One of the most interesting questions that never actually gets answered very often is, āWhat is a guy thinking when he kisses you?ā
Women presume that heās thinking, āWow Iām kissing her!ā or maybe that heās zoning out completely as the blood rushes from his brain to uh, well, other places.
And of course if a woman asks her boyfriend āWhat are you thinking while we kiss?ā sheās probably going to get a very PC answer along the lines of āHow beautiful you are, my dear!ā
But letās get down to it. How about we ask some guys what they actually think about during that first, all-important kiss.
Is it all complimentary? Or do guys occasionally think weird or embarrassing things?
What a Guy is Thinking When He Kisses You
Letās consider 11 examples of what men think about while kissing the woman of their dreams and in the words of men themselves.
1. āI think, Wow she is so hot. I think how amazing it is to be kissing her, especially if itās spontaneous.ā
Of course, most men have the same initial thought, namely, this is great! If they feel attracted to you and then get a kiss, they are ecstatic. The longer heās been attracted to you, the more he passion he feels, especially if heās been thinking of making a move all night.
2. āI wonder if Iām I kissing her the right way? Does she like it? Should I be paying attention to signals during the kiss?ā
Panic is a fairly common reaction too, since every man wants the reputation of being a good kisser and yet during an intimate activity where communication is quieted, signals are confusing. One bad review can leave a guy in a funk.
3. āWell, I mostly feel all tingly and think, Wow she is a really good kisser!ā
Letās give credit where itās due! If you happen to be a good kisser, chances are thatās exactly what heās thinking. Itās fun to kiss you, you know what youāre doing and you know what you want. Thatās sexy and that certainly takes some pressure off him.
4. āIām like, Gee I hope I donāt have bad breath. Err, I hope she doesnāt either.”
Imperfect kisses happen and bad breath from a pungent dinner can certainly affect the overall kiss rating. Onions and garlic donāt always go well with sweet intimate moments under the stars.
5. āIām not used to kissing. So sometimes I think, What do I do with my hands? Should I tilt my head orā¦?ā
Kissing feels good but when your senses are elevated because of excitement, itās not unusual to think about miscellaneous details about where to put your hands, how to angle your face, and even what sounds your lips are making. He thinks the same thing! These self-aware thoughts are natural but the more you focus on the pleasure, the less intrusive they will be. Furthermore, it can boost your confidence to learn the top tips and tricks on how to kiss a guy.
6. āI really try to resist shoving my tongue down her throat. Iām very confused about how to use my tongue. Usually I wait for her to start French-kissing.ā
Some men are self-conscious about tongue, especially since weāve all read an article or two in Cosmo about too much tongue freaking women out. Men are aware of this and so they try to avoid being too wet, too sloppy or going in too deep during a passionate kiss.
7. āWhat the hell is that noise?ā
Hey, sometimes men are easily distracted by background noise and will notice if thereās a loud sound, a strange rumble or even an interesting quote from a nearby television. It doesnāt mean heās bored of the kiss, heās just an observant type of guy!
8. āI open my eyes and then this weird awkward thing happens where I wonder if sheās staring at me and I end up staring at her and then she catches me staring.ā
Donāt worry about eye contact during the kiss. The natural reaction is to close oneās eyes when two people kiss, but itās no big deal if you want to keep them open. Just try to avoid staring too long since that might be a little too Tantric for the first date.
9. āTo be honest, Iām mostly noticing where her breasts are and thinking, are we going to have sex?ā
Well, why donāt you tell us what you really think? But yeah, a lot of guys are actually fast-forwarding and wondering if youāre going to have sex. Because in that case, they need to know whether they should begin to neck, fondle, caress, or take you over to a bed, and so on. Itās not just the level of horny going onā¦there are some logistics involved in planning your first sex date. To avoid this awkward moment, try to kiss somewhere thatās not too private or secluded, since that raises anticipation in his mind.
10. āIn the back of my mind I think, Uh ohā¦what does this mean?ā
Sure, he enjoys it but heās wondering what this kiss meansā¦because letās face it, half the excitement of a new romance is what it āmeansā and how it will change your friendship forever. Does this mean youāre boyfriend and girlfriend? Was this an accident? What will you tell everybody? Those sorts of thoughts are common. Men do enjoy the scandal of a good kiss, especially when itās a bit of a surprise. So let them freak out a little bit.
11. āLetās do that again!ā
If the first kiss goes well, itās likely heās thinking āBoy, Iād sure like to try that againā or something along those lines. So if heās into it, indicated by positive body language and a smiling face (as opposed to that other look which looks like he just saw a ghost) then lean in slightly and offer to give him another taste.
Men are logical and visual creatures, so while they do feel the pleasure of a good kiss, they also think about the deeper meaning. There is such a thing as performance anxiety when it comes to kissing, so put some thought into your first kiss, the where, when and why of it all. Choosing a good āspontaneousā kiss location might make the experience even more memorable. As a side note, if a guy kisses you before he leaves, learn what that means here.
What does your kiss say to a man?
Can I tell you a secret that most people donāt know?
And the people who do know, donāt usually think much about itā¦
Here it isā¦
Kissing is a language.
And it communicates at a very primal level.
It can tell a manās mind to reach, hunger, and crave for more of your touchā¦
Or it can turn him off and dull his passion and excitement for you.
The question isā¦
What does your kiss say?
Talk soon,
Matthew Coast
P.S. If you want to learn how to capture a manās heart with your kissā¦
I will never forget my first kiss with Denny. I didn’t know him, never met him. I was watching a friendly volleyball match. Kibetzing and chastising. He started talking to me – nothing special. I turned to walk away and he kissed me. It was nice but soft. I liked it, so I kissed him back. He kissed me again, softly. I told him I had to get home. He said He would see me tomorrow. And did, everyday after.
Wow š®
My first kiss was amazing.keep thinking about the very first kiss and every time we meet I kiss him firstā¦
My first kiss made me nervous I pulled my head away than kissed him again than pulled away again jumped up and told him I had to go as I was leaving I was tripping over everything and talking so fast because I was so nervous .
Kisses DONT lie
I love the spontaneity of a first kiss with a man who you feel an attraction for and know the feeling is mutual. That spark, that dance, that light in his eyes as your lips are just about to meet for the first time. Itās such a rare and wonderful feeling.
When you find out heās a delicious kisser? What could be better?
Yes, the rest follows in due course for high value women and we are there for our man
I had been widowed for three years and didnāt know if I even knew how to kiss anyone other than my husband. That first kiss with my new man swept me off my feet and continues to do so every time he kisses me
Aww, thank you Debbie. You spoke directly to me. I too have been widowed for 3 years and am developing feelings for someone new to my life. I look forward to all our “firsts.”
He kissed me out the blue I was talking to him and it he just leaned in and kissed me he has been my crush for years i completely froze and then left the room like a fool
I met a man on Match and we are still dating casually now. I said we just needed to kiss within the first 7 seconds of meeting each other in person to get it out of the way. We did, it was amazing and kissing him is still one of my favorite things to do.
Our first kiss was amazing then a few months later he told me he actually hates kissing not just me every partner he’s been with I wish he had told me this in the beginning before I developed true feelings for him cause it would have been a deal breaker he also doesn’t like cuddles I’m so confused and lonely