Men never “swipe left”, do they? Not if you take good pictures and are beautiful.
I know from experience, and from the words of many of my male friends, that guys DO “swipe” or “pass” or “ignore” based on what a woman’s profile actually says.
And that’s regardless of looks and regardless of how amazing your pictures look. Why?
Because like anyone, a pretty cool guy can be turned off with a single sentence. If he senses any negative vibes coming from your profile he may actually look for a reason to disqualify you so that he can be try his luck at a better match. Makes sense…the fewer matches he has, the more likely he will find a date that actually likes him. And the more successful and handsome the guy, the more likely he’s impatient when it comes to profile browsing. Maybe just as discriminating as you are with all the B-level Tinder wannabes.
The question is, what motivates a guy to pass? It may be in the pictures…or it may be in the words you choose. For one thing, guys want to see some real human emotion in your photos. If every picture looks like a professional modeling shoot, he may pass because he figures you’re shallow. (Or maybe because he thinks you’re out of his league)
More often though, a man passes because he is either bored of your profile text, or sees nothing special about you, or because something in your text offends him.
So take a little extra time when creating your profile and develop one that’s (A) friendly profile, (B) interesting profile, and (C) targeting the BEST of the best. You don’t build an average profile to attract just any man. You build an excellent profile to attract the RIGHT man. Here are four examples of good profiles that men CANNOT resist because they communicate something positive about you. Pay attention to how these profiles (volunteered, of course) evoke an emotional response.
1. The Funny Gal
You should probably know that I always manage to spill iced tea on myself despite my best intentions. If you aren’t horrified by that, I think you’ll enjoy hanging out with me. I am a “call it like I see it” kind of girl and I speak fluent sarcasm. I’m also not really big into charming guys or girls. I’m more of the “seduce you with my awkwardness” type of flirt. I love my job as a veterinarian because I get to save lives and pet puppies. Two of the best things ever! Play your cards right and maybe I’ll buy you a drink at my favorite local bar. Don’t be surprised if I randomly quote Labyrinth.
Guys LOVE girls who aren’t afraid to be funny. In fact, the only guys who don’t are those pretentious evil banker – CEO types who never laugh at anything! It’s OK to be a little funny, a little weird and a little outrageous. While it might scare away guys who have low intellect and or rigid expectations, it will actually attract guys that want to have fun, have a good conversation, and actually laugh and have fun on a date. In this profile, she not only shows she has a sense of humor (and gives a great 80s reference) but she also describes her job and shows her friendliness by suggesting she would be happy to buy the guy a drink, if they get along. This makes men feel at ease in approaching her. She’s not the angry, “impress me now!” type. Just a funny woman who’s confident in her ability to entertain herself and enjoy herself.
2. The Social Activist
I am an amateur of all trades! I am an aspiring chef, a would-be skateboarder and an attempted blogger. I just like to try everything once and always enjoy learning new things. If you can show me something new I and challenging that I haven’t tried, I look forward to hearing from you! I’m a part time nurse and am going to school for my MBA. In my spare time, when I’m not meeting interesting new people, I like doing charity work for the homeless. Maybe that sounds corny, but I have a story there and if you want to know the shocking tale of betrayal and revenge, just ask!
It’s no coincidence that successful men like successful women—and all the more so if they want to good for the world and help others. This shows, not only that you’re independent, but also that you’re altruistic. You have that special quality that most other women lack. At the same time, you notice the profile wasn’t overly pretentious. She admitted she has many hobbies and things she tries. She’s open-minded to new ideas. She just happens to like helping other people and stepping up to worthwhile challenges. This is a great approach to attracting other men who are community-minded and motivated to DO. The “story’ line is also good for getting responses from guys who are curious about her life.
3. The Brilliant Artist
“Some people never go crazy. What truly horrible lives they must lead.” -Charles Bukowski
I’m an extrovert that can’t help getting into trouble. Love going out to new clubs, dancing, singing, (karaoke anyone?) and meeting new friends. People who describe me say I’m spontaneous…hmmm! I guess I always am looking for something random and fun to do. Why be boring? I love to draw and sell some of my paintings in art galleries around town. I like to think of each painting as a piece of my soul, a glimpse into one moment of our time in history. Painting gives me a rush!
Notice in this profile she calls attention to several positives. She is outgoing. She likes to meet new people and go to new places. She’s “trouble” and spontaneous, which to a guy, means she’s not the usual boring date. She also talks about her talent and describes how it makes her feel. It gives guys a good opportunity to discuss these things—especially another talented guy who appreciates where she’s coming from.
4. The Friendly Stranger
About me…hmmm. I’m the type of person that would probably smile at you if we were passing each other in a store. I believe in being good to people. I really think it’s cool and so charmingly old school when a man holds open doors, puts his phone away and takes the time to actually listen. Love watching comedies, especially Will Ferrell and early Jim Carrey type stuff. Anyone remember Stranger Than Fiction? If yes, please send me a message because I think you’re awesome! You also get bonus points if you are into camping, have an awesome dog, or have some serious survival skills.
There’s always something reassuring about a nice and friendly woman—someone who enjoys talking to new people, even if they’re shy or hesitant at first. In this profile, she doesn’t call attention to her great talents. But she makes up for it in presenting herself as someone sensitive, kind, and someone who actually appreciates the efforts that men make to please her. She also gives a guy a few different openings, suggesting immediately what topics she enjoys discussing. She lists a variety of things she likes, which will attract more men to her. The more the merrier for this friendly face.
These profiles will get more responses from quality dates. Put your own personal spin into your profile to make it seem more natural. But again, focusing on the positives always works!
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