Maybe it’s a little funny to hear a guy say it, but: “Why are men so obsessed with sex?”

Sure, I’m going to come out and say it! Sex is great…but is it such a big deal as we all tend to make it? No way. If anything, sex is so good because it’s mentally arousing and seductive. But sex is just a basic human activity, like eating, like sleeping. So while sex is a physical and emotional “need”, it’s not actually the end of the world scenario we all think it is most of the time.

People have bad sex. People have awkward sex. People have headaches and decide not to have any sex at all that night. It happens and in normal human life (no, not porn, but in reality!) life goes on despite blue balls.

There, now that’s some common sense we can all agree on. Now that said, let’s talk about why sex is so good and what makes it good.

It’s all about emotional connection. That’s what makes sex amazing. That’s what makes people fall in love. That’s what first attracts people to each other. In fact, emotional connection and emotional intimacy are so good, they can even help celibate people fall deeply in love.

The challenge is to expand our minds beyond just the craving for sex and explore new areas for deep emotional connection. For instance, here are eight creative ways to bond emotionally and connect on a deeper level – as good as sex, or maybe even better!

1. Eye Gazing

This is common in Tantric practice. Gazing into each other’s eyes, not momentarily but for minutes on end, can cause a strong emotional reaction after a while. At first, you stare. Then it feels uncomfortable. Then you might laugh. But the longer you keep looking into each other’s eyes, the more profound the emotional experience. Some couples say that they really explore each other’s soul, even the deepest and darkest parts when they eye-gaze.

2. Writing love letters

Love letters, or even naughty sex letters, are a great way to bond when sexual intimacy isn’t immediately possible. If you’re separated by distance or limited in physical capability, then exercise your imagination. Go into great detail with your fantasies, your most intimate thoughts. Talk about your feelings, your memories, and what you appreciate most about your partner.

3. Cuddle to the extreme!

Everyone cuddles a little bit throughout the day. But why not make an entire evening of it? Actually, the clinical practice of “sensate focus”, often used in sex therapy, involves couples learning each other’s bodies. Rather than doing anything sexual, they simply explore each other sensually – enjoying the physical touch, the pure experience of simply being with their partner. Touching each other through clothes, then naked. Sometimes they hold each other. Sometimes it’s a back rub or a light massage. Sometimes it’s just the thrill of running your fingers down your partner’s body, a full-body touch. This can be just as intimate and exciting as sex!

4. Try something new and out of your comfort zone!

Relax, we’re not talking about anything kinky. In fact, you can experiment with all sorts of normal and cutesy things and still experience a deeper connection with your partner. For example, take a class on a new subject together. Or start a new hobby together. Go do something together that seems like completely opposite of what you normally do. The fun and discovery of new experiences, reacting to it, discussing it, laughing about it, can help you bond.

5. Play truth or dare.

That’s right, like you’re twelve years old again! It’s a lot of fun to play harmless Q&A games with your partner – even if you think you know him! If you’re used to each other and know your man’s secrets by now, dig a little deeper. Ask him about fantasies. Ask him about forgotten ambitions or memories he still thinks about. Ask him some truth questions that he might not even know. Just make a rule…no holding back secrets and no getting mad at the answers!

6. Learn to dance.

Dancing or even singing and dancing (not at the same time, like the weird Cats movie reboot, but separately!) is a great way to be emotive and intimate while also having fun. Sing to each other. Then dance a slow dance. Then have fun with a Tango or Salsa. If you don’t know how to dance then take a class on it or watch an internet video together. This is a way of experiencing deep and intimate emotions without the need for sex.

7. Adopt a pet.

Lastly, let’s say that raising a child is out of the question, or a long time in your past. No worries…why not adopt a pet and rediscover the joy of co-parenting a furry, feathery or scaley little friend? Adopting a pet lets you feel emotionally connected while you’re having fun. And hey, people live longer when they have a pet to love. Why not embrace the chance to enjoy a new adventure together?

8. Play a board game.

It might not be as much fun as truth or dare, but when you’re all out of questions, let the cards guide you. Play a game like Cranium, or Trivial Pursuit, or even the parody game Cards Against Humanity. It’s a nice way to make each other laugh and make each other come up with some creative ideas!

In conclusion, remember that sexual desire fluctuates. As we get older, our sex drives tend to gradually lessen. Not stop, I don’t believe it ever “stops”. But sex becomes more centered around comfort, the more our bodies change, the more hormones change, and the more our unique circumstances change in life. It’s not just about mad passion then.

But that’s how some people are able to stay emotionally connected and romantically bonded – and yes, even sexually active – by exploring other ways of being intimate with someone they love. Some people have had to endure challenges like prostate cancer, breast cancer, and other medical challenges. Even if a person has to endure a great physical hardship like that, there’s never any reason to give up on emotional connection, on sex, and on a romance that lasts forever.

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

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