Have you ever been chatting with a guy online and things seem to be going well…but then he suddenly disappears from the face of the earth?

Or even worse, you actually go on a few dates, and you like him, but he eventually stops returning your calls, texts, and in-person dates.

They call this ghosting and sadly, a lot of people do resort to this.

Why? Because it’s not always easy to tell a person face to face, “I don’t think this is going to work out.”

We try to avoid conflict whenever possible, don’t we? And while the polite thing to do is to explain why it’s not going to work out with the other person, sometimes people just prefer to ghost and avoid that stressful conversation.

Rather than explain why ghosting is rude (because come on, people are not going to stop doing it!) let’s review eight reasons WHY guys do disappear on you and what they’re thinking process is like. This might help you to understand what’s going on and why guys seem to be ghosting lately.

1. He was worried about coronavirus.

Just to stay topical here. But yeah, a lot of guys are freaked out about a pandemic right now. Better yet, there’s a fairly good chance that a guy might simply ghost you for a miscellaneous reason that has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with bad timing. Remember you’re not always at fault when this happens.

2. He never felt challenged or intrigued by you.

But let’s be brutally honest and admit that sometimes guys are just not turned on by a woman intellectually and this usually causes him to drift away – even after an initially positive conversation. Don’t take this personally either. It’s not that you’re lacking anything…the conversation was simply not interesting or exciting enough to return to. Unfortunately, a lot of guys take first impressions too seriously. Sometimes women fall into the habit of letting the guy do all the talking. If she doesn’t give him anything back, he might lose interest.

3. His interest in you was purely sexual and he doesn’t want to confront you about that.

Even if guys won’t admit it, a lot of them are just cruising for sex – whether online or at the bar, or even just when they’re a friend of a friend. If he senses that this relationship isn’t going to be sexual – and again, he doesn’t feel an emotional connection, he might just lose interest altogether.

4. He’s afraid of being emotionally intimate or vulnerable with anyone – not just you.

Now let’s get down to it! If you know for a fact that this guy was into you and then he went cold fast, there is definitely a reason. Oftentimes it is because he feels the NEED to be intimate and vulnerable and yet is afraid of doing so. He’s afraid of confronting himself, his own needs and wants. He is either rebounding, recovering from some past trauma, or maybe he never LEARNED how to be intimate with someone emotionally. Whatever the case, he might just like you too much for his own comfort, as strange as that sounds.

5. He’s self-absorbed and literally doesn’t know of your existence.

Sometimes you really do dodge a bullet. Narcissistic and sociopathic personalities oftentimes ghost people, dump lovers, and betray their friends for no other reason than complete self-absorption. This type of guy (usually very charming and talkative at first) is only aware of people who can help him, serve him, or provide something for him. Don’t take it personally if he quickly finds out, you’re not a pushover.

6. You’re the one that changed. You stopped being self-confident and came across as needy or controlling.

Now it’s time to get personal. If you’ve been dating a guy a while and the ghosting is gradual, then it is possible he felt you were smothering him with too much attention. Some guys really do want their independence. That’s why they cant handle it, if a woman starts to plan out their lives, worry about them too much, or somehow limit their freedom. If you sense he’s backing away slowly, then back away too as soon as possible. Give him that space. Let him lead in the relationship so that he works for your attention and not the other way around.

7. The initial impression he had of you was different from the real you.

First impressions are sometimes dishonest. Sadly, they’re not always fair. But if he thought you were a different type of woman than you actually are, you can’t blame him for wanting something different. In the end, it’s better not to get mixed up with a guy who doesn’t want the “real you.” Don’t change and don’t try to fake it. You want someone who appreciates the reality of you, and not just a fantasy.

8. There was someone else.

Lastly, let’s be very honest and admit that sometimes love is not fair and it’s just too competitive for comfort. Sometimes it all comes down to choices. If he’s dating more than one person, he might like someone else better and that’s why he gives her more attention, eventually phasing out all the other options.

It sucks when this happens, but again, don’t settle on a guy who gives you anything less than his FULL attention. You don’t want a man that’s distracted by someone else, right? Let him go and look for better quality next time.

While it does hurt to be ghosted, it’s more important to think about the reasons why guys lose interest or back away. That way, you can avoid those behaviors and stop pushing men away just as they get interested. The best thing to do is not to tweet about it or yell at guys who do this admittedly childish behavior. The practical thing to do is to understand why they do it, what behavior brings it on, and how to deal with men in the future so that they don’t ghost. In fact, if you avoid off-putting behaviors and do your best to intrigue a man’s imagination, you’ll be the one who decides whether the date happens or not. Now you have the power of attraction on your side!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

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