It depends on the guy! Now I know there is a more complicated answer, which we will discuss soon. But the simple answer is that some guys will notice immediately if you stop texting them, and others will notice…eventually. Maybe months later, if it’s a guy who gets lots of text messages from women or his friends.
It’s possible that some guys will never notice you walked away, IF…
1. He never really remembered your name in the first place. (Owch)
2. He is some celebrity who even doesn’t check his DMs. (He’s kind of a jerk, you know)
3. He was heavily inebriated the last time you chatted. (Poor guy is probably embarrassed about that)
4. He is busy doing something else – or falling for someone else. (If he’s in love, he is very distracted!)
5. He only associated you with someone else, like your sister or BFF. (He never really thought of you apart from the “other”)
6. He has never liked you all that much. (Owch…but yeah, it happens)
7. You slept with him too soon, and all he really wanted was sex. (Whoops!)
8. If his life has drastically changed and he’s going through major issues. (If he is going through trauma, he is not himself…don’t take it so personally)
9. He has short-term memory problems. (Hey, it could happen!)
10. He is easily confused, and thinks you’re still texting him – but is actually talking to someone else. (Weirdly enough, this happened to a friend of mine)
In other words, a guy will probably only notice AND REACT (which is what you want) if there was some friendship and some romantic banter here and there.
I’m always confused and sympathetic when I hear a friend tell me:
“Well, he/she stopped messaging me just when I was starting a conversation. I just have never had the chance to talk one on one with my crush. There’s always someone else…or we’re always just missing each other, you know?”
I hate to say it, but in those cases, because there never was any real flirtation or romance or much of anything going on besides platonic chat, there’s very little chance you’re going to be remembered.
Or shall we say, fondly remembered.
Sure, guys will notice if that “one girl” stopped writing. But it will be a passing thought, probably based on a first impression that wasn’t very complimentary.
When we don’t click with someone, or shall we say, when we don’t really make an emotional connection, that person will shrug it off.
That guy might even be relieved that you stopped sending messages, IF he sensed you liked him and he did not like you.
You have to think of dating conversation as an ongoing story you’re helping to tell. Think of a book. If a book is long, boring, and nothing much happens in it, then you probably won’t finish reading it.
Well, the same is true of potential romances. They have to sizzle, they have to tell a story – the story of you meeting him and forming a special connection.
If you avoid “real talk”, and don’t communicate attraction, flirting, or at least desire, then don’t be surprised if the other person is just plain confused by your appearance. It’s kind of like a book that goes nowhere!
That’s why it’s very important to establish right away how you feel about him and how you want him to react to you.
You need to establish early on that you’re attracted to him and may respond to him, if he puts forth any effort. You want to avoid any silly platonic conversation that’s too awkward or not at all memorable. Because he may associate you with negative feelings.
But how do you do this without being too aggressive?
Here are some ways to communicate your attraction:
• Always maintain strong eye contact and a smile
• Embrace the “awkward tension” – don’t be afraid of it
• Project what you feel – attraction to him! (He can sense it!)
• Ask questions that keep the conversation going (It shows you want this to keep going)
• Pay attention to what he says and remember key points (He’ll be impressed you remember!)
• Do something nice for him – just a gesture, a tiny favor, or something cute that lets him know you’re thinking of him)
• Open up first – tell him something about your life (This lets him know you’re comfortable confiding in him)
• Give him the chance to confide in you, by being a good listener and showing interest in all the verbal clues he leaves behind, suggesting there’s more to the story)
• Flirt with him by innocent touching, compliments, or making him laugh
How to Tell the “Story” (that demands chapter 2!)
Once you establish a good rapport, it’s important to make every conversation thereafter feel meaningful. About something. Your ongoing conversation shouldn’t start to fall back and become safe, formal, or overly platonic.
Bond regularly. Ask stuff that only a close friend would ask. Show interest in his life, his hobbies, and his perspective. You can also
Conclusion
Does a guy notice when you stop texting? Yes, but the real issue, as we’ve discussed, is how he feels about you. Does he miss you? Did you make a good point – did you make him feel something and then stop texting?
If so, he will definitely notice that you’re missing. He may even feel jealous, insecure, or come to miss you. He will hurry to write you back or touch base somehow, wondering if the attraction still exists. Just by delaying your texts slightly, you can test how much he likes you.
But if you stop texting him and he doesn’t have those positive memories, then he has nothing to fall back on. He doesn’t sense the value or the loss.
That doesn’t mean, however, that it’s a lost cause, even if the guy hasn’t noticed you’re gone. You can still send him a message if you’d like – but this time, you want to try something different. Something that works! We will discuss this topic in a future article.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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