Signs He is Testing You: How Guys Test

How do guys test you before they date you?

As an illustration, you might say there are two types of men in the dating world. Men who are so grateful to have a woman, any woman, that they bend over backward to impress you…

And the “other” type, and yes, the more rational type, a man that actually wants to get to know you before he starts a relationship. Now, the first type of guy can be a little bit scary.

Maybe he tries to “love-bomb” you and prey on your weakness. Or if he’s just plain bonkers and keeping shrines of you in his basement. Either way, just a little bit creepy if guys exhibit such behavior!

The normal type of guy, meanwhile, is constantly evaluating you and trying to determine if you’re a good fit for a relationship, or if you’re just one-night-stand material. Admirable…he actually wants to have some kind of emotional experience before pursuing anything beyond friendship. Men test women to see if there is potential for a long-term relationship.

Now the really confusing part about it is, you can definitely still “attract” a man that has already friend-zoned you. The guy will just sleep with you once (or twice, if you’re a FWB) and then politely break things off. Or the guy will stop calling and texting you altogether.

“Wait a minute…go back! Why did this guy dump me? I didn’t even notice he was friend-zoning me. What did I miss?”

If you’ve ever thought something similar then the problem is that you may have blinked and missed some big signs he is testing you. That’s right, “serious relationship” tests that the guy throws at you, but that are sometimes so subtle, you never see them coming. This is why it is crucial to review the signs that he is testing you.

5 Signs That Men Are Testing You

Let’s discuss several of these guy tests and ways to…er, cheat on your test so that he doesn’t friend-zone you to one night stand material. If you want the buy has a boyfriend, following this dating advice and pass his test with flying colors to strengthen his attraction to you.

1. The guy will test you to see how much you actually care about his interests.

This may well be the first test your guy throws at you—how interested you are in his MIND. If the guy senses that you are friendly and flirty then that’s the start of the conversation. But if he starts talking about his career, his lifestyle, passions or hobbies and you don’t seem that interested, that is a huge fail. These are the things that actually matter to the guy! If you can’t take an interest in who he is as a person, he’s going to think you’re just objectifying his body. And he’ll be cool with that for about one night. But not one day longer.

2. He tests your intelligence…but not in the way you’re thinking.

The good news is that he is not going to quiz you about fish, sharks or aquariums (thank god). He assumes you’re probably not an expert in HIS field. Why would he want you to be? How could he impress you then if you already know everything he knows?

What you will notice, however, is that guys will test your “people smarts”. He wants to know that you can keep up with him, follow his conversation and appreciate his witty remarks. This is why he may actually test your ear for sarcasm and check to see if you’re (A) paying attention, and (B) if you’re sharp enough to sense he is being funny. If you pass this test, you’ll definitely impress him.

Passing this test requires flexibility, improvisational skills, and listening skills. If he says something odd or confusing, assume it’s for a reason and don’t be too thrown off by his behavior. The worst way to fail this test is to become offended. The second worst way is to show confusion. Third worst way, nodding and not even noticing his attempt at humor.

This is definitely a case of “better to speak your mind” than to be too safe and fail his test. Just look for his smile as confirmation that he’s being a little goofy before reacting, and then pick the appropriate reaction for his remark.

3. The guy will talk a lot about his favorite movies, books, and TV shows. He doesn’t expect you to love them…but he wants to explain it to you.

When guys freak out about their favorite artist or pop culture icon, they’re not so much testing you about movie knowledge as they are sensing just how open-minded you are. They enjoy talking about entertainment, movies, and other interesting subjects and want to see if you can follow them, love the conversation, and hopefully contribute something in the form of a statement or question. It’s not so much knowing everything he knows, but being able to keep him talking. Him talking a lot is a good sign. It means he’s having fun and you’re jumping to the next level of interesting. Guys love when women show interest and make them feel special. 

4. He throws a fit in the relationship! Uh oh…what is he really saying with these rebellious acts?

This is understandably a confusing moment—when the guy says something rude, crude, or even aggressive. Just when you think things are going well! Questioning him only seems to make matters worse. What gives?

Why do guys throw little mini-tantrums or make snarky little comments to women? Because they are exerting their independence. You may notice that a guy usually doesn’t try to offend you right off the back. (Unless they’re “players” but hey, that’s another story altogether) Rather, he will say snarky things right after sensing that you’re trying to control him, mother him, or punish him for speaking his mind.

You may not even be aware you’re doing this, or he may be just plain paranoid and imagining this is what you’re doing. Either way, there is only one way to respond. Don’t respond negatively. Don’t show fear. Just laugh it off, letting him know that you are not stopping him from being his own man. In fact, show him you have NO interest in controlling him or turning him into “husband material”. You don’t want to change him at all. And that’s the positive energy that he will respond to. Once he can see that you are giving him space to be himself, the guy will consider you worth is time and energy.

5. Men revert back to boys! What is going on?

You may find that when men really like you, they tend to become brattier and more daring in their conversation and their desire to go “play” – that is, to do something absurd and spontaneous. What this actually means is that he’s testing your sense of fun and adventure. The guy wants to see how you feel and if you’ll respond positively.

His lover, his future partner, will always encourage fun and spontaneous acts of romance. She won’t shoot his heads down or make him feel silly for suggesting it. If he’s telling you he’s an unpredictable romantic, take that as a good thing. Encourage more silly behavior so that he’ll always want to keep entertaining you and spending time with you.

So is a guy testing you a bad thing? Of course not. The guy is making sure that you are a compatible match and is HOPING you’re serious relationship material. Once you show him that you understand him (and yes, understand how men’s minds seem to work in general) he will quickly realize you are much more than a one night stand and that he wants to spend every day with. You’re someone he really could learn to like and maybe even love. He will see you as someone worth investing time and commitment in. 

Why Do Men Test Women They Date?

Dating can be a tricky business, and one of the most confusing aspects for women can be the testing behavior of men. Some women may find themselves wondering why men feel the need to test them in the first place, while others may feel frustrated and unsure of how to respond. Understanding the reasons behind these tests and how to navigate them can be key to building a successful relationship.

One of the primary reasons that men test women they date is to gauge their compatibility and determine whether or not they are a good fit. These tests can take many forms, from playful teasing to more serious challenges that test a woman’s boundaries and emotional resilience. In some cases, men may also test women to determine whether or not they are trustworthy or reliable, especially if they have been hurt in the past.

Another reason that men may test women they date is to assess their level of interest and commitment. For example, a man may intentionally create distance or withhold affection to see if a woman will pursue him or if she will become disinterested. This type of test can be especially difficult for women who are looking for a more straightforward and honest approach to dating.

Ultimately, the purpose of these tests is to help men determine whether or not a woman is a good match for them. While this behavior may seem confusing or frustrating at first, it is important to remember that most men are simply trying to find a partner who is compatible with them and who they can build a lasting relationship with.

How Do You Pass His Tests?

If you find yourself in a situation where a man is testing you, there are several strategies you can use to pass his tests and build a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.

One of the most important things you can do is to remain true to yourself and your values. This means being honest about your feelings, communicating clearly and openly, and standing up for yourself when necessary. If a man is testing you in a way that makes you uncomfortable or that goes against your values, it is important to speak up and let him know. This will help him understand your boundaries and build trust between the two of you.

Another key strategy for passing his tests is to stay calm and level-headed. Men may test women in a variety of ways, and it can be easy to become emotional or defensive. However, it is important to remember that these tests are not personal attacks, but rather a way for men to assess compatibility and build trust. By remaining calm and rational, you can demonstrate that you are emotionally stable and capable of handling difficult situations.

Finally, it is important to be patient and understanding. Men may test women for a variety of reasons, and it can take time to build trust and establish a strong foundation for a relationship. By remaining patient and understanding, you can demonstrate that you are committed to building a lasting relationship and that you are willing to work through any challenges that may arise.

Should You Always Be Okay With His Tests?

While it is important to understand why men test women they date and how to pass these tests, it is also important to recognize that not all tests are healthy or appropriate. If a man is testing you in a way that feels emotionally abusive, manipulative, or disrespectful, it is important to set boundaries and consider whether or not this is the type of relationship you want to be in.

For example, if a man is constantly criticizing you or trying to make you feel insecure, this is not a healthy form of testing and should not be tolerated. Similarly, if a man is intentionally creating distance or withholding affection in a way that feels hurtful or disrespectful, this is not a behavior that should be encouraged or rewarded.

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