When you’re feeling nothing but despair because of a broken heart, the last thing you want to hear are love quotes!
Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all – what crap! Or at least that’s how most people feel when they experience that tightening in the chest. That horrible feeling of loss. That feeling is all the more severe the longer the relationship was, and the more intense the love you both shared.
It’s somewhat easy to get over a fling gone wrong, or even a short-term relationship that exploded. But a relationship that lasted years? A relationship that had a lot of good memories? That is very difficult to survive.
And I think it’s safe to say we’ve all been there. Maybe hindsight is 20/20 and we’re able to see things clearly a few years later. Those first few months are truly devastating. All we experience is pain. All we feel is loss. And of course it’s irrational.
To some extent, time will heal the wounds. But it’s also important to start taking in positive and constructive information. You should make time to process the grief, true.
But what are you doing to fill your mind with hope and a positive outlook for the future? It’s not just mindless optimism. It’s not just pretending to be happy. It’s what you might call honing your survival instincts.
Let’s discuss five breakup quotes that are honest, positive and upbuilding to a person still reeling from a broken heart.
1. “Sometimes, to love completely, we must never see someone again. This, too, is love. This is giving someone the freedom to exist and be happy, even if it must be without you.” -Vironika Tugaleva
Sometimes the only way to reconcile a relationship that should have worked but didn’t, is to admit that loving someone may have to mean letting them go. Even though we ARE sexually and romantically compatible with many other people, this does not necessarily mean we are capable of living with all of these people. Realizing this may well help us reach a point of maturity, one where we can admit, “We loved…we tried…we didn’t make it.”
But do we regret the attempt? Do we regret those happy moments? Of course not. The learning process, even when painful, is just a part of life.
2. “You can’t give up because if you give up, you’ll never find your soulmate.” -Marilyn Monroe
Leave it to poor Marilyn to reveal a very sad truth about life. The only sure way to lose is to stop trying. So if you give up on finding love, just because this relationship seemed like the love of a lifetime, you only cheat yourself out of that happily ever after ending you deserve.
Don’t surrender to despair. Remember that although this relationship didn’t work in the long term, a lot of that time was memorable, pleasant and loving. That means that you learned what you do like, what qualities your ideal mate has, and will be able to pinpoint these good qualities in future relationships.
3. “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” -Mark Twain
Equality in relationships is not just fair or the PC thing to do–it’s downright necessary for each partner’s survival. If one partner invests everything in the relationship, emotionally
and physically, while the other one never fully commits, this becomes a dangerous power imbalance. The partner who’s not fully committed may resort to lying, cheating, emotional abuse or other improper behavior. Where does that leave you, if you give your heart and soul to a doomed relationship?
This emphasizes the point: don’t love your partner more than you love yourself. Don’t love your partner more than life itself. If your partner made you feel this way, it wasn’t a healthy relationship. Your partner’s goal should be to give you confidence and to help you achieve everything you want in life, beyond just this relationship. Allowing your goals and desires to be suppressed, just to appease him, is giving up your independence. This is the beginning of the end.
4. “Healing yourself is connected with healing others.” -Yoko Ono
What can you do about the pain of breaking up? If anyone knows about pain it’s Yoko Ono, who lost the love of her life because of circumstances far worse than a breakup. How does one go on–even when all hope seems lost?
It comes from realizing that life is not just about you, or just about romantic love. Life is about reaching out to the other people. Helping others, healing others, and promoting qualities like love and compassion wherever possible. Living a good life is not all about passion, and very little to do with possession. You cannot own your mate. You cannot constantly survive on just passion alone. Real happiness comes by connecting with other people, platonically, as friends, as family, and as fellow humans sharing this planet.
By refocusing your life to include more happiness than just a romantic relationship, you actually become more confident, centered and attractive in the eyes of other people. There is no downside to expanding your horizons. Life IS more than just managing one successful relationship.
5. “A Plan B life can be just as good or better than a Plan A life. You just have to let go of that first dream.” – Shannon L. Alder
Finally, remember that you don’t have a destiny…and that your “Plan A” in life isn’t written in stone. Sometimes when a relationship ends, a person tends to see their life as wasted or a failure. You may have built your entire life outlook upon Plan A working. But just because one plan didn’t turn out, doesn’t mean your destiny is lost. Destiny is what you make it. Sometimes the “Plan B” in life turns out to be your true calling.
Always remember that.
You can move past the grief and reclaim your life. But it’s not always just about surviving what has happened…sometimes it’s about learning how to move on. This is what we’ll discuss in another article on this blog entitled, “5 Moving On Quotes.”
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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