Unless that guy gets about 200+ texts a day, or is a celebrity or something, then it’s very likely that he notices when you text him…and that he notices when you stop texting him.
Even if he seems busy, or chats with a large number of friends every week, he will still think about you whenever he happens to run across your name, or remembers a memory that involved you. It’s safe to assume that many of our friends, or even acquaintances think of us from time to time.
If you haven’t texted him in a while, then he’s probably thinking just that.
“Hmmm, I haven’t heard from her lately. I wonder why.”
He may start to think back to the last conversation you had, or may even look up your social media account just to make sure you’re still there and nothing unusual is going on.
But that’s when the real question comes up. What does he do when he realizes that you’re no longer texting him? After months of conversation, you abruptly stop. He notices the loss. He senses something has changed. But what?
What will he do now that it’s obvious the texting fun is over?
You know by now he senses you’ve given up. Or maybe you got bored, or maybe you just ran out of things to talk about. Now he’s left with the question of “What now?”
And the way he responds is important because this determines how he really feels about you.
Let’s consider some reactions he might have, depending on how he feels, and then how you might respond when the time is right.
1. He’s happy for you.
His first reaction, after he notices that you stopped talking or replying, is probably to think something positive. Like:
“Oh, she must be busy with her great life.”
“Cool, guess we talked it all out. She’s such a cool friend.”
“It was sure nice catching up with her. Anyway…”
As you can see, in all these instances, he DID notice that you stopped texting him. But he doesn’t attribute anything negative to it. He thinks you’re on good terms and everything is fine.
Of course, the fact that he isn’t having a strong emotional reaction right now suggests that he’s NOT that into you, and he just considers this a friendship.
Maybe that’s not the message you wanted to convey, but if he doesn’t respond and doesn’t do anything else strange, he has probably just moved on with his life. Sadly, he doesn’t seem to notice that you’re gone. Maybe he figures you’re busy with a new boyfriend. Good for you, or so he thinks.
2. He’s really upset and wants to talk out what happened.
Now this is a much more promising sign. If the guy starts getting nervous, angry, or emotional in any context, that means he is taking your non-responses very seriously. He is probably wondering if he upset you, or if you’re mad, or if you’re flirting with someone else…
Basically, if he reacts emotionally that means your “no contact” strategy worked. Now he’s intrigued by you and wants to start talking again. Now he wants to find out what changed.
3. He’s curious about what happened, but doesn’t want to ask.
Of course he noticed that you’re gone! But…if he doesn’t say anything and just continues ignoring you for months on end, it’s possible that he has just decided to let you go.
This does not mean that he is aloof or cold-hearted. There could be a number of reasons why he has decided not to pursue you. Maybe he’s dating someone else. Or maybe he thinks that the relationship between you is not going to work. Who knows, maybe he’s afraid of you or is afraid of surrendering to temptation because he loves you too much!
Or maybe it’s any number of “complicated” reasons why he doesn’t think it’s a good idea to hunt you down and demand closure. He may still have strong feelings for you! But maybe he can’t handle it right now. Maybe something awkward happened and he’s too embarrassed or confused about what to say to you. This happens more than we like to think!
4. He’s perfectly fine never speaking to you again(!)
Well, this might be the worst case scenario. Maybe he noticed you’re gone and it relieved…or happy to see you go. Maybe he really was angry at you. Or maybe there was something about you that he didn’t trust, or didn’t like, who knows?
The point is, he noticed, yeah he definitely noticed. And he might be stewing about it, thinking about how you treated him unfairly, and yada yada. Sometimes guys are vindictive and do hold grudges.
The point is, if he’s really that angry you DON’T want to talk to him right now at all. He needs time to get over this funk and really discover that he still misses you. Don’t force it. Just let him calm down and hopefully, you can become friends again when he’s ready.
5. He literally doesn’t notice…like at all.
This scenario isn’t necessarily bad, it’s just a fact. He “noticed” you stopped talking to him, sure…but you’re just not that big of a blip on his radar. He might have his own life to worry about. Maybe he figures you’re too busy for him, so he shrugs it off.
The point is, he’s not necessarily ignoring you – just indifferent. If you want to try again, feel free to reach out. Maybe all you need to rekindle something is a change of subject!
What Should You Do Next?
In conclusion, the final choice is yours. Think of this no contact break as an opportunity. It’s all up to you. You can choose to walk away entirely, determining that if he really loved you he WOULD try to reach out and become friends again.
If he’s not all that concerned, then it might be time to accept that you never really were anything beyond acquaintances. There was no real relationship. Sometimes flirting is mindless.
If you so choose, however, you can try again. You can reach out to him and try a new approach entirely – something different that might get his attention again. If the first approach didn’t turn out, try something else.
The choice is yours, whether you really like this guy and can forgive him for ignoring you, or if you can see problems in the relationship that you never quite saw before and might want to start looking elsewhere.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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