A funny thing happens during those quiet moments in bed. When you’re cuddled up with your boyfriend and he’s sound asleep, and your mind starts to wonder. Is this man is really your future, you think to yourself. Is he the man you always planned to marry? The man you pictured yourself with? Is your heart really in it? Or are you settling for something less than romantic?
The decision on whether to wait for the love of your life or to “settle” and marry the guy you’re with can be difficult. On one hand, you like the guy you’re with. He’s respectful, funny, and you have good times with him. On the other hand, you still fantasize about other guys, or maybe even yearn to feel more passion and more romance. You want the spark, the “it” feeling that you always thought true love was.
Is this normal? Of course. It’s always healthy to evaluate our relationship and whether or not we are truly living the life we want to live. Introspection is a good thing. It helps us change our life and reevaluate what’s important. If you are following your goals and following your heart, then it might be reasonable to say, “Hey, I’m happy and things aren’t getting any better than this.” You might also feel pressured by family, friends, or even all of society by making a guy “wait” rather than just marrying him.
But in the back of your mind, you’re still wondering, “Is he really the love of my life? Am I settling with a cool guy or am I actually in love? Now that’s a tough question to answer. In theory we could all “do better”. We all have fantasies, visions of who we wanted to be. These don’t always match up to the real world.
The title of this blog could also be misleading. Far be it from me to tell you that your life is “wrong” and that you should dump that guy and wait for something better to come along. It’s not my place, nor is it anyone else’s place to tell you what you should do.
But what I figured I’d do, is share some wisdom from some older couples who always “knew” that their partner was a lifelong mate. In the minds of these couples, they were not settling. They just knew this was love. They knew this was the real thing and that any other relationship after this would pale in comparison.
Here are five signs that this guy is the one!
1. Your values are very similar.
Couples that break up the fastest are always the ones with mismatched values. This means one’s own personal morals, code of ethics, religious or spiritual views, even lifestyle, and political views. If these are not in sync, it won’t be too long before the relationship disintegrates.
2. He encourages your independence and individual success.
A man who is controlling and needy – to the point where he throws a fit if you have your own plans outside of him – will be very difficult to live with. The ideal man is not afraid of your success. He’s not threatened by your career, or your goals, or your independence. He’s content with himself and not paranoid that you’re going to leave. He fights for you and cheers for you, whatever you decide to do. The relationship is not all about him – it’s about the both of you co-existing and appreciating each other. That is truly remarkable!
3. Conflicts are not based on hate or anger. You settle things with compromise.
You truly can tell how much a couple loves each other based on how they fight. Disagreements are bound to arise, even if you’re the sweetest couple on earth. The question is, do you still respect each other even when you’re both seeing red? Do you still empathize? Do you focus on negotiating a solution and refrain from making personal attacks? Even at the peak of your man’s anger, does he still care about your well-being? Does he still sacrifice his own comfort to take care of you? If the answer is always yes, his love for you is second to none.
4. You’re always open and honest – even at the worst of times.
Honesty is the only policy and he believes this and demonstrates this. He’s honest to a fault, you might say. Not in the sense that he insults you under the guise of being honest, no he’s too kind to do that. But he would rather speak the truth, even if it reflects poorly on himself, and even if it causes conflict in the relationship. He simply respects you too much to take advantage of you or hide the truth for his own personal gain.
He’s also the kind of guy who expects honesty from you, as much as he speaks the truth himself. He would rather you tell him that you want to marry someone else, rather than “settle” for him and suffer through a loveless romance. An honest man is a strong man and worth his weight in gold.
5. What makes him happy? Making YOU happy!
Imagine a man so hopelessly and madly in love with you that his happiness is literally your happiness. He works hard to please you. You are the reward at the end of his day. It’s not just about sex or marital duties…it’s about the genuine desire he has to make you smile. That is a man you don’t meet very often in life, someone who loves you that much. He is happy simply making sure you’re happy. Building a family with you, even if it’s just the two of you, is what he wants the most.
This doesn’t stop him from seeking his own career and his other hobbies. He is a strong and independent guy. But you enhance his life. You bring him joy and help him to be a better person, inside and out. What a catch!
As you can see, the real issue is how much he loves you and how hard he works for your happiness – more vigorously than any other man. Most men will fail these tests, if they just like you, or just find you attractive. However, the true love of your life will still be there. He will be your forever partner and you can feel it in your heart. That’s what you’re waiting for! If you’ve found it, let nothing hold you back from falling in love.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
And how to attract the man you want…
Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…
No matter how painful things have been in your past…
You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…
Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…
If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
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