Do you think guys can always tell when a woman is into them? Sure they can. In fact, when a guy wonders if a woman is into him or not then the answer is usually “Mmmm, not so much!”
She may like a guy as a friend, but she doesn’t like-like him! Because if a woman is into a guy, and attracted to him, she shows it. It’s almost involuntary. Her behavior changes. Her gestures and body language change. And yes, she’s drawn to him emotionally and physically.
One of the things a woman will do when she feels attraction is touch a guy. Not in a creepy way but in an innocent way. If you have never done this consciously, then consider you might actually touch people unconsciously several times a day.
Training yourself to consciously and intentionally touch a guy is good practice for building better flirting skills and will also send a guy that distinct message: YES, I like you! Can’t you see that?
In this article, we’re going to talk about specific ways to use innocent touching gestures to convey a thought and stir up feelings. Let’s start by discussing the psychology of touch.
Survey Says: Yes, Touch the Guy (A Little Bit)
A new study confirmed what many already believed to be true – namely that men are more attracted to women who show physical interest in them, even on the first date.
In contrast, women lost interest in men who were overly physical too soon. But the study indicated that men place a higher value on behaviors that overtly demonstrate interest.
In short, men don’t like guessing games. Introverts or even ambiverts don’t tend to enjoy taking chances and asking a woman out if there are conflicting signals. Extroverts may thrive on conflict and challenge, but a lot of men will only move forward in the relationship if a woman gives them a reason.
She has to flirt, touch, and give him the signals so that he feels more confident making a move.
It’s All About the When and Why, More Than the How
Naturally, there is a right way to touch a guy. Not too much pressure, not too soft, but intentionally. Willing. With thought and emotion behind those touches!
Touches are easy to figure out, at least in terms of how skin feels touching another person’s skin, or their clothes.
But the when and the why are just as important as the how. Touching a stranger too soon sends a message of desperation, or at least a feeling of persuasion. Men might get turned off by a woman who’s too “easy.”
Touching him for too long sends an obvious message. Your intent should be to arouse his curiosity, as well as his senses. But if you just touch him for moments on end without letting go, it becomes awkward. It becomes a spectacle and it’s at this point where most men get intimidated.
On the other hand, giving just a tiny little tap on the hand or a quick “stove-touch” to the shoulder is usually not enough to get a man’s attention. He may even dismiss it as platonic touching, which a lot of good friends do from time to time.
Come on, don’t we all have a touchy-feely friend that’s not really “into us” but is sort of always getting handsy? Touching someone just for fun, or to get a rise out of someone, is just part of human nature. It’s what friends do. Sometimes even strangers might feel compelled to touch hands or a shoulder if there’s a shared opinion.
So romantic touching is more about finding the right moment and then giving that guy an emotional experience. Like close eye contact and a smile. Or even laughing and slapping his shoulder gleefully. (Even though that’s sometimes platonic)
The point is, what emotional experience are you giving him, along with that lingering touch, to drive home the point?
You want him always thinking “She is into me. Maybe I should ask her out. With the way she’s acting, she’s probably inclined to say yes!”
Other Signs of Touching Affection
Besides the platonic touch or rub, there are other physical gestures that can tell a man you’re into him. Breaking away from a group of friends is a great signal, showing you like him specifically. Even moving closer, within touching distance, can convey safety and curiosity. If he knows you feel comfortable in his presence, he is more inclined to speak honestly.
Finally, don’t underestimate the “signals” of a woman simply being kind to a man. Like laughing at his dumb jokes or weird observations. Buttering him up is kind of obvious, but if you really want the touch to matter – and to be seen as something more than just being polite – it’s best to make your intentions clear.
Give Signals and Make Sure He Gets Them!
In conclusion, don’t ever think that platonic touching is too far. Friendly touching simply means you like a person, you are drawn to that person. As long as they like you too, touching is okay, as long as it’s not invasive. But touching a person’s shoulder, arm, or hand simply shows positive feelings and lets the other person know you’re on friendly terms.
A lot of guys are confused about signals. Remember that older women, young girls, and even guy friends touch platonically. If he doesn’t feel comfortable around you, or if he doesn’t have the guts to be flirty and take a chance, then he might even look for a reason to dismiss simple touching.
As in, “Oh she’s just being nice.”
The real goal then is to show him, in subtle ways, that you’re not this nice to everybody.
When you touch a cross it’s the same touch as a platonic touch, but now fused with emotion, attraction, and of course, intriguing eye contact. More touching at the right time (meaning no over touching) is powerful!
Editor’s Note: This was written pre-coronavirus era, so please maintain social distancing from strangers for just a little while longer. Stay safe! Thanks.
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