Isn’t it an awful feeling when he doesn’t text back? Or even worse, when he starts to text back and maybe you see those little dot dot dots…but he never seems to finish his thought! Then he loses interest or just never sends the message. Well, I guess that’s more of a Facebook thing, but yeah we’ve all been there.
Now it’s true, that some text conversations just end naturally. And that’s fine. Not every conversation needs a final word. I am not a fan of “lol yeah right” or “That’s so weird, right?” They’re just kind of nothing words and phrases that exist only so you can officially end the conversation. I don’t really think they’re needed. I would advise you to, instead, think of a more interesting question the next day.
But what are you supposed to do if you send a pretty good statement or question and he doesn’t answer you? In that case, it’s possibly the conversation just didn’t interest him. Or maybe he simply forgot to answer you. It doesn’t mean he didn’t appreciate the question or the statement you sent. But other things came up.
Are you at risk of losing him? Maybe…and in that case, it’s better to rebound with a more interesting conversation rather than take offense. In that case, here are eight ideas for texts that are sure to get his attention – AND actually get him to miss you and regret not taking your messages more seriously.
Sound good? Let’s get to it!
1. “I have a question if you don’t mind answering. I need some advice.”
Guys love to play hero to a woman they like! If you want to get his attention, and he does have fun associations with you, he will be happy to be your go-to guy. Don’t ask him for a huge favor. Start small, by asking him for advice, expertise, or an opinion. Then, if he likes you, he will step up and volunteer to do more to help.
2. “You’ll never believe what happened. Today was an awesome day.”
Everyone loves good news! Enthusiasm and a fun spirit are contagious, even via texting. Even better, if you can show him proof of a great day. He will enjoy seeing you happy and have good associations of this day, and you, and how life is beautiful again.
3. “Just wanted to say that I hope your (EVENT) goes well. But I know it will.”
It seems like such a simple thing to say. But if a guy has talked about something going on in his life, then giving him words of encouragement and hope – and then following it up with a strong vote of confidence – will make him remember you, and miss you later on. He will start to associate you as a good friend, someone on his side, and someone who believes in him. That’s a great place to be!
4. “I heard about (EVENT). You know if you ever need someone to talk to, don’t think twice.
I’m all ears.”
While the “event” can be anything, the significant part of the text is the “I’ll be there for you.” Try to make it sound unique and personal. You want to invite him to confide in you, but you don’t want to come across too strong or pry information out of him. Instead, let him go at his own pace, but try to remind him that you’re always there to listen to whatever he has to say.
5. “I saw an ad today for (SUBJECT). And I thought of you! What got you into that, anyway?”
After tickling a guy’s hero complex, you can’t go wrong by buttering him up about his favorite subject. Most people love it when other people view them as an authority figure and someone knowledgeable about a subject. However,
6. “I saw this and thought of you. It seems like something you’d do!”
An easy way to start a conversation and give him an ego boost. Remember a detail he shared with you, such as a favorite subject, or a running joke, or a topic you covered in a previous conversation. Guys love it when you remember things…and share something that recalls the same feelings. For example, sharing a joke or a meme that reminds you of his sense of humor, or something funny he said.
7. “Would you be up for something ghoulish for Halloween?”
Guys love a mysterious woman. But you don’t have to be one of Sharon Stone’s femme fatale characters just to get a guy’s attention back. Even something innocent like inviting him to a mysterious but fun place, or surprising him with something unexpected is much appreciated.
The point is, if a guy is “bored” of you then he is anticipating a routine that never seems to change. Surprise him and break the routine. He will be intrigued.
8. “Wow, I just go through…and you’re right. You really do have it all figured out!”
Finally, if you really want to flirt with a guy and make him miss you, appeal to his ego by inviting him to share his interests and passions. We already covered asking for his expertise and letting him be a hero for you.
But what works even better is giving him a compliment. Not a compliment based on what he is, what he looks like, or what he’s done for work. Rather, his primary interest. His top goal in life. His wildest fantasies of success. The stuff most people probably laugh at him about, but that he takes seriously…and wants someone to believe in him.
Be that woman. The one who sees the EFFORT he puts forth (clue: the thing he talks about the most) and then compliment him on that. That’s the compliment he wants most, because no one else sees it. You do…and that’s the difference!
As you can see, part of the fun of texting is not taking things so seriously and just starting new conversations when the time is right. Rather than worry about saying the right thing or replying to every little word, concentrate more on communicating thoughts and feelings to him. Give him “incentive” to keep the text conversation going. It’s not about clever writing…it’s about showing him a good time and keeping him in that positive frame of mind.
Text him this to trigger his desire to chase you…
Did you know that you can trigger a man’s hormones through your text messages?
It’s true. How you communicate with a man can actually release different hormones in his body.
One of the most important ones is testosterone because that’s what makes him CHASE you, pursue you, and invest in you so that he gets “hooked” and desires something more with you.
Want to trigger this in your man?
P.S. You can actually trigger a “cocktail of emotions” inside a man that make him feel like he can’t get you out of his mind and even feel addicted to you, if you text him a certain way.