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How to Tell You're the Only One for Him

How to Tell You’re the Only One for Him

How do you know if a guy is falling for you? It is a bit of a trick question because on one hand, guys are usually friendly and sometimes flirty, even though they’re not serious about a relationship.

On the other hand, some guys are really only interested in sex and as soon as that happens, they quickly move on, figuring what happened was a one night stand.

So what you’re actually looking for are signs that the guy is falling for you, and that you’re the ONLY girl he wants for a serious long-term relationship, the jackpot!

That’s not always easy because in order for a guy to really fall in love with you, you can’t simply be a “girl at the right place and at the right time.” Or, a girl he wants to marry because he’s lonely or because he’s tired of the dating game.

No, that moment when he truly falls in love is when he meets a woman that is unique—and one far superior to all the other single women out there. He’s not simply in lust. He’s not only fascinated by her mystery and her sexy personality. He’s head over heels in love with her because he knows she is the only one for him, she is his perfect match.

What I’m going to show you in this article is how to identify the signs that show you how he really feels about you. In other words, these are the “falling in love” behaviors that he can’t fake very well. He can’t control them. His heart sings for you in everything he says and does because you’re his everything in life!

Here are seven signs that point conclusively to a happily ever after…

1. He doesn’t want to change you. You’re perfect just the way you are.

Men who like you may see your potential. But a man who really loves you is in awe of your character, the person you are right now. He accepts you for who you are and doesn’t feel the need to “fix” your flaws. He loves you for your good qualities and can live with any flaws you have, because he knows your heart is in the right place.

2. He’s not interested in other women.

When a man is in “like” with you he is very easily tempted by another offer. He may be looking for more sexual partners or just open to the possibility of loving someone else. But when you date a man as a, what I like to call “high-value woman”, you are letting him know that if he wants you, he has to devote all his time and energy into dating YOU and you only. If you play your cards right this strategy works. He will not be interested in other women because they will not be nearly as fascinating as you are. You will be everything he wants sexually, emotionally and intellectually. There’s no temptation because no one else measures up!

3. He’s eager to tell you all of his secrets.

A man’s greatest joy is confessing his true feelings to someone he trusts. When he falls in love with you, and only you, his greatest wish is to tell you everything. It’s a wonderful feeling of catharsis, unleashing his most intimate thoughts. It’s a turn on for the both of you and a showing of absolute trust. He’ll tell you about past relationships, his family, his childhood memories, and even his kinkiest fantasies. This is the stuff a shallow man will usually not confess to someone he doesn’t know.

4. He provides for you without complaint. He loves making you happy!

A man who has truly fallen for you will always be willing to work for your approval. He will provide for you, do favors for you and do anything to help make you feel comfortable in his presence. This is something most shallow men will never do, because their whole philosophy is “flirt a lot but don’t invest the time.”

A man who always goes out of his way to make you happy is a man who’s working hard to show you (and prove to himself) that you’re the only one he wants.

5. He asks you questions all the time because he wants to bond with you.

Guys that aren’t interested in a relationship will just want the basics. He will start to get freaked out if you tell him too much information. In contrast, the man who’s falling in love with you can never hear enough. He loves your stories, loves your words of wisdom, and just loves your voice in general. He not only listens but remembers that information that you share in later conversations. He asks for more details because he wants to know everything about you!

6. He wants to talk about the future…and he dreads not having you in his life.

Not only does he want to talk about the future, he also gets really edgy whenever the topic of change or moving on comes up. He’s already imagining a future with you and can’t fathom a life without you. He wants to build his world around this relationship and so talking about the future thrills him.

7. Conversations get dark…but then lighten up again.

Men who are shallow avoid heavy conversations, whether that’s discussing past traumas, or problems in the relationship, or other “negative associations.” If a guy wants to get laid, he’ll always stay positive right? But a guy who really wants a relationship will discuss EVERYTHING with you, even if it’s an uncomfortable or painful conversation. The reason being, he wants complete honesty. He doesn’t want to hold back. He wants to make sure you know him, the “real him”, the real face he never shows to rest of the world.

And after you have that chat and you both honestly express yourself, he returns to his happy face, relieved that you could talk things over and that you both still love each other.

You can always tell if you’re the “only one for him” by how happy you make him and by his increasing level of intimacy and honesty. Having a strong emotional connection with a man takes time to build and regular maintenance to keep alive. Keep that intimacy going strong by talking every day and pouring your feelings out to each other. That’s the bond between two lovers that lasts a lifetime.

The secret men desperately crave yet rarely receive

Has a man you were seeing ever sent you mixed signals?

Like one minute he’s really hot and into you and the next minute he’s cold and you’re not even sure what to do about it?

The truth is that there’s one way to connect with a man like this that will make him “switch gears” and start loving you the way you want him to…

And it’s something that he rarely receives yet desperately craves.

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If you can connect with him in this way…

Gain total control over his desire, his body, and make him have eyes for you and only you…

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Talk soon,

Matthew Coast

P.S. Only use this is you want to make it so that he can’t get you out of his mind…

You’ll be all he thinks about even when you’re nowhere near him…

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25 thoughts on “How to Tell You’re the Only One for Him”

  1. I met a friend on line by chance he found me in we’ve got to know each other in fell in love with each other.in the things he says let’s me know he loves me in really wants to be with me.he says I wish I met you long time ago.you are the women I been looking for my whole life.in he says your the only women that gets me in understands me the best.in he says I love you with all my heart in I’d die so you can live.hes so sweet.in he always wants me smile in be happy.

    1. My bf doesn’t interact with any of his family at all and yet he lives with his grandfather and has dinner every Sunday and Thursday with him, his mom and uncle but he doesn’t even sit with them, he goes upstairs to his room to eat. I’ve asked him multiple times to come out with my family or come over for a family evening and when the time comes he doesn’t even mention a word of it. I’ve talked about the future of moving in together and maybe having a child and he said we could move in together but wait for the baby for a while, then never mentioned it again. I don’t work weekends and asked him if he can get some Saturdays off so we can go to the beach and stuff for summer and then he comments that he can get a Saturday off but will have to work the Sunday or work every second weekend. Whenever we have time to spend together it’s always on a Saturday late night and it always has to be at his place, and he doesn’t ever seem to talk about going anywhere or doing anything but sit in his room. I do understand he never had his dad around and never grew up with his mom but am I crazy that he doesn’t seem to want a future with me? Also he doesn’t seem to want to hang out with me when I make plans with my son, and he also doesn’t have any kids, any suggestions from anyone for me?

  2. Hello Matthew,

    I love reading all your passages. I really would like you to help me out with something please. I have been seeing this one man exclusively for 11 months. We have had a couple of rocky moments yet we’ve survived them. He was in a 36 year marriage which ended due to issues with his ex-wife. He is family oriented and has a close connection with his family. I admire that about him. I know that in the beginning he was not particularly looking for a full-time relationship but we are exclusively monogamous. We are not actually discussing a forever relationship and he knows that is what my ultimate desire is. I so not pressure him with anything but he knows exactly how I feel. The physical is the most outstanding partner I have ever had. He is 67 and I am 65. He knows that no one else can satisfy him or even come close as I do. Please give me your take on this. I am in love with him and I know that he loves me. I can see a forever future with him and am just waiting for our one year mark to see if he is even considering taking this relationship to another level. Please advise.

    Jean

  3. Hi Mattew
    My Question is I feel in live with a man. We had amazing lovelife, and he wrote poems to me looking in to my eyes for 3 months. All the signs were there. He remembered every little details. And told me he loved spend time with me. Then 3 weeks ago he told me your so kind , but I have to move on. That I deserve better! Not him. He broke my heart and I miss him so much

  4. Im dating a shallow man i guess. I been seeing him for 7 months and I had it. He does never make time for us. Never met his grown children. He never been in my place and he already told me he wont marry me after asking me to move in w him. When my lease expired i ask him just to hear what he has to say, guess what he came up w an excuse that he didnt know if he wants to stay there or move in with one of his sons. To mske the story short i really believe hes just passing time. Well i am not going to waste my time with that kind of man.

  5. I met a man who I fell in love with. We have been texting for a long time I want to move closer to him. We are in a long term relationship but he hasnt vomexto see me. What should I do

  6. Dear Matthew
    I am not sure were to start. I have know this men for over 13 years . We do not see one other much may be 3years if more for the simply reason we live 240 miles away. We have phone sex which is great. I have like him seem.i was 30 years old and we still seem to have the spark between us. We talk on the phone. But how do I know if he likes me for me or for sex.

  7. Hi Matthew,

    Thank you for all of your insight and information, it’s really great stuff to know.
    My guy does all of these and more, he makes me feel like I’m the only one every single day. My only problem is he seems to forget conversations we’ve had time and time again. It has gotten to the point that now I’m starting to feel that everything he is telling me, showing me is for show, insincere, doesn’t really mean it. He’s only 57 years old so I don’t think it’s an actual memory issue, but how do I know?

    Very concerned!

    Thank you!

    Cindy

  8. Ann-Maria Alexander

    Ann Maria
    April 30, 2020
    Dear Matthew
    I am not sure were to start. I have know this men for over 13 years . We do not see one other much may be 3years if more for the simply reason we live 240 miles away. We have phone sex which is great. I have like him seem.i was 30 years old and we still seem to have the spark between us. We talk on the phone. But how do I know if he likes me for me or for sex.
    I wrote to you back in April and was hoping to received a reply back from you nothing so far. It look like he has gone cold on me we talk but it is not the same. please reply back HELP!

  9. Hello Matthew,
    I have been a little mixed up with an approach with this question. We have been dating over 2 years and while there are some areas in our relationship that have grown ( he is black I am white) new to us both as far as a serious relationship goes. I divorced my husband of 23 years 3 years ago. My man and I were having awesome sex in the beginning.. then after a year we started having sex less and less. Now we only have sex 1 time a month maybe. I express this to him and he makes it out like it’s mind over matter. He is 52 and I am 40…please give me some idea? There are so many things that are great about us but this is actually making me want to go do something otherwise.

  10. So I’m going through a divorce and meet this guy and give me his number so we get together and start seeing each other for 4 month and then he tells Mei have issues and he can’t help me but then he says I made him and his kids so happy and everything about me was sexy as hell to it over What Happen? Where did I go wrong again…. I’m thinking it’s me this days

  11. Dear Matthew,
    Started a conversation with a man on FB dating.
    It’s been 7 months.
    According to him he is a contractor off the coast of nova Scotia.and will be done end of November.
    We get along great text I g have pictures of each other. Talk on the phone but no video FaceTime.
    Things going good until he asked for money.
    I told him no.
    He has not asked me again.he I knows I mean no. Things got quite for several days.
    what should I do to keep this relationship alive? We are back to talking now.he needs to understand me.

    Thank you

  12. Dear Matthew,
    Me and my husband is on a separate ways now 31March our house will be on the market. Its him who change saying our married life has no direction and future anymore no more SPARK.And he cannot be a husband to me anymore.in almost 17months in a separate room I’m chasing him and we ended like this.
    We are devastated i still love him.
    He got a relationship with our single but old weekender.
    Since then even she’s out of our house he doesn’t accept a reconciliation i offered .
    Only clothes he wanted to save we abandoned and thrown away all our appliances. I’m sure he has a secured place to move maybe with that woman.
    We are still together in our house but as a housemate only. It hurts me .this is our 5fth year of marriage.
    Any help?

  13. Dear Matthew,
    I have been with a man for almost 5 years.
    He is very kind , loving person.
    We have never had any problems between us.
    The only issue is his mum. She doesn’t want me to be around him and think that all women are hookers and she told me several times that she will never allowed him to have a wife or partner.
    I am getting tired of this situation and despite he keeps calling me , texting me and wants to see me for some “ entertainment “, I don’t want to waste the rest of my life with a man “married “ to his mum .
    What do you think?

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