If you’re struggling to find your soulmate and you feel like you’ve tried everything, this is what you’re probably missing…
Most women tend to think there is a “perfect guy” who is just “out there somewhere” and if she could just find him, they’d come together and live happily ever after.
This problem is that even if you did find your soulmate somewhere out there, if you’re not ready for him to come into your life, you might not even recognize that he’s the one you’ve been looking for.
After having helped thousands of men and women into committed, soulmate relationships, this is what I’ve found that will stop you from finding and recognizing your soulmate.
1. Change the Way You Think About Yourself and Men.
The people, lovers, and partners who you attract into your life are always in alignment with your internal state.
If you’re constantly thinking negatively about yourself, the only people who you will connect with are the people who feel they can relate with your assessment of yourself.
It’s the same if you feel desperate, needy, or standoffish. You’ll only attract men into your life who are in alignment with you.
But that’s not the only problem…
How do you think and feel about men?
Would you want to date a man who thinks that all women are liars?
No man is going to want to date you if you have negative beliefs about men unless HE agrees with those beliefs.
Unhealthy thoughts about yourself and/or men will ONLY attract unhealthy men into your life.
If you want to connect with a soulmate who has a healthy outlook on life, make sure that your outlook is healthy.
If you need to change your outlook, here’s how to do it:
- Pay attention to the thoughts you have about yourself and about men. If those thoughts don’t align with the type of man you want to have, actively change your thoughts!
- Imagine what life will be like when you are with your soulmate. Keep those feelings and thoughts at the forefront of your mind whenever you start to get negative.
- Get rid of negative influences on your life. Don’t allow friends, music, or movies into your life unless they feed your mind with uplifting, powerful thoughts and ideas.
2. Become a Soulmate to Yourself
If you want to stop intimidating men and begin creating a warm, attractive, inviting vibe instead, start by becoming your own soulmate.
What do you want your soulmate relationship to look like?
Do you iagine your relationship being filled with love, trust and emotional intimacy?
Do you want someone who accepts you, commits to you, and respects you?
These are all things you can give to yourself. And if you start by giving these things to yourself before looking for them from someone else, you will become incredibly attractive to a man who wants to have that type of relationship with you.
You also won’t accept any relationship that doesn’t create a greater experience than the one you have with yourself.
So instead of a man being intimidated by you, he’ll feel challenged to be as good if not better than your current, amazing single life is.
Figure out what type of a relationship you want to have. Then learn to create that type of relationship with yourself.
You’ll attract high quality men. You’ll lose any intimidation factor that you have. And you’ll enjoy your life a whole lot more.
3. Heal and Let Go of the Pain and Resentment of Your Past
Even if you intentionally change your thoughts and become your own soulmate, trauma from your past may prevent you from really connection with someone.
Almost every person I’ve ever met has been hurt by someone in their past.
And if you hold on to the pain, suffering, and resentment you have from your past experiences, you end up creating a wall between you and anyone who comes into your life.
While this wall may protect you from getting hurt again (many times it won’t even do that), it will also prevent your soulmate from creating the relationship you want to have with him, causing him to think you’re not ready and passing you by.
I’m not saying you have to condone or justify someone’s behavior from your past.
But if you want a soulmate level relationship, allow yourself to have one by taking radical ownership over how you experience your life right now.
This takes forgiving yourself, forgiving others, and clearing a space so that you can receive your soulmate fully into your life.
4. Get Rid of Your Image of the “Perfect Person”
Chemistry and attraction are very important. Boundaries and not accepting anything that isn’t worthy of you is very important.
What kills a relationship before it even starts though is expectations.
Expecting your partner to be this perfect, ideal person you have made up in your head can actually kill your chances of being with someone who is perfect for you.
Here are some of the expectations that can prevent you from meeting or keeping your soulmate:
- Where or how you meet each other
- What he should look like
- What his job or social standing is
- What his interests or hobbies should be
- Any thought or statement about your soulmate that involves the word, “should”
Having a desire for a certain type of relationship and person is healthy. Having expectations around the person and relationship will drive any healthy man away from you.
It will prevent you from knowing that what you have been searching for this entire time is directly in front of you.
Are you ready to meet your soulmate? After coaching thousands of men and women in their dating and love lives, I’ve discovered there are only a few distinct barriers that stop a woman from attracting a quality man into a committed relationship.
If you’d like to know which one is stopping you, click here to take the quiz. It’s free and I’ll show you exactly what’s stopping you from meeting Mr. Right and what you need to do in order to overcome it.
Disclaimer: Results will vary, and you should not use this information as a substitute for help from a licensed professional. Good luck!