Online Dating Tips For Women (From a Man’s Point of View)

If you wanted to boost your online dating profile would you take advice from a man or woman?

Many of the dating tips you find online are going to be from a woman’s point of view—friendly advice, based on what worked for your friends or sisters. However, what might actually be more helpful is to go straight to the source and get a man’s point-of-view on the issue. That way, you can determine what’s wrong with the “average profile”, and learn ways on how you can make yours so much better.

Advice that’s male-centric may give you more insight into how men interpret communication, signals and female behaviors. In contrast, other women will do what they think works, based on experiences they’ve had…but that still doesn’t actually explain how the guy thinks and what he’s looking for in an online friend.

That’s why we’re going to consider how men actually feel about online dating profiles and what factors determine if it’s a pass or match. Now obviously, this is not about the “average man” online who only wants to talk to a verified female and then send stupid one liners and trade photos. This is about communicating with successful men, the kind that aren’t easily impressed…and have the most to offer.

Let’s consider four tips on how to separate yourself from the others straight from the mouths of men. I actually surveyed some men from online dating sites and asked them to share a few peeves and preferences about the online dating world, from Craigslist to Tinder, Facebook to eHarmony.com. Let’s start with the tip the guy’s first name, location, and then his quote. Read on as the subject explains what they see too much of and what they’d rather see from their ideal woman online.

1. Scout the competition. Embrace the chance to be competitive.

-Steve, San Francisco
“I see a lot of women online who post a profile picture and then skimp on all the other details. I mean, even Tinder lets you say a few words, if nothing else. All pictures and no text is usually a pass for me.”

Indeed, it does seem like many profiles are a lot alike, among both men and women. Therefore, the first real mission is to scour the net for other profiles like yours (similar location, dating status, preferred matches, etc.) and then determine how you can be BETTER than the competition. Put more thought into writing a story-driven profile, one that actually enhances the photos because of the way you use vivid language and discuss exciting events or hobbies that you enjoy. Instead of stating a boring fact, tell a story of about what happened to you and include lots of emotions and details in the story to make him FEEL it!

2. Be interested in having a 50 / 50 conversation with a man.

Morty, Seattle
“Every other woman I talk to just sort of sends me back one word answers or short sentences. I guess they think we should do all the talking, but unless we have something in common, I can’t ‘entertain on demand’ very well. Even some of the women on these well known commercial dating sites that are hired to chat with guys, they have very superficial ice breaking questions. ‘Hey handsome!’ and stuff like that. A woman who actually asks a question or writes an intelligent answer is rare.”

The idea of a man always carrying the conversation in dating culture is for a good reason—because when he’s interested in a woman, he’s eager to talk. Eager to entertain and showcase his intelligence and creativity. But a woman who wishes to be taken seriously as a marriageable option has to show a man two things: (1) that she can be enthusiastic about what he’s saying and encourage him to open up more; and (2) that she can find common ground in the conversation, share her own experiences, and relate it back to the topic at hand.

This mature approach to dating conversation goes a long way—especially online where even basic etiquette seems to be lacking.

3. Don’t try to sound “super-intelligent” – try to sound like an equal, like someone who’s down to earth and ready to have a mature conversation.

Jeffrey, Burbank
“Many women make the mistake of trying TOO HARD to be intellectually wowing. For example, they over think the first sentence, or quote celebrities, or give therapy sessions, or hand out new age guru advice that they learned in yoga—all instead of an actual conversation.”

Men actually don’t want a woman who’s eager to out-smart them or talk down to them. Who really enjoys that, anyway? What they want is a social equal, a woman who has intelligence, balanced by high confidence, and matured to the point where she’s not threatened…she just wants to have a good time. She knows enough so that she doesn’t have to prove anything. She can talk to or listen to a guy for hours, because she has an earnest desire to get to know him, to learn something from him, and to appreciate his intellect, just as much as she wants to share her own high intelligence—when the time is right.

4. When it’s time to showcase yourself, don’t tell—show them. A man will never like you because you tell him to…he will observe your behavior and fall in love by his own choice.

Steve, Tampa Bay
“It’s almost like, once they decide they like you, they start listing things off that they’ve done, or how great of a person they are. I believe you…I just want to feel something when I interact with somebody. I have to admit…what usually does it for me is, is a woman who flirts. Maybe even a little aggressively, because when you’re flirting online you can get away with a lot more that you can’t do in person.”

Women who are smart, fun, and who aren’t afraid to come across as a little edgy tend to make for memorable online dates. What does edgy mean and what are some examples? In terms of initiating conversation and in coming up with something new or unexpected to say as an opening line.

It means being the first one to say hello (no need to wait on a man to text you) and also the first one that says something other than, “How are you?”, “good morning” and “how was your day?” Just a simple, “Do I strike you more as a superheroine or villainess?” or “You seem very mysterious…do you have a Walter White thing going on?” can get him laughing and put him a little “on edge.”

He doesn’t entirely feel safe or bored with you…but he’s intrigued. Always interested to see how far you’ll push him. This is a good example of making a conversation fun—not just strictly dating business.

Use these four tips to stand out from the competition and drastically improve the quality of your conversations online and the caliber of men!

The Secret Words That Make His Heart Yours

Today I want to give you some words that you can tell your man that will make him want to give you the relationship you’ve always dreamed he’d have with you…

These words form something I call a “Love Frame” that make a man feel like it’s his mission in life to treat you like a queen.

If you’re struggling to get your man to “step up” and give you the romance you’ve always wanted, you need to watch this video right now…

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These words will work on him even if…

…your man is pulling away from you or ignoring you completely…

…you think you got intimate with him too soon…

…or you feel like your situation is hopeless…

Because once you understand it…

You’ll be able to trigger a flood of emotion throughout his body that melts away all resistance…

Making him see you as the perfect woman for him…

A woman that he wants to pursue, fight for, and be with from now until the end of time…

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Talk soon,

Matthew Coast

P.S. Try out these seemingly innocent yet strangely powerful words on the man in your life and seem how quickly things change with him…

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