If your marriage is ‘on the rocks’ and you’re worried that your spouse is thinking about asking for a divorce, there are a few things that you need to understand.
I’m going to explain what signs to look for that indicate your husband is thinking about getting a divorce as well as how to prevent it and how to begin repairing your marriage immediately.
Here’s the first sign…
Sign #1:You Argue About Anything & Everything.
Constant arguing causes friction between couples and is one of the leading causes of why someone will give up on a relationship.
Now, don’t panic even if you and your spouse are fighting a few times a week… every married couple will disagree and have conflicts from time to time.
It’s healthy and normal to argue once and awhile as long as the arguments lead to resolutions or don’t leave lingering hard feelings.
The problem occurs when those arguments start happening daily and begin happening over almost anything.
For example, if arriving 5 minutes late for a dinner date turns into a massive screaming match and results in both of you going to bed angry for the third time in a week then you have a problem.
When these kinds of arguments happen frequently (and tend to blow small grievances or disagreements way out of proportion), it can indicate that your marriage is headed in the wrong direction.
Most of the time, couples who argue too often but have otherwise healthy marriages can repair this problem relatively easily.
In simple terms, if you and your spouse fight too much or argue often over small issues, you need to learn how to prevent the useless arguments and have more important disagreements in a more civilized and constructive manner.
Now, another and potentially more serious indication of an unhealthy marriage is when one or both of you stops trying to resolve conflict at all.
Which leads us to the next point….
Sign #2: When You’re No Longer Willing To Resolve Conflict or Find Solutions
If your partner seems to stop care about the outcome of a fight…
Or if he seems to feel as though finding a solution to your problems is pointless or hopeless, that can be a clear indication of deeper troubles.
When this kind of despair sets in, your partner may withdraw further and feel as though there will never be a way for the two of you to live together in peace.
That’s a major red flag that things are headed down the path towards potential divorce. And it’s something that you need to work on if this has become a problem in your marriage.
Sign #3: Lack of Emotional Connection and Withdrawing Affection
If your husband has become distant and stopped showing affection towards you, that’s a strong indication that he’s checked out of your marriage.
Often associated with this is an overall lack of emotional connection and a lack of willingness to discuss or show feelings and emotions.
In my experience, this is one of the biggest signs that a marriage is headed down the wrong path.
This is a symptom of unresolved core issues in your marriage. And resolving these issues can help re-build the emotional connection and get your husband to start showing affection again.
If you’re seeing this symptom as well as some of the others on this list, start taking action to stop the degradation of your marriage.
Sign #4: The Absence of Sex or Sexual Desire
The lack of sex or sexual desire is a symptom of other problems in your marriage…
For instance, if you’re always fighting and there’s no emotional connection, the sex is going to disappear along with the connection.
But the lack of sex can also be a problem on its own and lead to a marriage crisis, regardless of the cause.
Either way, a sexless marriage is almost always a marriage on the fast track to divorce. So if your husband seems uninterested in sex or starts making excuses for not having it, that’s a clear sign of problems to come.
Sign #5: Your Husband Stops Being Present or is Constantly Preoccupied
If he’s staying out late more often and showing less interest in family and spending time together, that may be an indication that he is unhappy with the situation at home.
It may also be that he’s mentally preparing himself for a life apart, building a social life or possibly even dating.
Hopefully that’s not the case and don’t prematurely accuse your spouse of this just because they’re home less often. That could cause damage to a situation when there’s nothing there.
Simply put, if you’re spending less time with your husband than you have in the past or if he seems distant and pre-occupied when you are spending time together, that can be a clear sign of a spouse mentally struggling with the decision to end a marriage.
You need to communicate with him and find out what’s really going on.
Next Steps: Where to go from here…
First, let’s make one thing clear:
Just because your partner is exhibiting a couple of the behaviors that I just talked about doesn’t mean that he’s definitely filing for divorce.
It may simply be that these are indicators of trouble ahead in your marriage.
But if you’ve seen several of these indicators in your spouse recently, and you’re feeling that things aren’t on track with your marriage, I encourage you to act to turn things around now before matters get any worse.
The best place to start is by watching this free video by marriage guru Brad Browning… he explains where you’ve been going wrong and what you need to do to make your husband fall back in love with you.