What does it mean when a guy says, “Yada yada yada yada, don’t you think, baby?”
Well, that depends. If you’re boyfriend and girlfriend and he uses the word “baby” that’s definitely a good thing. That means he likes you, he feels close to you, and he’s claiming you so to speak. If you love him then you might call him baby too. It’s sweet! There’s actually a number of other names you can call him and you can check them out elsewhere on another blog I wrote on cute nicknames.
But what if you’re not together? And he’s still using the term “baby”? Is that normal?
Well let’s consider two scenarios. (1) You have sex (or kiss passionately) and then he calls you “baby”. Or (2) you’re just casually dating and out of the blue he calls you “baby.”
“Hey Baby!” After Sex
After sex (or at least kissing and making out), naturally, a man feels inclined to express the closeness he feels towards you. He wants to reassure you how he feels and hopes you feel the same way.
The best case scenario is that he is ready to take the relationship to the next level, maybe exclusive dating, or if you’ve been together a few times, asking you to be his girlfriend. He’s not necessarily rushing you since sex is a big deal and “baby” simply communicates desire and protectiveness. He wants you to be his girl and that one word conveys passion.
It might even be a shy guy’s way of expressing his feelings without risking complete rejection. Think of it as a less daunting way of saying “I love you” or “I really like you.” Baby is easier to say and very subtle.
It’s also possible that he’s falling in love with you fast – especially if he does it in front of his family or friends. This is a definite “claiming” signal, and he wants to feel like he can brag about you. Also, bear in mind sometimes instead of using the word baby he might use a nickname like Boo, My Girl, or something else goofy. Something that implies you’re a couple.
Another unlikely but still possible scenario: he forgot your name! It’s possible…some guys literally will forget a woman’s name, especially if your introduction was short and you mostly danced the night away. “Baby” is a word that can replace your personal name without the embarrassment of asking, “I’m sorry what was your name again?” (Woman who I just had mad sex with?) So you can see why this is an awkward scenario and hopefully not what’s going on with your guy friend!
“Hey Baby!” On a Date
Guys that use “baby” before kissing, making out or sex are really pushing their luck. In this scenario, he is trying to push for intimacy before he’s actually earned it. He might have asked you out on a date but feels entitled to say “baby” as if you’re already a woman who desires him and who wants to be his sugar doll that he can hug, protect, and pamper with attention.
The question is why? Is he calling you baby because he’s feeling smitten and he just likes to express what he feels? Maybe.
Then again, since he hardly knows you beyond physical appearance at this point, it’s also very possible he just wants sex and figures buttering you up with flattery will end the evening on a sexy note. Sometimes this tactic works. The woman thinks, “Wow he really is into me. Maybe there is a connection happening here…” When in fact, she’s just getting played by an experienced charmer.
He might use the defense that he “really likes you” or is serious about this relationship, but again, isn’t it too soon to fall for you? That either means he’s playing you or he’s a little bit too eager to commit, which could imply something isn’t right in his personal life. Beginning a new relationship is an investment and involves a major life change. It’s something every thinking person takes seriously – not only because they value their own life and independence, but also because they have to think of the happiness of the other person.
A man who has no problem jumping into a relationship, without any thought to consequences, could be emotionally volatile. As a pattern, players will either keep complimenting you OR keep teasing you until they force an emotional reaction. The problem is they’re not very interested in testing your compatibility or having good conversation. They’re not trying to connect, just to “affect”. If you’re looking for a serious relationship, this kind of guy is obviously a dead-end.
“Hey Baby!” and No Date
Finally, there is definitely an air of desperation to a guy who says “hey baby” before you’re even introduced. Whether he sees you walking down the street or feels entitled to say “baby” after he invites himself to sit down next to you, he’s really crossing over into delusional territory.
It reminds me of the old Beavis and Butt-Head cartoon, actually. When Butt-Head saw an attractive girl his only pickup line (ever) was “Hey Baby.” Not attractive. So if a guy does this, you have to wonder why he’s wallowing in destitution and can think of literally nothing else to say.
In closing, “baby” is a wonderful world. But intimacy has to be earned. And before there can be intimacy (even sexual intimacy, apart from love) there must be respect and a degree of trust. If a man seems to lack either of these qualities, ask yourself if he’s really trying? Does he know you? Is this even about you and fulfilling your needs or is it all about him?
Remember if you want to get a man to chase you, you must always project high value – someone that’s worth full attention, worth his best effort. That’s what makes him feel attraction and actually helps him to see later on that he likes you, a real woman, more than the average “girl”. Keep these things in mind and don’t let him get away with “baby” unless he means it!
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