Tessa met her Taurus at a friend’s backyard barbecue in late May. He’d been flirting with half the yard all afternoon: the host’s sister, a woman from his gym, even the neighbor who came over to complain about the music.
So Tessa didn’t compete. She sat at the far end of the picnic table with a plate of grilled peaches, told a funny story about her disastrous pottery class, and laughed at her own ending. Twenty minutes later he’d pulled up a chair next to her. He stayed there until the citronella candles burned out.
That’s a Taurus man in one afternoon. He’s easy to catch the eye of and hard to hold. Plenty of women get his attention. Very few get his commitment.
Here’s the short answer. You attract a Taurus man by being calm, warm and sure of yourself, then letting him come to you at his own slow pace. He’s drawn to women who feel like quality and feel like peace. Push him and he digs in. Give him room and something good to look at, and he’ll walk toward you.
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What a Taurus Man Is Really Looking For
A Taurus man is born between April 20 and May 20. He’s an earth sign ruled by Venus, the planet of pleasure and beauty. That mix makes him grounded and a little bit of a hedonist at the same time. He wants a good life, and he works hard to build one.
He’s strong in the stubborn way, too. Once he’s made up his mind about something, you’d have better luck moving a parked truck with your bare hands. That’s where the bull image comes from. (Dwayne Johnson and David Beckham are both Taurus men, which tells you something about the energy.)
And he’s a natural flirt. Friendly, easy, a little showy. This trips women up. He’ll charm the barista and the woman at the next table and you, and it can mean almost nothing. The flirting is how he moves through the world. Commitment is rare, and he’s picky about it.
So the goal is simple. You’re trying to stand out as the woman he doesn’t flirt with casually. The one he wants to slow down and actually know. If you want to see what it looks like when he gets there, I laid out the signs in Does a Taurus Man Love You? 7 Signs He’s Falling.
6 Ways to Attract a Taurus Man
- Be quietly confident. Most women react to a man. They wait to see what he does, then adjust. A Taurus man notices the woman who doesn’t. She says what she thinks, kindly. She has standards and keeps them without making a speech about it. He’s confident himself, and he respects a woman who matches that energy without trying to out-shout him.
- Show him elegance over flash. Venus rules this man, so beauty matters to him. He likes classic and put together: a dress that fits well, clean nails, hair that smells good when you lean in. One nice detail done with care beats five trendy ones. He wants to feel like he’s with a woman who takes care of herself because she enjoys it.
- Enjoy the small pleasures out loud. This is the one most women miss. A Taurus man pays attention to scent, taste, texture and setting. If you’re at dinner, actually taste the food and tell him what you love about it. If you’re on a walk, stop for the view. He wants a partner who can slow down and savor things the way he does. A woman rushing through her salad to check her phone reads as a mismatch.
- Make your interest obvious. He’s not a subtle-signals guy. If you’re too cool, he’ll assume you’re not into it and go back to flirting with the room. A light touch on his arm while you laugh. Holding eye contact a second longer. Even asking him to grab a drink first. A woman who makes the first move doesn’t scare him. Most of the time, she takes a weight off his shoulders.
- Stay calm and level. Drama sends a Taurus man running for his couch. So does pressure. If you text him four times before he answers once, or ask where this is going on date two, he’ll go quiet and plant his feet. He wants a woman who’s patient, steady, and stubborn enough to love him through his own stubborn moods. Mind games don’t work on him either. He just leaves.
- Be loyal from the start. He may not be committed yet, but he’s watching how you handle the in-between. If you cancel on him to hang out with a guy friend, or leave him on read while you post stories all night, he files that away. Taurus is one of the most loyal signs in the zodiac. He’ll give loyalty to a woman who shows him she’s capable of it first.
What Turns a Taurus Man Off
Rushing him. It’s the top mistake by a mile. A Taurus man needs to feel like every step was his idea, taken at his speed. Lauren (a different client, from Denver) once sent her Taurus a long “so what are we?” text after three weeks. He replied “I like where this is going” and then went quiet for nine days. He still liked her. He just felt shoved.
Flakiness is a close second. He’s building a life, and he can’t build with someone whose plans change every Thursday.
He also cools off fast on women who seem careless with money or with things. You don’t need money for this. He likes someone who values what she has, whether that’s a good pair of boots or a friendship from middle school.
And crudeness. He loves pleasure, but he likes it with a little class around it. Sexy is great. Sloppy isn’t.
How to Tell It’s Working
When a Taurus man starts liking you, his flirting changes shape. With everyone else it stays light and jokey. With you it slows down. He asks real questions, and he remembers the answers two weeks later.
He’ll want to talk longer, in person, somewhere comfortable. He’ll invite you to the places he loves: his favorite taco spot, the hiking trail he’s done for ten years. And you’ll notice he stops looking around the room when you’re talking.
Give it time. Taurus warms slowly, but once he’s in, he falls hard, just like the bull. If you want to check where he is right now, read 6 Signs a Taurus Man Likes You, and when things start moving, Early Stages of Dating a Taurus Man will walk you through the next part.
Quick Answers About Taurus Men and Attraction
What kind of woman attracts a Taurus man? A calm, confident woman who enjoys life’s small pleasures and takes care of herself. He likes elegance and steadiness more than flash.
Should I make the first move on a Taurus man? Yes, gently. He often misses subtle hints, and he likes a woman who’s clear about her interest.
Why does a Taurus man flirt with everyone? Flirting is just how he’s social. Watch for the moment he slows down with you and starts asking real questions. That’s the difference.
How long does it take to attract a Taurus man? Attraction can be quick. Real interest usually builds over a few weeks of steady, easy time together.
What’s the fastest way to lose a Taurus man? Pushing him for commitment early, or bringing drama. Both make him dig in and pull back.
Related Reading
- Does a Taurus Man Love You? 7 Signs He’s Falling (Even If He Takes His Time)
- How to Get a Taurus Man to Chase You
- Early Stages of Dating a Taurus Man
- How to Make a Taurus Man Miss You
- See all our Zodiac Dating Guides »
Understanding Your Taurus Man
A Taurus man is steady, sensual and slow to choose. Be the calm, confident woman who enjoys the good things in life, and he’ll decide on his own that he wants more of you.
Still not sure where you stand with your Taurus man? My free quiz reads what he’s actually doing and gives you an answer in about a minute.
