How to Keep a Man Faithful

8 Signs He Wants You Back but Won’t Admit It

Maybe this scenario seems familiar. Your ex has been chummy with you lately. You still have feelings for him…maybe you’re still in love with him. He texts you frequently and treats you like his best friend.

But…he’s also dating someone else. Or maybe he implies that the two of you dating was a mistake and that he would NEVER do it again.

This happens a lot, actually. Some men do want to be friends with their exes and not all of them for weird or creepy reasons. The real question is, does he actually want you back? or are you simply projecting your wish onto him, hoping he’ll take you back?

This can be very confusing, especially when guys do confusing things – like asking for dates (which are not dates), or acting nostalgic about the times you had together.

Don’t worry…I’ve compiled a list of signs that he DOES want you back and that it’s not all about staying friends. Notice these specific signs first, before pursuing anything. After all, sex with your ex (who doesn’t love you anymore) is not the best idea in terms of moving forward!

1. He’s still angry or at least blaming you for the end of the relationship.

Confusing as this sounds, it’s true. If a man is over you, he eventually does “release” that anger, resentment and blaming. He has accepted that the two of you were not compatible and that you outgrew each other. He has found happiness in himself and in another woman.

A man who’s still “under you” holds onto that anger. He’s rude and mean and ornery because he feels hurt in his heart! He blames you for ruining the trust in the relationship. (Even if he’s dead wrong, that’s likely what he feels)

Now it’s true that over time, a guy still in love with you WILL start to behave. He’ll do his best to be polite, PC and “mature” about it. But this façade is easy to see through if he’s still obsessing about you. So pay close attention to the next stage…

2. Jealousy

Jealousy is the most obvious sign that he’s not over you. Not only is he jealous of other men in your life (or even the idea of you dating someone else) but he’s also VERY quick to date someone new and moves forward in that relationship very quickly. All these actions are motivated by jealousy and the desire to mask the pain he has for losing you, by creating a strange fantasy of instant intimacy in the arms of someone else.

Probably someone a lot like you or someone exact opposite of you – basically a relationship started because of comparisons he made to you.

Progressing in a healthy relationship is nearly impossible for him because he refuses to take time to heal and refuses to let go of the jealousy. Enter the rebound relationship, now on sale for a (very) limited time.

3. Pretending to be happy and crying alone.

His priority right now is to unsettle you, so don’t be surprised if he posts all over social media about his happiness and fantastic new life. But whether this is staged for or he’s just convincing himself he’s happy, it’s only another mask. He’s actually spending more time alone, avoiding doing things (that don’t involve chasing after women), and definitely NOT spending time figuring out what he really wants out of life.

He might let himself go physically and take long breaks from social media or his phone. He’s “hiding” because he’s hurting, just like most mammals tend to do!

4. He’s still unwholesomely interested in your life.

When a guy is over someone that’s usually when he decides to let you be as independent as you want. When a man is still in love, he will sneak around and scheme to be involved in your life in one capacity or another.

He will get his friends to spy on you. He will continue to be friends with your friends or your family members, even if it feels awkward for them. For a man who’s “over” you, he sure seems to have trouble excusing himself from your life!

5. He plays weird, subtle mind games.

Nothing diabolical (hopefully) but more of the “I want you to think of me” variety. He might start doing all the fun things you once asked him to do. He hopes you’ll be jealous seeing the new fun him living his best life (or whatever).

He might also run into you at places or parties, acting as if it’s a strange coincidence that the two of you met – which it’s usually not.

6. When the time is right, he pours his true feelings out.

After the guise of being platonic friends passes he will usually share something with you perhaps he’ll explain to you why he left (or why the relationship ended). Or he might apologize for his past behavior. Or (and this one is the old faithful) he’ll drunk dial and give you one last piece of his mind. Sometimes drunk dialing is the only way he can admit what he feels, because it frees him of his inhibitions and stubbornness. Listen closely to what he says…

But remember this. If he loves you, he will prove it. That brings us to the next sign.

7. He will start to change for you.

Men never change, right? Well they don’t suddenly become an altogether different person, that’s true. But through conscious effort people can make practical changes and alter their life course for the better. They can make changes that will help them to find happiness and be more stable partners for a relationship.

If part of your problems together were his negative attitudes or self-destructive behaviors, he probably knows that’s what has to change. If he’s willing to put forth the effort to change then that’s a very dramatic and serious display of love.

8. He reaches out to you every so often, via phone or text.

If he is still in love with you then he will reach out to make contact and he will always be the one to break the ice. He’ll say he’s checking on you or to see how you’re doing. If anything his suspicious that you’re alone and depressed is probably reflective of what HE’S feeling. And it’s a strong sign that he’s still waiting for the right time to make another move.

Getting back together with your ex is always possible…it just depends on how much you’re both willing to change to prevent the same relationship from self-destructing in the exact same way as before. Always remember that you both must change if you want a better result, both your habits and your attitudes.

The #1 Mistake Women Make When Trying to Get a Man Back

If you’ve broken up with someone you love and you want to get back together with him…

There’s one mistake that you absolutely MUST avoid if you want him to take you back and want a REAL relationship together.

It’s something that I call, a “Broken Attachment.”

I call it a Broken Attachment because you’re giving him the wrong impression of who you are and what you want.

This lowers your value in his eyes and makes it nearly impossible to get him back.

If you want to know more about what a Broken Attachment is…

Click here to learn more

Talk soon,

Matthew Coast

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13 thoughts on “8 Signs He Wants You Back but Won’t Admit It”

    1. I can’t get over him I think about him every minute is like I can’t get him out of my mind no matter how hard I try to. He ignores me a lot and it hurts me and he does not visit me like before even for two weeks I don’t see him and when I call him he don’t pick my calls he’s a change man towards me.

      1. Lea back.

        Use your Feminine Energy;

        GET “Abundance in your life. high quality lady.

        Know ‘your’s value.

        Peel your focus off the guy.

  1. I can’t get over him I think about him every minute is like I can’t get him out of my mind no matter how hard I try to. He ignores me a lot and it hurts me and he does not visit me like before even for two weeks I don’t see him and when I call him he don’t pick my calls he’s a change man towards me.

  2. hes back with his wife ,but we still talk. he choose his old life style content but hes not happy am trying to give up.

  3. Laura dawson Dawson

    He stop calling every two days but he will come by every week to get his mail stay for twenty minutes and give me a kiss and leave I ask is he going to stay a night he says soon

  4. He still talks to me on occasion on the phone but the conversations are like as if we never parted. He talks to me like as if I’m in the room just visiting with him like we always have and still do and when I bring certain words into the conversation like “dear” in a sentence he doesn’t say anything like “I’m not your dear anymore “ and when I end the conversation to get going there’s hesitation in his voice when I’m ending the phone call? You tell me, I’ll bet he’s dancing around the idea somewhere he still hasn’t let go or is it just me?

  5. I had a friendship only situation with a man I really came to care for. We reconnected in 2019 due to the death of our mutual friend who originally introduced us.We have been in limited contact since then & talked a lot about all that has gone on in our lives …it was like we had spoken a few weeks earlier. When I told him I would be in the area soon, he instantly said he’d like to take me to dinner & that I should give him the dates as soon as they were finalized. I sent him the info about my travel about a week prior to the trip, again when I arrived by text & again a couple of days later on voicemail. He never made contact so I sent a text after several weeks I told him how disappointed I was that he acted that way & we did connect again. His behavior has been very erratic ,& when I told about some upcoming Surgery I was having, he never made contact. So what’s the best guess about him?? Since we were never lovers it’s hard to understand why he won’t even be a text or phone friend anymore !

  6. Let me explain my situation. This man whom I never met before. We were waiting on the school bus to put our grandchildren on. I looked up and this man was staring at me. I smiled and spoke. He smiled and spoke. Ater the bus picked the grandkids up we talked a good while. Than we started to depart and I asked him if he wanted to stay in touch. He hesitated but said yes and asked for my cell number. I gave to him and he sent his right away. Than said, that’s my number. Than we departed. I don’t know why but I thought about this man the whole day I couldn’t get him out of my mind. The next day I text him. ” good morning I hope you remember me, Anna. All day I wanted for a response. Nothing. So I started thinking I made a mistake in texting him first. But that evening he texted. We texted a little. I asked if he wanted to continue talking on the phone. He said he would take a rein check on that. Than he said he was talking with his daughter on the phone while texting me. Than he said maybe he might not be what I’m expecting him to be. I said you will never know until you try. It’s been 3 days and nothing. I want to text but I don’t want to sound anxious or pushy. It’s been a long time since I’ve dated or even interested in dating. I’m nervous and I don’t know what to do. Please I need your advice on how to handle this.

  7. He had been calling me4 to5 times every day till June 25.I put a message to him on FB and I thought I was on messenger.hes strict doesn’t want anything private told about our life.Now he want answer any of my text.I have something of his and tried to return it by us meeting.

  8. We live miles apart. We once dated for two years. Everyday seemed brand new. He was dishonest with me. We broke up and I moved. It just happens his son lives in the same state I do. I forgave him and we would get together when he came to town. I didn’t chase him and he said he was going to be around a lot. Now I find myself appearing needy as I am so in love. I think he just wants a casual deal. He spoils me to death we have a great time and he likes me and cares for me. His words. What should I do to get him to come forward or not?

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