Imagine if a wealthy, successful, and kind man had his pick of any woman he wanted. Let’s say he travels a lot and meets about 100 new people every week. He also happens to be single. We’ll go one step further and say he’s a well-known celebrity and he’s very attractive to women all over the world.
It’s hard to imagine how to get the attention of someone like that. He must meet so many attractive women, that he can’t really get close to anyone, right?
It might surprise you to know the truth. A man like that is oftentimes very lonely and very much desiring to feel a close connection with somebody. Not just flirting, not just sex, but a real loving relationship.
But it’s difficult for HIM to meet the “right one”, because when women approach him, it’s usually NOT because of any intimate or emotional connection. In a crowded environment like that, it’s all mindless flirting.
The goal is to become his friend in a quieter and most honest environment. And that’s what I’m going to show you how to do in this article. How to show a man you are “the one” in a way that works – and outdoes the competition each and every time.
Technique 1: Challenge Him with a Smile
When most people think of the phrase, “Hard to Get” they imagine a woman being rude or difficult. But that’s not what being hard to get actually means. Men don’t respond well to rude or cold women. That’s the univeral sign for “get lost” and most men will respect that.
So the key here is be as friendly as you can with your crush, but still try to challenge him, rather than just agreeing with him all the time.
How do women challenge men? It’s not necessarily disagreeing with him. It’s definitely not about trying to one-up him in intellect, or accomplishments. A guy doesn’t want you as his competitor.
But you can learn to challenge him in fun ways. Instead of telling him your life’s story, try to maintain an air of mystery. Instead of agreeing with him constantly, ask more questions that require him to give a well thought-out answer. Do research on his favorite topic and ask him to share his opinion on what you learned.
You can also tease him and joke around with him, once you learn his sense of humor. Don’t be too “nice”. Try to make him laugh and flirt a little bit – it’s the best way to jump-start sexual tension!
Why It Works: Most women don’t know how to challenge a man or are too afraid to try and do it. Be different. Confident women are naturally challenging!
Technique 2: Listen Very Closely
The gift of gab is a cool thing. If you’re naturally funny, smart, or interesting you can talk for hours and entertain a crowd. But a lot of people forget that half of the job is LISTENING, not just entertaining.
When you listen closely to what a man says, you really do get glimpses into his heart and soul. At some point, whenever he feels vulnerable and safe in your presence, he may start to confide in you.
Don’t just react when that happens. Don’t think about what you want to say while he’s talking. Instead, listen closely to him. Take mental notes about what he said.
Because now that you KNOW his heart’s desire, and his dreams, and secret thoughts, and everything else he’s confiding in you…
You can now deepen your special connection with him by repeating some of his own words to you. Talk about the things you have in common. Become his ultimate fantasy – the one he just described to you. Now you know who he is. With this knowledge of his character, you understand better than anyone else how to give him the life, marriage and family that he wants.
He has told you everything if you were paying attention. Are you taking notes? Are you using his confessions (his needs, his desires) as a foundation on which to build a relationship?
Technique 3: Be His Top Follower
Isn’t the social media phenomenon amazing? Now ordinary bloggers and YouTubers can get 100K followers. And some of these followers are very devoted to their favorite celebrity. They are constantly expressing support and shouting out their best wishes.
Well here’s an easy question: why don’t we do this in relationships? It’s the most intimate and sacred bond we have. And yet so many people take for granted how close and trusting that relationship is.
Everyone regardless of gender should ask yourself: Am I supportive of my partner? Do I believe in them? Do I have faith in their abilities and their promises? Am I going to take their side over the side of their enemy or their friends?
These all might seem like minor issues. But a man definitely notices when you are his #1 follower, his best “fan”, and the one who believes in him the most. At some point, it’s no longer just friendship. Soon enough, he starts treating you like family.
Technique 4: Be the Most Positive Person He Knows
Finally, never underestimate the power of hope and positive thinking. Maybe that sounds a little cliche. But trust me…if you’re ever in a relationship with someone who only sees the worst in people, who only complains, who is always either angry or sad, has no real hobbies or interests, and generally sucks the joy out of every beautiful day of life…
You will understand the power of positivity.
Compared to someone who only sees gloom in the world, a positive thinker is like a breath of fresh air.
What is positive thinking? There’s nothing fake or forced about it. Positivity is a choice. It’s about finding a reason to be happy. It’s about seeing the humor and the beauty in life, even when times are getting bad.
It’s about seeing your partner – if nothing else – as something amazing and beautiful and luxurious that the world has given to you. You are grateful and thankful for meeting your partner, who brings you happiness.
This spirit, this choice to be positive, is powerful stuff. It’s the kind of inner joy and peace that makes men fall in love with you.
There’s no need to fake being an optimistic person. Just do some soul searching. Find a reason to be grateful.
Once you start to believe it and seek it out, you will start to become naturally positive. And that’s exactly what a man wants in “The One.”
Someone fun, positive, and someone he loves to be around – not someone he’s forced to be around.
The One is The One Who Makes Him Feel the Most
In closing, remember there is no special quality about “The One.” It’s all about how well you understand men in general, how well you understand HIM (as in, you’ve taken the time to get to know him), and how much you enjoy life with him.
If you can master these qualities and traits, he will see you as The One. He will not be able to imagine his life without his soulmate!
