A friend of mine once gave a pearl of wisdom. He said, “Everyone thinks that a long-lasting marriage is about doing BIG. Sacrificing something big, something hurtful…or taking on huge responsibility, all in the name of love. But it’s not about the big things. It’s about the little things.”
So in the spirit of that wise counsel, I thought it would be helpful to create a list of 10 seemingly small things that make a relationship last a lifetime. As you will see, it’s not about what you give up or the amazing things you must do…but whether you love the other person enough to do the little things.
1. You always find time to touch each other.
This is not just about sex, but about romantic and affectionate touching. Being intimate and physical when your partner is happy, or sad, or when they just feel lonely and want to feel your presence. Finding the time to be physical is a demonstration of love. Think about taps, hugs, holding hands, and rubbing his shoulders. Let him know that you appreciate the same gestures, and give him examples of how you like to be touched – like foot rubs or kisses.
2. You enjoy being together when you’re doing little things.
You don’t just enjoy grand romantic gestures or intense emotional moments. It’s the little things that make you happy. Whether it’s watching your favorite show, discussing books or music, or enjoying conversation, you always enjoy each other’s company. You like each other so much, you can even do simple tasks together like dishes, laundry and cooking. That’s the sign of a strong relationship, inside and out.
3. You always laugh with each other.
A matching sense of humor is one of the best indicators of success in a relationship. Sometimes it’s important to make each other laugh during moments of intensive or harsh emotion. Don’t just crack jokes, especially at your partner’s expense. Try to make him laugh and feel good, laugh WITH him, get him to see the funny side of life. A compatible sense of humor, especially in distressing times, is endearing.
4. You always communicate with each other, even if you’re angry or upset.
You must be willing to share, interact and communicate with your partner – regardless of how angry either of you feels. The willingness to communicate shows trust, desire, and genuine caring. In contrast, relationships do slowly erode and die if there’s no communication. You literally grow apart.
5. You enjoy doing favors for each other.
You have so much respect for your partner that you don’t mind doing little things for him, nor does he mind doing things for you. Whether these are errands, or favors, or even little gestures of kindness (like cooking, or going out to get something at the store), you can always feel mutual love. It never feels like an obligation. You never scoff at the idea of being kind. It’s not a gesture of “respect” – but one of love.
6. You express your love and admiration for each other.
You not only say “I love you”, but you feel it. You feel compelled to express how you feel because it makes you both feel good. It’s not about obligation, but a real feeling of appreciation and admiration – their good qualities, their character. This is the kind of sentiment you can’t fake. When you love someone forever, you truly admire him!
7. You enjoy experimenting together.
Couples that go the distance will never have to feel stuck in a routine. The truth is you love each other enough to want to experiment, want to grow, want to change, and evolve through the years. You might find out you have new likes and hobbies every few years. Change is good. What doesn’t have to change is that you want each other, you need each other, you love each other – and a little bit more every year, even though change is inevitable.
8. You both respect each other’s boundaries.
When you love each other, you show deep respect for each other’s boundaries because trust is everything. Respecting your partner’s boundaries (not pushing them or poking them where they are sensitive) and privacy shows love. The true defining characteristic of a dysfunctional relationship is, of course, always pushing each other and escalating conflict.
9. You are dedicated to making each other happy – you’re a team!
You really enjoy making people happy! You like to take turns giving because bringing your partner happiness makes you happy. You’re a united team, not competitors.
10. You encourage each other’s independence.
Finally, as far as jealousy goes, it’s all about trust. You TRUST your partner. You have faith in him. You’re not afraid of him leaving you because you know you’ve done everything you can to make him happy. You do it better than anyone else for that matter, because you know him so well. That’s why you encourage him to be independent. Let him have his privacy, his alone time, his freedom to go wherever he wants. In the end, two partners in love, who go the distance, will encourage each other to be independent, successful and happy. Keeping your partner bound in a “relationship” is not your priority. Making sure he’s happy is the goal – that’s what keeps him coming back to you now and forever.
That’s the point. Rather than think of a forever relationship as an impossible milestone, a test or an obligation that you have to sacrifice for or die for…instead, it’s time to start thinking of it as a day-by-day lifestyle choice. Do you love your partner, your man, enough to do the little things that make him happy?
If you do, he will return the favor to you. He will bend over backward to make you happy. He will be happy to chase you, to try to impress you, and to protect you. And at the end of your lives, you’ll be able to say, “A great marriage was all about the little things. Love was in the details.”
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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