Today, I’m going to go over the 1st step that you need to take if you want to get your ex back.
First, I need to share with you the single biggest myth about getting your ex back. Chances are, you may have fallen for the single biggest myth surrounding this area.
Most “dating experts” out there will tell you to use manipulation in order to get your ex back…
You know, using jealousy, getting him to chase you, playing hard to get, etc.
And this works… but only in the short term.
And the amount of damage that you’ll do to your relationship will probably make it impossible to repair once things go sour again…
And they will go sour again, if you use manipulation.
Think about it…
Using manipulation is like putting a band-aid on a gunshot wound… you’re not really fixing any of the problems, you’re just making it so the problems aren’t visible while what’s really going on is killing you.
A little morbid, I know. But I hope it drives the point home…
At some point, the band-aid will rip off and you’ll be left with the same problems you had when you started, and it may be worse because you didn’t actually heal the wound.
Let me ask you something…
What happens when he stops feeling jealous?
What happens when he feels like he “caught” you?
What happens when he no longer thinks you’re hard to get?
The magic wears off and your problems come back.
He’ll realize he’s in the same relationship he was before. And he’ll leave like he did the first time.
It turns into a vicious cycle that never ends. And I don’t want that for you and I don’t think that’s what you want either…
I want you to have the most powerful tools available in order to get your ex back AND I want you to have the ability to keep him once he’s with you.
And that brings us to…
The 1st Step to Getting Your Ex Back
Step 1 is this…
You need to appeal to his emotional side.
You need to shift the way he feels about you.
If you’ve attempted to win your ex back by telling him all the reasons you’re perfect for each other, you know that appealing to his logical side doesn’t work.
That’s because the biggest reason he broke up with you isn’t logical. He broke up with you because of how he felt, not what he thought.
And you may have had a hard time connecting to his emotions in the past. You may not even think he really has emotions.
But he does. And those emotions are the key to winning his heart and getting him to want you back in his life.
So, how do you connect with his emotions and shift the way he feels about you?
There’s a Shift You Need to Make
If you want to change the way he feels about you then you need to come from an empowered state.
If you’re coming from a space of desperation, he’ll never want to get back together with you… never.
You’ll be like one of those salespeople who just won’t go away no matter how many times you tell him you’re not interested in his… foot massager toothbrush or whatever it is he’s selling.
Don’t you hate when people won’t stop trying to sell you something you don’t want? And then if you DO buy it, you only regret the decision later.
The same thing applies here. If you come from a space of desperation, he’ll just get annoyed that you won’t leave him alone.
And no matter how much you try to convince him that you’ve changed and things will be different, he won’t listen to you. And if he does finally give in, he’ll regret it until he finally breaks up with you again.
You need to connect with his emotions, not his logic. When emotions and logic battle each other, emotions always win.
Think about this…
Can you remember how it felt to first get into a great relationship? You’re full of excitement, curiosity and passion.
That’s how you want him to feel about getting back together with you. And you’ll never get him to feel that way if you’re attempting to convince him of it.
You’ll also never get him to feel that way if you’re coming from a space desperation. It just doesn’t work.
Why You Can’t Win Back Your Ex…
If you’ve tried getting back together with your ex, you know that it can seem impossible… but here’s the thing…
I’ve been coaching in the dating industry for over 12 years and I’ve seen literally hundreds of people break up and get back together.
And whenever a woman gets back together with her ex, it’s because she’s realized one very specific thing…
Here it is:
It’s not about HER.
You see, guys rarely break up with a woman because they don’t like the woman (even if that’s what he says in the heat of the moment).
Most of these guys happily jump back into a SEXUAL relationship with that woman.
If it was about the woman, this would NEVER happen.
Instead, it’s about something much more important to him…
And if you fix this one thing, you can make him putty in your hands and get him pursuing you for a REAL relationship again.
If you want to know what that one thing is, I created a video for you to help explain it…
Getting back together with a man isn’t complicated as long as you understand what’s REALLY going on.
If you make it about you, you’ll just drive him away even further.
But if you understand what the real problem is, you can have him back before you know it…