Happiness is as much cultural as it is personal. Sometimes we let society determine how happy we are…and that’s a shame, honestly.
Because some people will never be happy. Some political movements, some groups out there, seem to thrive when their followers are unhappy. And so when you’re constantly around people who are angry, or miserable, or depressive, then those feelings start to rub off on you.
It might even come to the point where you’re so beaten down by a depressed society, that you can’t even recognize a good thing when you have it – namely a good, healthy relationship.
I know a lot of people worry about this sort of thing.
“Am I really happy?”
“If I broke up with my boyfriend, would I regret it a day later? A month or even a year later?”
Is love really about “finding a better deal” or is it something else?
It’s really all about happiness and healthiness.
That’s why we’re going to review seven signs you’re in a healthy relationship. By examining these criteria you will instantly know whether you’ve found real love or are just settling for an OK relationship. Here we go!
1. He believes in you AND supports you.
Your guy is your biggest fan, your sidekick, your vice president so to speak. Anything you think about doing, he’s there to help you accomplish it. He’s not threatened by your success. He’s not secretly sabotaging you. He’s not even jealous that you have to do your own thing and have your own independence. He encourages you to follow your dreams and that’s why he’s so easy to love!
2. You can always talk to him – no need to walk on eggshells!
Some men are impossible to talk to, but not your man. You can talk about anything without him freaking out. You can confess anything, you can internalize any thought process without the fear of upsetting him. He doesn’t want you upset or holding things back and so he always encourages you to speak your mind. Even if you have to give him bad news, or bring up a problem in the relationship, he doesn’t react violently or in conflict. He really tries to keep the peace. That’s a truly beautiful relationship.
3. You are happy on your own and happy with him.
It’s not an either-or sort of thing and you don’t have to compare being alone and being with him. The point is, you can be very happy doing your own thing, pursuing your own career and hobbies, and you’re just as happy to spend time with him. Couples that last have the ability to keep their independence as individuals, and yet come together for romance and friendship. That’s what makes it healthy – you are two strong people uniting as one team.
4. When you fight, you try to negotiate – not win.
Dysfunctional relationships explode because both partners are trying to “win” the argument. But there is no winner when you’re cutting each other down and trying to maintain the upper hand. All that results is heartbreak and the loss of respect. Of course disagreements and “fights are inevitable. But when you fight, can you both control your anger? Can you negotiate and try to find a productive way to put this argument behind you? Your goal should be both of you “winning” – finding a compromise, a solution to the issue, that makes you both happy.
5. It’s never about potential or a feeling – it’s about appreciating each other right now.
Couples that only see “potential” in each other will never be fully satisfied. Feelings come and go. What matters is not that your partner makes you “feel” – but that you truly appreciate who he is now and that his whole character makes you happy. Simply being around gives you joy and he feels the same way about you. Relationships built on promises never last. What truly makes a romance last is when you are each other’s safe place – you are each other’s comfort zone. You appreciate each other in the here and now and that’s all that matters.
6. You trust each other completely.
Honesty and trust are what bonds you together. You trust each other completely and so you avoid the traps that endanger most couples – like jealousy, like being self-centered, or making all the decisions on your own. There’s no need for secrets because you share everything, it’s part of the special intimacy you have together. You let things go because nothing is more important than taking care of your partner and making him happy – just as he has made you happy. You talk to each other first, not someone else, because you have that mutual trust.
7. You are still kind to each other even when you’re both fighting.
What better gauge of love is there than by being kind at the worst possible time? You may be upset about a certain issue, but that shouldn’t dampen the love that exists in your hearts. You still care about your partner, about his happiness, and his hurt feelings. This sincere caring allows both of you to say things like “I’m sorry”, and “please”, and “thank you.” These are not just signs of respect but signs of affection. It hurts you, to hurt your partner. But when you make up it warms your heart just as much as it pleases him.
As you can see, real love is about happiness and health – you bring out the best in each other! This positive effect on you is real love. And it doesn’t get better than this – it doesn’t get better than happy or healthy! That is the peak, that is what you’ve been searching for.
You’ve achieved something, you’ve earned something special. This love is something you’ve build and nurtured. If you still enjoy his company then you have found a love that will last forever.
On the other hand, breaking up with the guy and starting a new relationship (after you’ve found a great one) is a big risk. It won’t free you to meet your true love or destiny. It won’t bring a “better partner” to you. You’re the one who determines what you want and who your best partner is. When you find him, it’s truly a happy ending, isn’t it?
Always remember, being happy and healthy is the end goal of love.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…
I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…
When you click the link this link right here <<
I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
And how to attract the man you want…
Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…
No matter how painful things have been in your past…
You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…
Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…
If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…
