When a man falls out of love, it usually doesn’t come as a surprise. Maybe you’ve sensed it for a while. You knew something was wrong. He has been acting differently around you and seems emotionally distant. Sometimes all that’s needed to confirm your feelings is the admission – to get him to say the words so it can be official.
Usually, however, a man who doesn’t love you anymore will tell you how he feels, well before he utters those terrible words. Men do communicate how they feel, even if they don’t admit their sensitivities and needs.
If you pay close attention to what a man says in passing and sense the tone of his voice, you might actually get a clear message of how he feels about you – and whether or not he still has love in his heart.
These 10 expressions are rarely ever said by a man who’s in love, or at least, is still holding on to some love that he once had.
- “Your problems are your problems. Not mine.”
The whole reason for a relationship in the first place is to become a part of each other’s lives. You adopt each other’s problems and find solutions as a team. Once he starts dividing his life from your life, you might as well be roommates because there is no team anymore. A bitter separation in mind has already occurred.
- “Go find another boyfriend.”
It’s very unusual for a couple to survive infidelity – especially if the guy just plain doesn’t care if you cheat on him, leave him, or are in love with someone else. That he has no jealousy at all, or even encourages you to go out and date other people, suggests he no longer feels connected to you. He might already have a girlfriend or is just hoping that you will leave him first.
- “I don’t trust you at all.”
If a man is so embittered that he actually admits he doesn’t trust you, that’s a sign that the love you once had has grown cold. The only reason he commits to you in the first place is because of trust and a bond that has grown over time. If he doesn’t trust you or feel safe in your presence, then there is no more intimacy. Perhaps he feels that he’s been violated emotionally. Or he might have a narcissistic personality. Whatever the case, a lack of trust means the relationship exists in name only.
- “We should take a break.”
Sorry, Rachel (random Friends reference if you’re paying attention!). The whole taking a “break” thing is never a good sign. It might not mean the end of a relationship necessarily, but it’s the predecessor of falling out of love. When you tell a person that you want the closeness, the bond that you once had, to temporarily halt, that sends a strong message.
If the guy says it, it usually means he feels suffocates and wants his independence back. It also means he probably wants to date other people and spend time alone. Simply put, taking a break is bad because the opposite of being together is being apart.
- “Maybe we should see other people.”
This is running along the same lines as the last item on our list, though the emphasis here is not on the relationship stalling, but on sex – with someone else. Kink and polyamorous lifestyles aside (that’s really not as common as you might have heard from modern TV) no one who feels satisfied with a relationship is looking to fool around with someone else. That means there is a breakdown in communication, a lack of sexual fulfillment, and very likely an emotional disconnect. If he pushes the issue, it’s very likely he’s making plans to meet his next girlfriend.
- “What I did today is none of your business.”
This is a harsh statement, even though it is good to have some independence. You both want to give each other freedom and encourage prosperity in your separate lives. But when he tells you that he doesn’t feel obligated to tell you anything, indicating that his life has nothing to do with yours anymore, that shows a lack of love and an emotional disconnect. This is all the more concerning if he used to tell you everything. Figuring out why he backed away and became so defensive is a must…though judging from his bitter tone, it might be too late.
- “Good luck with that.”
Wishing someone good luck is a nice thing to do, right? Unless of course your boyfriend or husband tells you that when you’re suffering, or need comfort, or are facing a crisis. A man who is no longer in love with you will literally not care about your well-being. He will put his own interests first and figure you should take care of your own problems. This is a far cry from the man he used to be – someone who wanted to fix your problems and take care of you.
- “I don’t know why I settled for you.”
This is almost the nastiest thing a man can say. It’s as if he’s taunting you that he never really loved you enough but took a chance…and made the wrong decision. It’s hard to imagine repairing a relationship after someone says you were never their first choice. If he says this, his heart is far removed from the relationship.
- “You’re ugly.” (Or any other demeaning insult related to weight, beauty or age)
Any kind of abuse, whether violent, verbal or emotional, is hard to fathom and difficult to forgive. Abuse is not just having an angry outburst. It involves hurtful actions or statements that slowly destroy a person’s self-esteem. Any violent partner that disguises his insults behind a spirit of “honesty” or fake concern is lying.
- “You don’t know what you’re doing.”
If your partner doesn’t believe in you – and more to the point doesn’t love you – he will have no problem telling you that your dreams are meaningless and impossible to achieve. He will call it honesty but the truth is, it’s a lack of love. A lack of moral support, a lack of faith from the man you thought understood you, is a sure sign that the relationship is over.
If a man has fallen out of love with you, it’s more than likely too late to save the relationship. If he has already gone a long time deriding you and taking you for granted, you probably already know this.
It’s time to end it and work on yourself, repairing the damage that has been done. If he ever wants you back, he will have to work twice as hard, to re-earn your trust. Meanwhile, you will have moved on and put the past behind you.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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