It’s true – sometimes waiting a couple of days can change our feelings and perceptions about a person. What we feel in the moment, like after a first kiss or long makeout session, can seem a little distant later on.
If we have time to think stuff over we may realize that passion was interfering with our logical mindset.
That’s why it’s important to take note of what a man does in the days following that first kiss. He may show positive signs right after the kiss, but what about in the days following?
The best way to determine that the kiss was special to him is to look for the signs that he still remembers the experience vividly, and wants to see you again.
Signs the Kiss Meant Something to Him
Let’s consider some strong signs that the kiss was special and he is falling for you.
1. It felt slower than usual.
Fast and rough kisses are kind of hot, sure…but also suspicious for a first date. If he’s really in love with you, why rush things to a climactic finish? Why wouldn’t he savor the moment by slowing things down and just being there with you, in this epic memory?
In contrast, when a man slows down the kiss and you can tell he is smitten with you, it’s a wonderful feeling. He never wants this memory to end. He wants to remember you, this moment, this capsule in time.
Slow kisses are the best!
2. No alcohol or drugs!
Let’s be honest and admit that kisses resulting from alcohol or any other legal or illegal drugs are not THAT big of a deal. When your inhibitions are lowered, you take more chances. You might even do something uncharacteristic. So yeah, it’s more like a dare to kiss after a few drinks.
So if the kiss happens naturally, whether spontaneously or planned, you already get some bonus points for that. And yes, the guy is into you, if he took a real chance, if he worked up the courage to give you a moment of sincere emotion and passion. That’s truly something special that the two of you experienced.
3. You both got quiet after the kiss, and maybe a little giddy.
Don’t assume that getting quiet or feeling awkward with your partner is a bad thing. Usually, we don’t come up with snappy things to say or create cinematic banter worthy of a Rob Reiner film. The truth is real life is sometimes awkward.
But what matters is that you’re experiencing this rush of emotion and red blushing together! That’s what makes it fun, interesting, sexy, and romantic!
There is such a thing as “good quiet” and “bad quiet.” Bad quiet is marked by mismatched energy. He’s quiet and very low-key energy. You can tell by his facial expressions and posturing. Your high energy level falls, the more you realize he’s unhappy.
But good quiet means you match each other. You’re both giddy, self-conscious, feeling awkward, and most of all, very interested in kissing again!
4. He feels more connected with you – and protective of you!
When a guy is starting to fall for you after a kiss, he will become more attracted to you and much more giving. He will give more of his time, attention, and resources (even if this is just his knowledge or humor, not necessarily money) to show he’s serious about you.
He feels closer to you and wants a deeper connection. The kiss was the start of something amazing and the romance is just beginning. During this time he also becomes more protective of you, in essence, reminding everyone that the two of you are dating. He is proud to call you his partner and is certainly not shy about singing it to the world.
5. You actually don’t want to brag about it to anyone.
Funny thing about drunk kisses, while we’re on that subject. When a kiss means nothing to you, or when it was an accident, you usually tell your closest friends or relatives about it. You might even talk about it publicly, or on an appropriate forum, like Ask Reddit, but with the names hidden.
Point is, we learn from our mistakes, and it’s not a big deal to admit you kissed someone and that nothing became of it. (Or even a fling) It’s trivial, it’s just something interesting to share.
When you kiss someone you like, it’s actually more of a scandalous secret. You’re afraid of announcing it too soon. You’re afraid to come on too strong and scare him away, or maybe you don’t want to invest emotionally in something that could be iffy.
Worse yet, it actually hurts you to think that this kiss was nothing…that this amazing kiss was an accident and there’s no real chemistry with this guy.
Why? Because that means the kiss really did mean something! You sensed something special and he probably did too. The kiss was unexpected and amazing. The chemistry is actually so powerful that it changes the entire energy of the friendship. You treat each other differently and interact differently – this time with attraction and passion in the air.
When the kiss is special you really do feel it and it becomes your biggest secret – the one you want to protect until you know for sure.
6. He is eager to go out again.
Finally, let’s give credit to the guy who’s willing to be honest and speak his heart. If he is quick to tell you that the kiss was special, or that he really enjoyed your date, that’s a telling sign. Even if he’s too shy or cautious to say it outright, you can gauge how much he enjoyed it by how enthusiastic he is about the next date.
A man that wants to see you again, and who wants your attention after the first kiss, is definitely still feeling attraction.
In closing, don’t get too psyched out by the idea of a perfect kiss. There are always ways to improve your kissing technique, which I’ve blogged about before. But don’t assume that if your kiss is imperfect or you make a giggling mistake that it’s the end of a relationship.
A man who likes you is more interested in connecting with you and getting to know you than he is in experiencing perfection. Cherish the moment of discovery, not the fantasy.
What does your kiss say to a man?
Can I tell you a secret that most people don’t know?
And the people who do know, don’t usually think much about it…
Here it is…
Kissing is a language.
And it communicates at a very primal level.
It can tell a man’s mind to reach, hunger, and crave for more of your touch…
Or it can turn him off and dull his passion and excitement for you.
The question is…
What does your kiss say?
P.S. If you want to learn how to capture a man’s heart with your kiss…