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When I first started learning about abusive or dysfunctional relationships, I couldn’t believe what I was reading. Some of it seemed unreal. Take for instance, the phenomenon of the abusive victim who leaves the toxic relationship behind, but then actually becomes an abuser in the next rebound relationship. What a strange twist of fate, right? […]

A friend of mine once gave a pearl of wisdom. He said, “Everyone thinks that a long-lasting marriage is about doing BIG. Sacrificing something big, something hurtful…or taking on huge responsibility, all in the name of love. But it’s not about the big things. It’s about the little things.” So in the spirit of that

A funny thing happens during those quiet moments in bed. When you’re cuddled up with your boyfriend and he’s sound asleep, and your mind starts to wonder. Is this man is really your future, you think to yourself. Is he the man you always planned to marry? The man you pictured yourself with? Is your

I was having a conversation with an old friend recently. The subject soon came up of marriage and all the old stereotypes of women wanting marriage, men feeling more commitment-phobic. We also talked about whether or not times were changing, especially regarding gender roles. More women are career-driven. More women are commitment-phobic these days, since

Maybe it’s a little funny to hear a guy say it, but: “Why are men so obsessed with sex?” Sure, I’m going to come out and say it! Sex is great…but is it such a big deal as we all tend to make it? No way. If anything, sex is so good because it’s mentally

Happiness is as much cultural as it is personal. Sometimes we let society determine how happy we are…and that’s a shame, honestly. Because some people will never be happy. Some political movements, some groups out there, seem to thrive when their followers are unhappy. And so when you’re constantly around people who are angry, or

Maybe it starts with a thought. The inclination is to watch him, to monitor him. Sure enough, he begins to act differently. Then your curiosity slowly grows into paranoia. You know he’s unhappy. You know he likes to flirt. Maybe you’ve even caught other women flirting with him. It fills you with an overwhelming feeling

The feeling of being loved “less” or that you love him much more than he loves you can be devastating. You try so hard to please him. You give of yourself and you reach out to touch his heart, so earnest, so trusting… Only to find out that love isn’t enough. Or maybe that he

It’s sad that some people today have such negative attitudes about men and fidelity. For example, some believe that all men are cheaters by nature and they’re only as faithful as their temptations. Some believe that men “trap women” into monogamy. Some people even believe that a man is weak if he never cheats on

Now here’s an interesting question someone recently asked me at a seminar. It was actually quite the debate, since we were talking about traditional male and female roles, and someone posed a thought-provoking question. A young woman said to me, “Why is it that ‘clingy women’ are such a negative stereotype?’ Why is it that