The way I see it, there are a few types of women out there. There are women who just know when a guy is into them–I’m not sure what science is behind it, but they are skilled at picking up subtle hints and cues. They could be interacting only through social media, and they’d be excellent at knowing how to tell if a guy likes them over Snapchat or Instagram. So, they approach the guy, the guy confesses his feelings, and they live happily ever after.
Then, there are women that start developing feelings for a man but don’t act on them. They might start looking up tips on how to make a guy like them, they might drop a few hints here and there; maybe some time passes and the guy finally comes right out and admits his feelings.
There’s a common theme here–both these types of women are faced with men who have no problem approaching them or vocalizing their feelings. The only problem they then have to worry about is how to respond when a guy says he likes them.
But, what about the woman who just knows that a guy is into her but receives zero confirmation? The guy continues to drop subtle hints here and there but does nothing. And we’re not talking about shy guys–we are talking about the guy who says and does things that hint at his feelings, but nothing more. You know without a doubt that this guy is into you, so how in the world are you supposed to trick him into admitting he likes you?
Show Him He Can Trust You
Maybe you two haven’t known each other for a long time, or maybe you’ve known each other for a few months. Regardless of the length of time it has been, there is a different type of trust found in a relationship.
Focus on nurturing that trust–make him feel safe and comfortable in approaching you with his troubles and his secrets. With enough time, he’ll grow to trust you fully and know that sharing his feelings is safe.
Don’t Push Him
This goes without saying, but remember: everyone moves at their own pace. You know he likes you, and you have picked up on quite a few cues. Chances are, you’ve reciprocated those cues, so he knows that you probably feel the same–but don’t rush anything.
The last thing you want to do is to make him feel smothered into a corner. If you have already expressed your feelings to him, don’t pester him about where his head is at. There’s an unspoken conversation that has already taken place between you two, so let the rest unfold naturally.
Take Some Time Apart
Distance makes the heart grow fonder, right? Now, I’m not saying to make yourself unavailable, but know that it is okay to put some distance between the two of you.
Take some time for yourself. Respond to his texts less frequently. Be busy the next time he asks to hang out. The key takeaway here is not that you are trying to play a game, but that you are keeping yourself busy.
Remember that you are your own individual, with or without him. Focus on the things that make you happy and fulfilled, and give him some room to wonder what you are up to and to miss you. Then, watch what happens–you may be surprised!
