlfriend of his.
He also may be resistant to planning for his future or committing to future events. Another is that he might spend a lot of time wishing, hoping, or arguing for a time in his past when he thought his life was better.
3. He won’t open up and be vulnerable about himself
This type of guy is afraid of what might happen if he opens himself up. He has some type of block that prevents him talking about who he really is.
Usually, this also stems from some type of psychologically traumatic experience from his past. If I were you, I’d avoid attempting to fix the men you want a relationship with.
The trap that many women fall into is that they end up enabling a man’s fear of opening up by getting into a relationship with him, even though she knows he’s unwilling to open up.
What eventually happens is that the guy starts to feel like he doesn’t have to open up because he’s already got the woman he wants. He doesn’t feel like he really needs to do what might be uncomfortable so that he can connect with her… because he feels like he’s already got her.
And then she ends up emotionally wrapped up in a relationship with a man who isn’t willing to give to her what she’s giving to him. This also ends in heartache and I suggest you avoid this type of man as well.
So, what am I supposed to do once I find a man who ready for a relationship?
I’m glad you asked. Here’s what you do:
How to go from friendship to relationship
As we talked about earlier, if you want to create a real relationship with a guy, you have to create an emotional connection with him.
It’s not enough to just create that emotional connection though, you need to create both an emotional and sexual connection with a man.
The best way to do this is to tease him… give him a compliment and then playfully take it away. Here’s how:
Find something that you like or admire about his personality or tell him that something he does or wears is attractive or hot.
Then, immediately make a takeaway by playfully teasing him about something that he wouldn’t interpret as insulting. If it’s insulting, it’ll destroy this. If it’s just a playful tease, he’ll love it.
Here are some examples:
“Wow… that shirt actually looks pretty hot on you… Now we’ll have to work on your choice of socks…”
“The way you passionately talk about your job is kind of sexy… It’s just too bad you’re such a dork!” (stick your tongue at him).
The point is to take the conversation out of the realm of friendship and create the possibility that something else might exist… then, you pull it back by playfully teasing him.
This lets him know that there may be some type of a sexual interest that you have for him. Yet you’re putting up a barrier to that attraction which tells him that he hasn’t won you over yet.
Doing this type of a tease can be a powerful way to switch his thinking from a “just friends” type of an attitude to sparking an emotionally charged sexual tension with him.
This is a great way to create what most people call, “chemistry” between yourself and a guy. However, this is just the beginning…
If you really want him to beg you to create a committed relationship with him, you need to deepen the chemistry with him by showing him that you understand and support him in a way that few people do… You need to connect with his heart.
If you’d like to find out what’s stopping you from attracting the right man into a committed, lasting relationship, take my quiz.
It’s free and based on your answers to just a few questions, I can help you determine exactly what your biggest obstacle is and what you need to do differently in order to attract the man and the relationship you want in your life.
Disclaimer: Results will vary, and you should not use this information as a substitute for help from a licensed professional. Good luck!