At some point in everyone’s life, they’ve been dumped. It could be as a result of serious issues, it could be related to why men pull away in the early stages of a relationship, or it could simply be the fact that the two of you weren’t meant to be more than friends. Whatever the case, I want you to know that it’s possible to handle it in stride. In this article, we’re going to talk about being dumped with dignity.
Look at the Big Picture
It’s easy to get down in the dumps and focus on the negative when a relationship ends, but why give him that satisfaction of ruining your life? Instead, look at the breakup as preparation for success in your future relationships. I have to admit that breakups do make things seem dark at times, but you’re stronger than you think.
It’s not uncommon to feel as if your whole world has come crashing down, but don’t get lost in the mire–dust yourself off and keep moving. Having relationships end is a part of life, and that fact shouldn’t keep you from happiness. It can be hard to learn how to get over someone you’ve loved for years, but it’s a skill we all need to develop.
Don’t Blame Yourself
Breakups are complicated and aren’t always a reflection of your personality. A breakup can be as a result of one person’s insecurities or the complex intersection of two lives. Don’t think too much about what could have been–instead, focus on improving yourself.
Finding the stability to be happy without another person will serve you for the rest of your life, and it will help you be ready when you happen to meet someone new–and better for you. Of course, it’s also important to keep in mind that being dumped can also help you identify qualities that you want or don’t want in your next partner.
Don’t Hold On to the Relationship
There are times when I’ve felt the need to hold on to a relationship even when I know things aren’t working. While it’s important to be optimistic, being real with yourself goes a long way. If he tells you that things aren’t working out, it’s time to cut your losses and move on. Truth be told, the breakup already happened and you may have been too invested to notice it.
Part Ways Amicably
A breakup doesn’t have to be messy. If you have a set of burning issues, you should consider processing them together before the two of you cut off communication. You should try to find out why it didn’t work out—this will be a good point of reference for both of you for future relationships. By identifying what you could have done better, you’re more likely to avoid the same mistakes in the future.
Being dumped is painful and it can seem like your world is falling apart–but you can always accept a breakup with grace and dignity. It’s also important to remember that if you’ve tried everything and can’t find your way past a breakup, many therapists are trained to discuss exactly these issues and can help you get your life back on track.
If you’re worried about the state of a relationship you’re currently in, check out my recent post on how to fix intimacy issues.
